should I break up with him? He lives in detriot and i live in the lower half of michigan. and we only see each other twice a year... : (
2007-01-13 03:45:19 · 39 answers · asked by jessy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
And I didnt have sex with him!!!
2007-01-15 22:36:16 · update #1
first off, you are TOO YOUNG to be involved in this type of relationship. Mentally you are not fully ready for this type of thing. Also, what is the point if he lives so far away and you aren't old enough to drive to see each other?
Also, go to your local health department and get yourself tested for an STD. Get on birthcontrol if you can't keep your legs together.
2007-01-13 04:12:22 · answer #1 · answered by Jennifer L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just enjoy being a 14-year old and by this I mean don't worry about serious relationships especially long distance ones where the boy has already had sex and you see each other twice a year. If he's already slept with half of the girls he's gone out with your chance for disease is high plus the likelihood he's not going to be faithful when you don't even see each other. I know that having a boyfriend seems very important right now but I would suggest again really enjoying this unique time of your life before you have to take on the adult world which isn't as much fun as you might think with bills, deadlines, taxes etc. Enjoy your friendships, develop your talents, get involved with a club at school or volunteer, make some memories so when you're 24 or 50 you look back on these years with fondness not regret for wasting time in what probably will be a dead-end relationship. Maybe look for a boy locally that respects you and hopefully won't pressure you to have sex.
2007-01-13 03:52:51 · answer #2 · answered by emilyjohnson21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're 14 and your first relationship is a long distance one?
You're only a few hours drive away yet you only see each other twice a year?
You want to end it over his past?
Sounds like you should find someone new. Within your zip code for starters. I don't understand why you're with this guy in the first place. But that's just me. Sorry for coming off like a jerk, but I've been there myself when I was your age and now realize what was pretty nice at the time was nothing less than a waste of my time and youth. Good luck puppy.
2007-01-13 03:50:38 · answer #3 · answered by no name brand canned beans 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You poor girl...your much too young to have someone you think is a boyfriend that you only see twice a year. You really should find someone close to you that you can spend time with on a regular basis. You are at an age where you should be dating many people so that you can learn from experience how to negotiate this journey of life.
2007-01-13 03:50:14 · answer #4 · answered by no free rides 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen,
Im from Detroit and I know how these people be actin...
You better break up with him, for real. This whole forum knows that he got a STD. Besides, you 14 and you got a much better life then he does.
Also, seeing somebody only twice a year is NOT dating. I bet that he ain't even give you nothing for Christmas, your birthday, thanksgiving, New Years, NOTHING...
This "boyfriend" of yours is done... find someone that is better. You feel me?
(Im not trying to be mean, but I know what be going on in Detroit, and Im trying to watch people's backs)
2007-01-13 04:04:52 · answer #5 · answered by Joseph T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're young... why tie yourself down and to someone you hardly see?
Have fun with friends, enjoy this time while it's here. I dated a guy from the time I was 13 until 19 - although we had good times, it was a big mistake. It seems that we forget that dating and marriage are two different things. Teens treat their dating like it's a marriage and do not leave themselves the freedom they need at that time. The adult years ahead leave for room of having serious relationships.
Good luck
2007-01-13 03:52:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jessy, I honestly believe that you should stay AWAY from that guy. If he already slept with three girls (that you know of), you want to make sure that you are not the number 4.
There are so many guys your age who would love to meet a great girl like you, and respect you. And their "intimate millage" will be 0.
Just be careful sweetie. NEVER let any guy take advantage of you.
2007-01-13 03:55:46 · answer #7 · answered by David G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey,
U r responsible for your own body. If you were not ready then why did you do it. You must guard your own precious well. To me making love is something everyone enjoy and you will enjoy it more if 2 parties are really in love and not for the sake of getting horny.
What is done is done, so just move on and ensure the next time the person you give it to, is someone you love and best if he loves you in return. If you are not ready then no one can force you to do anything.
Take care.
2007-01-13 03:50:59 · answer #8 · answered by Rosy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you live so far away that you see each other twice a year, at 14, that is not a relationship - he's just a friend....even if you've slept with him. In his mind, he probably sees it that way.
Find someone closer to you.
Good luck.
2007-01-13 03:48:28 · answer #9 · answered by Bored With This 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah you should definetly dump him now!! Since you only see each other twice a year, he is probably sleepin with many other girls than just three. This is a bad relationship and you need to get out of it. Find someone that wont go out with other girls!
2007-01-13 03:48:50 · answer #10 · answered by Bored&Broken 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋