I sleep with several different girls, but I made it very clear to each of them that I don't want to be in a relationship, and that I have sex with other people. Two of the girls are friends with each other, but only one of them knows I am sleeping with the other one. Another girl, who I've slept with in the past, is friends with the 2 girls, and knows I am sleeping with both of them. She tells me I am an asshole for doing what I'm doing. But every girl involved knows that I sleep with other people, and is OK with it. Am I doing something wrong even though I am just telling them like it is? Would they rather me lie and tell them each that I love them and only them?
2007-01-15 01:13:31 · 21 answers · asked by white.devil 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow, If you are truley honest, then no, there is nothing wrong with it. Do you have it like that? Everyone wants to own you after they bed you? I want some!
2007-01-15 01:23:05 · answer #1 · answered by Pardonne Moi? 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are you insensitive? maybe! how did the one girl find out you are sleeping with her friend? Does she expect you to tell each and every girl you are sleeping with the names of all the others? This seems kind of out there. If she thinks you are an a** hole for doing this, then why is she sleeping with you? While you are young and not wanting to be in a long term relationship, then do it. Time will come when you are ready to settle down, you will know when. Just make sure you are protected and if you should have an accident and wind up fathering a child, take care of you responsibility's. until then enjoy life and don't spread round the girls names of the ones you have slept with, that would be insensitive. Good luck enjoy the life style while you can.
2007-01-15 09:28:05 · answer #2 · answered by whippitch 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you are going to be a player, that all people involve should know whom is sleeping with whom. If you have made it clear you just want to play the field then you aren't being insensitive, however make sure you are not saying or acting in any way that might make of these females think they are the only one. Certainly don't tell any of them that you love them unless you say.. "I love you as a friend" otherwise it will lead them to believe you are having second thoughts and really want to be with just one.
2007-01-15 09:23:24 · answer #3 · answered by Sunshine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Interesting question. I'll try not to judge... but here is my answer:
First, I'd wonder why you are sleeping with so many people. I won't give you the STD lecture, but would have to wonder why you aren't finding interest enough in one of these girls to consider 'dating' her. They are apparentely interesting enough to have sex with. Why isn't she good enough for you to commit?
Honest? You aren't really being honest if they don't all know that you are sleeping with all of them. Hey, try the real honest approach and tell each friend that you are sleeping with each friend and see how far that gets you. Try a NEW brand of honest and openness that you are seeking.
Yes, I'd say you were being insensitive. Girls have sex with emotions (even if they deny it.. they are)... You are just having sex. Realize that she is allowing you to do this to her because of various reasons... I'd have to say the first is low self-esteem.
Even if you are being honest.. stop treating women like this. Respect a woman and her body and only partake when you are interested enough in EVERYTHING and not just what is between her legs.
You asked... I answered.
2007-01-15 09:20:58 · answer #4 · answered by Angel A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the fact that your honest says allot of good about you... you need to really think about this some more though... pick one out of the friends but do not sleep with both girls, It isn't worth the headache and one is bound to become attached.. they have their friendship, don't split them between each other over you if sex is all you want... you seem to have no trouble getting girls so just pick a few different ones and leave girl friends alone :) :) :)
2007-01-15 09:27:22 · answer #5 · answered by sexton 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're obviously not insensitive or an asshole, or you wouldn't care enough to ask for opinions.
The only difference between you and all the other single guys in the world is that the circle encompassing your dating pool is small. The girls you're sleeping with probably have as many sexual partners as you, but their partners are likely more spread out. No pun intended.
Don't let anyone deprive you of having fun during the dating years. Before you know it, you'll be married and you'll be sleeping with just one girl...day in & day out... year after year, after year...
2007-01-15 09:44:59 · answer #6 · answered by SoCalJinx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, don't lie. That would just make it worse, and then they'd be able to call you a liar, too. I hate to say it, but they have to take some responsibility for becoming emotionally attached to a guy who clearly doesn't want anything even remotely serious.
But I wouldn't sleep with two girls who are friends, even if you tell them--it just gets too messy.
2007-01-15 09:18:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is ok as long as you are honest with everyone and you are practicing safe sex with all of them. Also, keep in mind that if a woman is ok with you having sex with other people, then she is allowed to have sex with other people, too. If that is the case, remember there is an awful lot of chance of sexually transmitted diseases. Always use a condom, even though it is not 100% guarenteed to stop the transmittal of diseases.
2007-01-15 09:18:16 · answer #8 · answered by Beth B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are doing nothing wrong IF you truly are being honest. They are getting involved knowing you are intimate with others and that you don't desire anything serious or committed.
Anyone who calls you an ugly name is just applying their brand of morality to you, and that's unfair. I applaud you for your honesty and if the women you get involved with get upset, then they can choose not to get involved.
Sometimes we chicks hope we'll be "the one" to change your mind but that's just ego...keep on being honest and relating to others in whatever way works for you. Those that desire something more monogamous can look elsewhere...
2007-01-15 09:18:55 · answer #9 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have sex with SERVERAL different girls? Why not just put 3 bullets in a 6 cylinder 38 and pull the triger over and over? Sheesh the stupidity of some people in their sex life!
Yes, that girl is very correct: a very STUPID anal passage!
2007-01-15 09:18:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sleeping with friends is a bad I idea to start with. The old lay will get jealous and be a complete twit anyways. I wouldn't recomend it, it always starts drama.
2007-01-15 09:21:49 · answer #11 · answered by Daniel B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋