my best friend and my boyfriend came over to watch a movie last night and i went to go get some snack and when i came back my boy friend was making out with her. i lsapped him across the head and told them both to get out well now he wont talk to be and my best friend thinks i hate her even though i told her i dont like 1,000,000 times. I still love him and i dont want to lose my best friend or boyfriend over this.
2007-01-15 01:39:08 · 37 answers · asked by Keely M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well sounds to me that your best friend was to blame as much as he was if she didnt try to stop him... If you ask me you dont need either on of them cause if she would do that with him whos to say she wont with other guys your dating.. But if you want to keep them both you need to sit them down an find out why it happen an dont take no stupid answers like "i dont know it just did". or "cause she was here ".. you need to think about what has happen.. best of luck
2007-01-15 01:44:18 · answer #1 · answered by pruittsgurl_01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree that that statement seems sketchy. You should tell him and explain everything. Honesty is key. You may both decide to not be around this other person anymore... At least for awhile. And since the friend said he wouldn't tell your bf, don't get involved as a polyamorous relationship. It will get one of you hurt since he is already ok with hiding things. I've had experiences similar to this where I was in the shoes of your bf. It's a horrible feeling that will arise if he has to find out on his own. I felt betrayed... It's best to avoid that. I always say I will be less upset about something that happens if I am just told right after it happens. I bet he will find it more believable that you didn't kiss back if you are honest up front rather than trying to explain yourself a month from now.
2016-05-24 05:23:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he isn't yours anyway! If he cared about you like a partner, he could never have done what he did. That is horrible and to think they both gave you zero consideration. I personally would write them both off. He obviously doesn't care for you like you thought and your best friend isn't your best friend like you thought. Be strong, it's not always easy doing what's right, but move on. You deserve and will find a guy that is honest and faithful and a friend that truly will be a best friend to you. These two will only continue to hurt you until you make it stop. Don't you see what's going on here? They used you to get together. How sorry they are. I think they're perfect for one another. Smile, baby! The best is yet to come!
2007-01-15 01:51:48 · answer #3 · answered by enjoyrselves 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Losing both would make you happier in the long run. If you keep either or both you have to wonder when it will happen again with them or with the BF and another friend or your best friend and another BF.
Trust makes relationships and now there is none with these two. Move on.
2007-01-15 01:44:27 · answer #4 · answered by rcbricker33 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How can she be your best friend if she is agreeing to the make out session with a boy that is supposed to be your boy friend? And how can you want him back when you see he can't be left alone with the candy dish? And in your own home??
That's not love your feeling. It's fear of not having someone. You can do better than this.
2007-01-15 01:44:10 · answer #5 · answered by Blue 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
everygody makes mistakes. boyfriends are replaceable, friends aren't. they'll be the ones who'll help you to your feet when you're weak and frail, and support you for the best.
if he's the one ignoring YOU then it's either he's guilty, being a jerk or wallowing in self-pity. if you believe he's worth it then give it a try. tell him.ask him if you guys can start anew.
your best friend is guilty and it's understandable. give her time. be patient with her. i know you're the one hurting but your kindness and friendship are being tested by life.
don't forget each adversity in life is an opportunity in disguise. it has opened your eyes to reality, how terrible it is.. and how beautiful it can also be..
patience must be there where there lies hope.
2007-01-15 01:50:11 · answer #6 · answered by impasse 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand that you don't want to lose your friends over this. It's not that easy to make new friends and trust people. But it seems as if your "friends" right now are not very trustworthy anyway. Your friend is right for thinking that you hate her, because she did something very wrong. Don't spend time worrying about what you should consider your ex-friends. Focus on making new friends who care about you and are trustworthy. Although if may be difficult, IT'S WORTH IT!!!
2007-01-15 01:46:41 · answer #7 · answered by KB 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Umm, Reality check he kissed her right, I dont think you should stay with him. it shows he has no commitment to you if he's kissing other girls. and don't you think you should break-up with him before you find out that he's kissing another girl agian? wake-up and smell the coffee best-friends are forever and boy-friends are usally temperary don't lose a friend for some guy.......and tell your friend she better work real hard to get your trust back and stop kissing other peoples boyfriends.
2007-01-15 01:46:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of the two of them! Your boyfriend is no good and your bestfriend is a fake!!! They are both cheating on you inside your house! Look for another boyfriend and don't worry about losing a friend who betrayed you!!!
2007-01-15 01:47:45 · answer #9 · answered by brainyluscious 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow..... you're seriously thinking about forgiving them both for this. It's pretty ballsy on both their parts to be making out at your place.... it seems like they wanted you to catch them, so maybe this has been going on longer than you think. your best friend has a guilty conscience, that's why it's hard for her to believe you're not mad...... I'm willing to bet there has been alot more than just kissing between them..... dump the guy, and tell your bf to how mad you really are.
2007-01-15 01:48:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋