Is it normal to be HORRIFIED at the thought of having children?

Question

I just worry too much...
and im especially nervous after the momumental **** up my brother and sister in law made of raising their children.

Answer 1

you are a unique person. Any feelings you have about anything are valid for you. So if you are horrified at having children that is to you a normal response for you.
Ask yourself if you are a better person than your brother and sister in law which I'm sure you are otherwise this question would not arise. Believe in yourself.

Answer 2

Nothing wrong with that. I was horrified just thinking of children. Then a Dr told me i would never be able to have children and i was as happy as you can be. 9 months after hubby and i got married i had my first child. Must admit i am not a very maternal person but i now love my kids to pieces. But , if i had my life over i would not have children. Children is not the end-all and be-all of being alive. I know people who have one child after the other it has not made them very happy and the kids are not happy either.
Funnily enough none of my daughters wants kids , they don't particularly like children and yet kids are always drawn to them.
Don't let people make you feel guilty , it is your choice and if the thought of having kids makes you feel horrible then don't. Good luck and i wish you well.:)))

Answer 3

yes it is. It is the natural process. You have all the hormones playing a big part. Plus having children is a big step in life. Every expectant parent goes through this. (and will off and on until the baby is born). BREATH AND RELAX. EVERYTHING ALWAYS WORKS OUT FOR THE BEST, and when you are holding your baby for the first time you will KNOW IT'S ALL GOING OT BE OK!!!!

oh.....and don't have a smoke! That is the worst advice anyone can give a expectant mother. Smoking can lead to a lot of health problem for your baby. NOT WORTH IT!!!

Answer 4

It depends are you talking about the pain of actually having them? It's not that bad and when you have the baby you forget about how bad it was
If you are talking about bringing them into this world and being responsible for them that is scarry but if you have a little of this fear you will probably be a good parent as you are aware of the responsibilty. But if you are not ready to be a parent just wait. Some people know they don't want children and that is OK too. Good luck.

Answer 5

It is normal to be concerned about conceiving, carrying and delivering a child and then rearing the child to a positive, mature, confident, self-sufficient adult level. Yeah, there can be some 'horrific' thoughts in that. It is overwhelming when you think about your part in this new life and your responsibilty and accountability towards this child and the people that this child will effect. I think if more young women AND men thought about the degree of the essence of this life and their part in it, they might make sure they 1) abstain 2) use protection until they are ready for the enormous task.

Answer 6

I think if you're not a little scared, there would be a problem. Raising a child is a big responsibility. It takes lots of care, attention, and time. If you thought it was going to be easy and fun all the time and weren't worried, you would be in for a BIG surprise!

Answer 7

yes, especially if you have spent any time with them!

I am a mom to two who I love, but was so against having them when i was younger. They take a huge amount of work and effort for very little return. As parents we love them to death though and anything is worth it. When you don't have that bond- yet see how much they take out of parents its very easy to be horrified.

You are normal, so relax, having kids isn't for everyone.

Answer 8

I don't think it is particulary 'normal' but nor do I think it is abnormal!

You don't say how old you are, but I was quite adamant that I never wanted children until I was about 27. Another friend was 29. We both now have two each and it is the best thing I ever did!

Answer 9

Well I'm over 40 so I would be, but if you're in your 20's perhaps not so much, although I wouldn't want to bring kids into the world with the way it is now. I'm even hoping mine doesn't decide to have kids (because I'd worry) The world is not safe like it use to be. Our laws don't protect victims, they protect criminals, and our government is lax in protecting us.

Answer 10

I used to be scared to death at the thought of the birth process, but not exactly raising kids. So, not sure what you are referring to, but it's normal to have these feelings whether its one or the other. You may not be the type to ever have kids, and that's ok, we have enough people in the world as it is.