It's ridiculous how men treat women these days! I mean, I've had some great relationships with men and I've had some bad ones and I just got out of one because I don't think he was really into me. We never went out or anything, just sex, and then 2 days ago, he broke it off and said he didn't wanna be together anymore.. I think he totally used me! I'm not really hurt about the situation just disappointed because I wanted to spend more time with him! What do you guys think?
2007-01-15 00:39:27 · 14 answers · asked by ambersumer 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
first off you are giving WAY too much of yourself early in your relationships,why are you having sex with men you hardly know? and don't tell me you know them because you don't! guys worth having are gonna let you get know them BEFORE any sexual contact happens.don't sell your self short your worth more than what your getting.also sadly men cheat because they can,why are these women cheating with them,what is wrong with a man committing himself to a long term relationship? keep looking but take it slow,it will be easier on your heart in the long run
2007-01-15 00:58:48 · answer #1 · answered by MR. EARL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, you've not mentioned anything about cheating, only someone that seems to have used you for sex - extremely dishonorable, IMO, but not cheating.
Why were you having sex with someone you hadn't even been on a date with?
With regards to actual cheating, you assume it's just men.
With men cheating 60% of the time and women 40%, I don't think men are the only ones that feel this way.
In fact, I assume that, contrary to social opinion, monogamy isn't normal for all people. Unfortunately, society isn't accomodating to those who want to be both honest and are not naturally monogamous. Open relationships are seriously frowned upon.
Most guys or girls don't cheat to get sex. It happens, but not to most people. Most fall into a relationship unexpectedly and only have two options they see open to them. Leave the new relationship, which is brutally difficult, or cheat. Society has shown them only those two options.
I am polyamorous. I am very open about my feelings and non-monogamous nature. I always make certain everyone involved is aware and OK before I enter into a relationship (their significant other, if they have one, and my wife). Though sex is a component of these romantic relationships, it's no different than anyone with a girlfriend or wife. They are long term and very loving relationships.
For those who are not monogamous, but not interested in long-term romantic relationships (i.e. sex is the more important aspect) and want to be open and honest with their partner, there is swinging. I"ve never experienced it, so cannot talk about it much.
I've always wondered why people find cheating (breaking the rules) more acceptable than open and honest non-monogamy.
2007-01-15 00:49:42 · answer #2 · answered by Radagast97 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that that is just the way that some men are. there are good ones and bad ones. Just like there are good women and bad women. I think that is why you have to take the time to get to know the person before you sleep with them. that is really the only protection you have againist feeling used sexually. I know in my past I have made bad choices and felt the same way. I wish you luck. you also my want to check out the book "He is not that into" which was written by a guy and tells you all the things guys do when they are not really into you. I found it helpful for myself . Good luck
2007-01-15 00:46:16 · answer #3 · answered by mrs. smutty aka sodachix 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think we do this because we CAN. I mean it's only sex. All women want out of life is a nice white pickett fence around a nice house with nice furnishings, a few kids, and a SUV, and plenty of money to spend shopping.
Why should men care as long as we provide them with a hard one to ride and all the material things.
2007-01-15 00:45:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he totally used you. Guess he's on to the next one. Guys pretend to like you to get what they want more than an exclusive relationship..... various bed buddies. The motto: "Variety is the spice of life." comes to mind. But not all guys are like that....just most of them. LOL
2007-01-15 00:49:18 · answer #5 · answered by Patricia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no longer cheating interior the "physcial" way. it quite is nonetheless incorrect. i'm no longer asserting this to be propose, yet you kinda had a fashion out the third around. Its been ongoing b4 you have been married w/toddler. Hes hurting you and don't look to care. If he desires to examine different women folk and fake to "spice" up the intercourse, theres constantly porn!
2016-12-12 11:49:25 · answer #6 · answered by kluesner 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are guy that love to be player (AKA LADY USER) and there guy that just wont to be loved. they both start out the same but you will find plays are none commuted to you they are just there for the score. a go test is to see if there willing to meet you family. most players run when they here that.guys that wont to be love will not hold back and willing to do are go anywhere with you . so good luck.
2007-01-15 00:51:32 · answer #7 · answered by celticdragon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a guy dates you and f**ks you after some few days,he will probably take you as a slut coz you were cheap to get.So take you time before you drop your pants to any man.Make them feel that you really value yourbody and guess what,they will always cling on you and never let you go.If that guy was me i would have left right jst after f**kin.gudluk dear.
2007-01-15 00:52:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The word 'women' is derived from ancient Latin and means 'bucket for c*m'. I'm afraid that that is what you were put on Earth for. Now spread 'em!
2007-01-15 00:44:43 · answer #9 · answered by Oliver T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you obviously have lousy taste in men...
men aren't the only ones that cheat and use others in the same way...
if you want more than sex, then don't give it away so quickly...
2007-01-15 00:47:10 · answer #10 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋