I think I made a mistake and put in writing "sorry to hear about the loss of your brother."
I realize some people may not want to be reminded, but I'm not sure to leave it just blank either. (Of course just my name will be signed).
2007-01-13 18:03:32 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I think every one's answer is a Best Answer. Thanks for the support!
At least I feel that I didn't break any kind of serious social etiquette based on so many answers. Thanks everyone!
2007-01-15 17:24:20 · update #1
"I'm so sad to hear of your loss, and hope you will find comfort in the days to come through your precious memories and through the concern and care of your friends."
Sincerely your friend,
_________
2007-01-13 18:18:02 · answer #1 · answered by cryllie 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My father just passed away and I feel any time I get a card how much it means that someone thought of me and my struggle and my loss and that they spent so much time thinking of me enough to go out and pick a card and to try to personalize it and to find my address and send it. I think almost anything showing your sympathy is a huge gesture on its own. As far as a reminder, I am willing to to guess that with the type of card and timing the person did not think you were sending a Get Well card, the card itself is a reminder but the message behind it is an emense comfort.
2007-01-14 02:46:55 · answer #2 · answered by fluffybunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you made a mistake at all. You addressed the unfortunate situation for what it is. The death/loss of his brother.
Don't leave it blank.
Depending on the person I'm writing it to, I usually try to find some positive about the person that passed and provide a wish to those left behind: "May the memories you shared with John/Mary remain in your heart forever"
Hope this helps.
2007-01-14 02:13:06 · answer #3 · answered by ☼High☼Voltage☼Blonde☼ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you wrote is just fine. It's not like they're going to forget their brother who died. If you have a specific good memory about the brother, that would be a nice thing to add. DON'T write "let me know what I can do to help" unless you are willing to follow up if they ask you to do something.
If you see them, DON'T ask these people how they are doing because, at the moment, they are not doing well. Better to say something like, "Hi! I'm glad to see you!"
2007-01-14 02:32:05 · answer #4 · answered by Kathy P-W 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you wrote is just fine. Sympathy cards are meant to console the relatives.
When my son died, one of the nicest cards I received included a letter written by the mother of one of his good friends. She told me a few things about when he visited at their home. It was such a comfort to me to know that she had good memories of my son, too! So whenever you send a sympathy card, just say what is in your heart. The person receiving it will appreciate it.
2007-01-14 03:37:47 · answer #5 · answered by Cat Lover 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I think that what you wrote is just right.
And, believe me, they are aware of the loss. You didn't "remind" them of anything.
2007-01-15 13:11:05 · answer #6 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we tend to think "i don't want to remind him of his loss", but in reality they haven't forgotten-it's at the forefront of their mind...and more times than not they are grateful to have the opportunity to talk about their loss (it's part of the healing process)......i think what you wrote was fine.....also, many sympathy cards already have beautiful messages written in them, all you need to do is sign your name
2007-01-14 13:45:30 · answer #7 · answered by SNAP! 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think what you wrote is ok. Whoever is receiving the card will appreciate it. You could add...my thoughts are with you and your family.
2007-01-14 02:07:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋