is it ok for my girlfriend to hang out with other guys?

Question

my girlfriend and i are in a committed relationship but there is this guy friend of hers that is always hanging around. i was away this weekend on a course and returned to find out that she went on a long walk on the beach with him. im feeling a little disturbed by this and am wondering if you all think perhaps im overreacting. i always thought beachwalks were what couples did.

some missed details i forgot to add. this guy in particular is a bit of a sleazoid would mount anything anytime. its not that i dont trust her but i completely dont trust him. oh and did i mention that this beach in question is a 2 hr drive away

Answer 1

You are right, find you apretty friend to hang out with and see how she likes that

Answer 2

Hey here's something that will put all your worries at ease, stop being paranoid! What you seek to find, you will find. In other words, if you are looking at a situation and already suspecting that her behavior is suspcious, then guess what buddy... she's going to look suspcious! Unless she has given you a reason not to trust her, then don't half *** it and trust her all the way. Half trusting isn't the same and will do more damage to a relationship then if you just didn't trust her at all. It's not fair in a relationship not to trust the other person if you have no reason. If she's had a history of cheating and the guy she was walking with was an ex of hers or he has a history of cheating, then yeah that would raise some eyebrows, but hey if she has guy friends and she wants to go out with em' let her! They were around longer then you so if you expect to outlast them, don't try cutting her ties with them, it will only back fire.

Answer 3

i was in a similar situation with my last ex. i will tell you this. at first i really hated this guy. but after a nice conversation and introduction, we became friends as well. i work night shift on my job and when i was gone to work, sometimes she would stay at his place and i would pick her up and take her home after i got off work. you can tell what a woman thinks of a guy when she's around him. just being around them together made a world of difference. my trust grew, as you can tell, and he even had an open invite to my apartment. i still buy him a drink when i catch him in a bar. the moral of my story is that you should be looking into things a little more. if she doesn't want you to meet him or hang out with him, chances are she is hiding something from you. so i would talk to her about him if i were you. you never know, you could be meeting your next best friend

Answer 4

Perhaps your idea of "beach walks" is different from hers. It could of been completely innocent. How did you find out about this walk? Did she tell you or did you find out in some other way? If she's hiding things then you have reason to be suspicious, but if everything's out in the open then chances are nothing is going on.

You can't tell her who to be friends with, that may jepordize the relationship. Maybe you want to find a female friend for yourself and see how the gf reacts. If she gets bent out of shape then that's suspicious. She can't say it's ok for her but not for you, that's shady.

I don't think talking about it will solve anything. She will see you as attacking her, even if you say it nicely. There's no way of nicely saying "i think you're cheating on me with your friend".

Answer 5

I take it the guy in question isn't gay or you wouldn't be worried, so if it were me and I were uncomfortable with the two of them I would step up to the plate tell them both how you are feeling about their relationship and you shouldn't have to be feeling this way and since you say he is always hanging around tell them he has to stand down,get a life and girlfriend of his own or you walk.

Answer 6

actually beach walks are what couples do,yes...but don't you think you should put more trust into this relationship?maybe your girlfriend's just a good friend of him and he needs to share something in particular with her?i mean when both people decides to get together,they must trust one another for the relationship to really work out.don't cha think so...just monitor what she does...as long as there's nothing wrong...don't worry too much!!!

Answer 7

I don't think girls should hang out alone with another guy because even if nothing happens and nothings going to happen, it just doesn't sound appropriote. I think case one is the most apporopriote, because if they are true long time besties then it's easier to trust them but newer guys are more suspicious. I just don't find it appropriote. I sure wouldn't want my boyfriend hanging out with other girls alone without me.

Answer 8

As long as you bith still have your commitment for each other.. there is nothing wrong with it really. but if she starts to give you reasons to dump you because of it, then that's a problem. But, the way I see it, there is nothing wrong really... you should sit and talk to her about it though... get a feel of what's goin around. But never EVER jeopardize your relationship because of some little foolish doubt... Hope this makes you feel better...

Answer 9

Does she say they are just friends? How long have them been friends? Were they ever involved romantically? I grew up with mostly boys in my neighborhood and am good friends with a couple of them. We talk, get together etc. It is possible to have friends of the opposite sex, but have no romantic feelings. Share your feelings with her. Please, she can put your mind at ease or give you ammunition for worry. But, relationships should foster open communication.

Answer 10

I would probably feel exactly like you right now. You could always confront her, but that could lead into a fight, with her getting defensive.

Personally, I would just ask her about it, without pointing any fingers at her, or accusing her of anything.