I have been seeing and dating someone for the last 4 month and base on her paste history she does not want to talk with my boyfriend and everytime I tell her that he is coming over she will leave the house now she does get attaction and plenty of it and she is 18 years old what should I do about this? I try talking to her and she know that I'm happy for a chance can someone help me.
Please without and additude. Thank you
2007-01-15 01:25:40 · 17 answers · asked by daughterpictures 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I dated someone in this same situation, she needs to grow up. You still need to live your life and she needs to respect that.
2007-01-15 02:01:23 · answer #1 · answered by William CURTIS 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing is that she is 18 and most 18 year old's have attitudes.
I'm assuming your boyfriend is close to your age? If not this could be part of her problem. Without more details I don't think you are going to find a good answer here. You don't say if you are divorced, or widowed, or never married, so we don't have any back ground to go on. If divorced how long? was it bitter? etc... You will need to ask your daughter to have a chat with you and really listen to what she has to say. Discuss it, but the final decision is yours. She is 18 and will soon be moving along with her life and you can't live you life around her totally! If she can she that you are happy and he treats you good then she will come around. good luck.
2007-01-15 09:39:34 · answer #2 · answered by whippitch 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 18 years old, your daughter is old enough to get over whatever issues she has about your dating a guy.
Don't let her interfere with your life this way. Your the mother, she is the daughter. She will either act her age and see your happiness or she will figure out how to make it work.
However, you might want to talk to your daughter and see if there is a real reason she is acting like this. Maybe she has some insight that you just haven't seen yet. Offer to have a REAL conversation with her and see if you can ease the tensions. If she doesn't have reasons.. then inform her that "Mom is happy".
2007-01-15 09:36:28 · answer #3 · answered by Angel A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try talking to her about it. Maybe she has a legitimate reason for not liking him. If not, then she is probably just weirded out by the idea of her mother dating someone. If that's the case, you can try to alleviate her fears by making sure to schedule time alone with just the two of you to go out, shopping or walks, or whatever the two of you like to do together.
Keep in mind that at 18 she will probably be moving out soon, and you and your boyfriend will have plenty of time together then. Always put your children first.
2007-01-15 09:32:25 · answer #4 · answered by Beth B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't force the situation. Sit and have a one on one talk with her and find out what she is afraid of. Explain to her how he makes u feel and that u are proud of her and want him to get to know u too because u are part of her life. There is a reason she feels this way u just have to find out what it is. She is at a difficult age and I am sure there will never be a true bond between the two of them, but at least they can gain a mutual respect for each other. Hopefully she can open up to u and u can calm her fears. Good luck to u.
2007-01-15 09:36:17 · answer #5 · answered by Amber 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its going to take some time....I would sit down and have a good talk with her. Make sure you spend a little more time with her (just you and her alone)...she's probably scared! Poor thing! I know what you're going through because my son was like that when I had first met my husband (then friend). My son knew I was happy and he got along with him...but he was so scared that he would keep his distance. You need to have a talk with her...just wait for the right time and I suggest he has a talk with her too.
2007-01-15 09:32:11 · answer #6 · answered by Sandy H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's tough. I don't want to say "your daughter is immature," but I'm sure that when she grows up a little she'll be more willing to accept your boyfriends. I used to hate the idea of my mom dating, and I'd be really nasty to her boyfriends, but now that I'm a little older I'm glad that she's dating and it makes me happy for her, so I'm more willing to tolerate her boyfriends. I'm close to her age, so I can definitely see where she's coming from in not wanting to see and meet your boyfriends. But I think a little maturity will take care of it.
2007-01-15 09:32:34 · answer #7 · answered by Julie K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit her down and have a serious conversation. Explain that everyone has dreams and wishes, but when u are adults, the dreams are different. Your dream is for everyone to be happy......* make a pause* including myself. I understand the fact that you dont like my boyfriend but please honey- just try to deal with it. You doing that and him staying my bf, will mean so much to me...
2007-01-15 09:32:38 · answer #8 · answered by Hershey's Kiss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is going to be hard for her to accept somone who is not her father going out with her mom. Just give her time and try to explain that you are so much happier than before.
2007-01-15 09:29:38 · answer #9 · answered by Mac H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She dose'nt like change. Wheres her dad ?? Its not easy for a young woman to adapt to changes to easily. She probably loves her dad and fells threatened by a new man in your life, Insecure if you like..
2007-01-15 09:31:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋