Does my boyfriend love me anymore? I can't tell. I want your honest opinions please?

Question

I can't tell what he thinks or says anymore. He's so different now. I can't even guess what he may be thinking of me. He got protective when another guy hit on me, just recently, but he doesn't show affection the way he used to anymore. He likes being alone and doing his own thing now (he wasn't always a recluse). His friends tell me that he really cares a lot, and he has told me that he wants to see me more often, but when we talked last, on IM he said he wanted to be a monk in the wilderness, all alone, NOTHING about me. I can't tell if he cares anymore, he never tells me or shows it. I can't find his heart the way i once could. IF he does care, why does he have to be so secretive about it? If he doesn't... what happened? Does he still care? I want your honest opinions on this please. =/

Also, we've been apart for a while, the class we're in together is on break and has been since the 4th of December til the 22 of January. Just sayin'.

Answer 1

In my opinion, he is slowly backing away from you at a time, it seems he is having less to do with you and what time he does spend with you is not worth it. If says he wants to be a monk then maybe that is what he wants to do. It might be sooner then later when the relationship will finally fall apart and there will be nothing left to do. If he wants to be with you, then he will have to come up to you and be honest about what is going on, If not then you know there is nothing else you can do then move on. You never be able to get back what once was. it just happens that way and there is nothing that you can do about it. It might a good thing that he be by himself and not dating so he can clear his head, do what you feel you have to. Although if you saty with him then you are going have to deal with what is going on, but if you leave the relationship then tell him what you are feeling and why.

Answer 2

Get out while you can and don't wait too long. I'm sure your ex husband treated you very nice in the beginning of your relationship. You now know the signs of an abusive relationship. You should never let anyone talk to you like that, not that you're actually LETTING him but maybe you should take some time to yourself and don't look for anyone. Let them find you. You've been through so much I know you can get through this one. A real man doesn't treat any woman like that. They're insecure and once they get comfortable with you they show their "true colors". No one needs anyone telling you what to do what to wear, you're an adult now! I feel awful for you I do suggest getting out of the mess while you can. 6 months with someone can get you attached, but that's excactly what he had in mind. He feels he has control of you and if you listen to him it'll only hurt you in the end. I hope everything goes well with you and I'm sure you'll make the right decision.

Answer 3

Love means many different things;and,

we all change, so love is likely to. This might not

be obvious,for most of us change only slowly.

And we have to be truthful- we are not always"in

sinc" with one another(our partners may not want to

be alone when we do), even those we love.

And you are correct in questioning things(for all life

consists in questioning,then estimating an answer!).

Although, and this is more personal to me; questions

and continual probing have their limit,especially or mainly

if we cannot change-over our opinion; when we realise that

such probing has a limit,from sensitivity thro to helpful-ness.

A minor point is the difference between individuals,their tastes

and nuances; and these can change,sometimes for the good.

Answer 4

It sounds like he needs some alone time. Leave him be for a couple of days. Everyone gets in these moods at some time or another. This probably doesnt even have anything to do with you, so relax, and let him have his space for awhile. I'll bet he comes around, and he'll be alot happier.

Answer 5

I think that you need to confront him about it, ask him! It may help it may not, it may be a family home problem or some kind of personal problem that he just doesn't want to blurt out but maybe if you talked to him, he might open up. It's always worth a shot.

Answer 6

how long together???? maybe its a friend thing. really come out to him and tell him yall need to talk. catch him in the mood to talk remember that. show him that it is okay if he does not. you just need to know . and if its over dont cry in front of him. tell him its fine but u hope to still be friends so you wont sound desprate okay! and if he still loves u then thats great and go have some fun what ever he likes make him feel he got u and that ur the best gurlfriend!!! hope it comes out positive!!!! best of luck

Answer 7

Sounds as though he might be depressed. You'll just have to wait and see. Without knowing him, how can any of us possibly give you an answer?

Answer 8

He cares very much. So much in fact that it is hard for him to deal with his feelings for you. He doesn't wanna be the bad guy. Unfortuneately given the situation and the intrisicly evident feelings he has to deal with when his girl is hit on by another, He is forced to ignore the situation and look within himself for the strength he needs.

Answer 9

I don't know him, but it sounds like he may be going through a phase in his life where he is trying to "find" himself. He may also be depressed.

Give him the space that he needs. He will show you one way or the other through his actions~ in time. Be patient, and take care of yourself.

Answer 10

he cares about you too much and its hurting him, and what also is hurting him is that he's scared that you dont respect him (cause guys hit on u... even though its not ur fault..) and that you simply dont love him anymore

prove your love to him
he'll come back when he feels safe in your arms