Whenever I start asking my bf questions to try to have a serious conversation, he gives me answers that are short or he gets annoyed. Sometimes it seems like he is pulling away from me. He does not seem to see that he is hurting my feelings. He isnt a young teenager or anything, he is 30, so should I start taking that to mean that he is trying to give me a hint.
2007-01-15 00:39:34 · 12 answers · asked by mountaintop_23 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We do that, guys find it difficult to sit down and have a close talk one on one even with their partner - it's not in our nature to express feelings - he might though be a bit of an ***.
The best way to approach him is when he is active with something in the house - though don't start any serious chat if he is engrossed in work. Men find it easier to talk when they are doing something, because then it isn't that they are directly sitting down to talk, it becomes a side thing while doing another activity.
E.g. does he ever cook? think of sparking a conversion indirectly about something that is bothering you when he is cooking.
2007-01-15 00:48:00 · answer #1 · answered by Kicks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to do the same thing he does. Like, back off for a while on the conversations and when he talks to you react the same way he would and see what happens. He may learn something from that.
2007-01-15 08:49:41 · answer #2 · answered by adorable 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would try to sit down with him and say "I fell uncomfortable with the way we communicate. I feel like you are not very into me, and possibly thinking about breaking up with me." It could be that he is trying to back off, or it could be that he is just not a very good communicater. (Men don't always like to talk about every single feeling in the world.) If you are constantly badgering him with questions like "Do you love me? But, do you really love me? I mean, like, do you really, really love me?" I can see why he would be annoyed. But, if you are just trying to have a serious conversation because you feel the relationship is in trouble and he won't respond, it's time for him to learn to talk to you, or get out.
2007-01-15 08:48:53 · answer #3 · answered by Beth B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he really your boyfriend? I doubt it. No one would do such a thing. He is quite mature and should be told immediately. Try speaking to him and clearly state that you are trying to build a long lasting relationship and in case he does not respond positively, simply leave him. The world is full of lovely people and you can have better relationship than you are having now.
2007-01-15 08:44:25 · answer #4 · answered by Tony 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really do not know myself ...but that's a good questioned I think you need to start by asking him why he does that to you and tell him it is hurting your feelings with his short answers and him getting annoyed with what u ask him...tell him its important to you to know that he is in your life take care maybe he is a bit immature or does not like to be very serous
2007-01-15 08:48:23 · answer #5 · answered by blugeanie923 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think i can help you with that. i get like that with my girlfriend sometime. its not that we dont want to talk about it. its more that we are scared. and we are guys and we try to hide are feelings. but as long as he treat you good and you can trust him. then you doing the same for him it would be all okay. i hope that helps you best of luck
2007-01-15 08:45:29 · answer #6 · answered by Gum Mo Jai 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should talk to him about it,ask why is he pulling away from you whenever you would try to have a conversation with him.
2007-01-15 08:45:31 · answer #7 · answered by lovelife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all men like that.. yesterday i wanted to talk to my husband and he does not hear me and i told him if i was talking football or computer he is a different man..do not nag him that's when they get mean.. if want him to leave keep on nagging cuz all woman like to nag
2007-01-15 08:48:47 · answer #8 · answered by Dove4ever 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Means he's not interested on what u said..
2007-01-15 08:45:53 · answer #9 · answered by backward_thinker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this probably means that he isnt that mature. not ready to commit to things.
2007-01-15 08:50:02 · answer #10 · answered by celine marie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋