My Mom was my best friend, and everthing I had. She died suddenly overnight, and I had to find her the next morning alone. I just feel like I havent even scratched the surface on grieving, and I have no one who truly understands. The pain and desperation is so much to bear.. Just want to know if there is anyone out there that is or has gone through the loss of a Mother, and wouldnt mind talking to me. Thanks so much for everyones time.
2007-01-12 16:36:01 · 14 answers · asked by N 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Thanks so much to everyone that responded to my question, god bless all of you.
2007-01-15 16:32:17 · update #1
I went through the same feelings when my mother who was my best friend and only person in the whole world I trusted. I still miss her like crazy and it's been 5 years. But the hurt does go away after some time. I use to remember the day she passed and be reminded of it every year on that day and break down. Then one day I decided enough was enough, she wouldn't want me to feel like that. So I let that day pass without a thought and decided to celebrate her birthday every year. I bake a cake and talk about her endlessly to my children. We all sing happy birthday and have cake and ice cream. (the good memories, not her illness or dying) Damn I miss her but I only allow myself to remember the happy times. Everyone is different though. I hope you are able to find something that brings back the good feelings about her and allows you to let go of the pain. Best of luck to you. Take care!
2007-01-12 16:42:13 · answer #1 · answered by The Pig! 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Im so sorry sweetie! My dad died 2 years ago on new years eve/day in a car accident on his way home after leaving my house. we didnt even know he left until the trooper came to the door at 3am. My dad was my best friend too, and we were always very close. I felt, and still feel, like he's the only person who really understood me. My faith in God really got me/gets me through dealing wih him being gone. I believe that hes in a better place, but hes still with me. Remembering the good times we had together, laughing at things that remind me of him, and just always talking about him and telling everyone who will listen all about him helps me. I know my dad is finally happy now, and that makes me happy. I miss him like crazy, and i find that as time passes i really just miss him more. The main thing to keep in mind is that everyone is different and deals with this in their own ways. Dont feel obligated to deal with it any certain way because thats what society tells you to do. For example, my bother and I placed a cross on the roadside were my father wrecked. He likes to go there from time to time to talk to my dad or whatever....thats his thing. I personally cant do that. I dont feel comfertable being there so i dont go. One way isnt better than the other, we just have different ways of dealing.
2007-01-12 18:07:02 · answer #2 · answered by Aubrey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have not walked in your shoes yet and I am sorry for your loss. I suggest you hold on to the happy memories that you had and seek counseling or group therapy to talk this over with someone else. You will never forget her because you were so close but there is one closer that will help you through this. God will bring you through. I pray that you find the peace that passes all understanding in this issue.
2007-01-12 17:02:46 · answer #3 · answered by ? 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I lost both my parents 10 yrs apart and yes I still have a hard time thinking about some things. I want so bad to talk to them and there is no one on earth that loved me like they did. Email me and we will talk my mom died within the last 3yrs and my heart is still breaking. I do understand, it will never be the same again but you will adjust after a few years.
2007-01-12 17:00:03 · answer #4 · answered by livlafluv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 58 years old; my Mother passed away in 1985 and I still miss her so. When I get sick --I want my Mother. How I would love to hug her right now, So, I try to dwell on the wonderful memories of her. Like remembering a time when I was little and she was rocking me in a rocking chair by the wood stove. I can still feel that moment. I remember those times and it does make me smile. Try to fulfill yourself with those wonderful memories!
2007-01-16 13:48:10 · answer #5 · answered by missellie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know who you are but there are so many stages of greif , my son found his dad last feb he is 18 now alone he also died.
I try to comfort him but to be honest, the best thing I can say is be close to family and friends, talk to anyone even on here it will help you, I feel for you I really do, I feel your pain more than anyone here, you see, my job once was representing Mortuaries over 44 of them and a Coroners office and my job was to talk to famlies and loved ones before I took them away with me, I cried even though I did not know them, I felt so much pain for them, I listened to them over 4000 famlies and still I feel their pain, it is stages you will go through, I can say "You'll be ok" I have no right to saying that, your pain is deep , it's ok to cry to it's part of greif..Take care love
2007-01-12 17:05:14 · answer #6 · answered by Gina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear that,But the fact is a person has to move forward in life and face it.I had lost my father 2 years back.I still couldn't and cant ever get over the pain of loosing him and neither would like to.But at the same-time,I have moved forward in life and am responsible person of my family.Initially it was hard,the more I thought of the incident...the more restless i got.Then i decided to divert my mind on responsibilities in life and i did it.Today when i remember him,I feel as though he is smiling at me...seeing my success in life and that makes me happy.Today he is more close to me that ever and is the strength behind me.I would suggest you to divert your mind to other positive things and make yourself happy.And you will surely feel that your mom from heavens above is smiling at you.She would definately be proud of you,seeing you successfull in life and would be admiring the style that her kid is carrying herself.So enjoy yourself for the happiness of hers.Bye-Take care
2007-01-12 18:08:43 · answer #7 · answered by Dream Seller 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all my utmost condolences for your loss of your best friend(mother). i myself haven't been there yet(may god spare me the day, but I have lost of lot of friends,neighbors,all of my grandparents,a favorite aunt & recently a dear brother in christ in church. i know about grief. if you want someone to listen i would more than happy to be here for you dear. also, if you don't mind, seek out a grief counselor in your area. should be in the phone book or inquire with your local health dept. the more you come to terms with the loss the better you will begin to feel. after a time only the good memories of her will remain with a smile on your face.
2007-01-12 16:47:18 · answer #8 · answered by audrey_halley2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost my mom almost 4 years ago. She was my best friend as well, and I totally understand what you are going through right now. I really am sorry for your loss.
2007-01-12 16:45:24 · answer #9 · answered by JustMe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do something for your mother. First study hard and build your career. She would have loved you to have a good job and life.
By doing this you will pay your mother great respect.
Hey lady think positive all the time. This is an opportunity to build yourself.
2007-01-12 16:50:39 · answer #10 · answered by prashmanic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋