okay i need some more help and good there is no school today. i got my parents to let me take a shower on tuesday and thursday but they still make me take a bath on sunday. they say i don't get clean enough but i do. they still come in on me and i don't want them to and i told them. they keep the door closed but not locked and last night i went first for the bath and before i could get done my mom and brother comes in and she says finish up and my brother is already for his turn and i have to get out and changed in front of my 9 year old brother. i want more privacy but my parents don't get it. help.
2007-01-15 01:11:32 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
there is no way i am taking a shower every day that is crazy. i don't smell bad!!!! i know i am little but i am 13 and not 10. why can't people see that?
2007-01-15 09:22:36 · update #1
redslipper - i like your answer.
rumbler - you have a good answer. you always do.
i am going to try to do this on my own but i hate it.
2007-01-15 09:57:03 · update #2
Zach:
You are caught up too much in how old you are. You are 13, but your maturity level is still very much that of a boy and not a teen yet. Puberty, etc as I have told you has a lot to do with this.
BE PATIENT! I know it is difficult, but you must be.
You really should bathe or shower everyday. Three times a week is very lenient. People, whether grown or kids get more body odor than they detect themselves, sometimes. Not to mention regular old dirt we pick up. You will get more privacy and sooner, if you wash very well and do not play or linger in the shower too long. Again, it will not be instant. You want to be like most 13 year olds and most 13 year old in the US bathe or shower everyday without being even told to. Think about that.
Also, I understand you want privacy, but again that will come in time and as your body changes. You said yourself that other than height you still look like your brother as far as how your body is (still like a boy more than a teen). You said this, so changing in front of him, etc should be no big deal. My brother and I saw each other routinely growing up and he was almost 6 years older so his body was mature way before mine. That is normal. The equipment is the same. Don't be quite so modest over that at this time.
Keep doing what your parents say, they are good parents, even if you don't see it yet.
2007-01-15 08:24:30 · answer #1 · answered by rumbler_12 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? I really, truly emphathize with you. I remember when I was 9 - 12, my mother always came into the bathroom on me - checking - "did you wash your neck?", " did you clean your ears?" Yadda, yadda, yadda. I think it is a parent thing - because I did the same thing to my daughter. Parents always want to know that as you are growing up, you are remembering the things they told you. Cleaning the body is a daily process however, and you should be bathing or taking a shower EVERYDAY. Your body sheds dead skin and hair and washing this and other bacteria away is a necessity for being clean. Perhaps you have been guilty of "playing" in the past - and that's why they check on you - to make sure you are doing what you are supposed to do. My sister used to bathe, lock the door and we would have to force it open, only to find her asleep in the tub! She could have drowned MANY times, because this was a nightly ritual for her. My Mom finally took the lock off the door - just because she was worried about my sister's safety. As you get older, your privacy will increase. Just remember to do what you're supposed to do with the time you have. AND WASH EVERYDAY! LOL
2007-01-15 01:22:33 · answer #2 · answered by THE SINGER 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
For starters, how old are you that your parents are "asking" you to take a bath? Honey, I am constantly trying to get my ten year old son to take a bath - he's turning into "stinky boy" at school - that's gross. For the record, they say that a mother can smell her children more than anything else - we will pick up on their "odor" before anyone else and can smell them from a mile away.
I think your parents are invading your privacy because it's obvious you won't do it yourself if you're only bathing 3 times a week.
If you begin washing properly daily, brushing your teeth & hair, clean your ears / nails and remember deodorant to the point that they don't have to ASK you to do it, then you're home free on the privacy front. They will have no choice but to allow you and ENTITLE you to privacy because they will know they don't have to stay on top of you about it.
2007-01-15 01:34:57 · answer #3 · answered by redslippers 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? Wow....you really need to talk to them. I am taking the guess that you are old than your 9 year old brother...your parents should let you lock the door when you are bathing. What's the deal with that? I would start talking to them about this. I mean, how can you get "clean enough" if they barge in on you before you even get done bathing, right? Maybe you should start taking your bath last, and just tell them that you are going to take your bath last, from now on, because you want more privacy. They owe you enough privacy to take a bath and get out and get dressed....alone. Just sit down and have a serious heart-to-heart with them.......and I would start locking the door.
2007-01-15 01:20:17 · answer #4 · answered by Denise D 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need to calmly and rationally sit down with your parents and explain to them that you are growing up and would appreciate some more privacy when you are bathing. If your hair doesn't get greasy and you wash your face daily...deodorant etc daily then every other day shower is fine. We Americans tend to bathe alot...for whatever reason. Keep talking to them...try not to get nasty or accusing until they understand how your feeling. Good luck.
2007-01-15 01:21:11 · answer #5 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you want to refer on your moms and dads about this. If the lavatory is so crowded that anybody needs a time slot for his or her bathe, per chance they could in simple terms provide you certain days with no need them placed on the agenda the position anybody can see it. also tell them that you're transforming into previous now and experience uncomfortable with human beings coming and going interior the lavatory if you're in there. See if jointly you adult adult males can workout consultation something. i imagine at 13 you need to be able to inform once you want a bath, which i ought to imagine can be a minimum of another day if not each day.
2016-11-23 19:32:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are u? I think it is time to nicely talk w/ your parents. They have to understand that you privacy is needed. They should also understand that bringing your brother in before you get out is really "conflict of interest". That is you time to be alone and you definitely nee some "Me time". They should respect that. Talk to them.
2007-01-15 01:16:44 · answer #7 · answered by moofy46 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You SUCK!! i take a bath everyday....
2007-01-15 01:15:54 · answer #8 · answered by Arwin V 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋