I have/had a best friend that has genital herpes. She was diagnosed over a year ago. The current boyfriend in which she has been with for approximately a year, has no clue she has this. She is afraid he will leave her when he finds out. We are no longer friends because I felt what she was doing to him (the one she supposedly loves) was beyond wrong. I have never said I would tell her boyfriend, but she had the perfect chance to tell him when she had a bump that was from the HSV2 virus. She told him she was going to the doctor to find out and would keep him informed. I guess he said if she had it he was going to leave her if he didnt come back with it. They have never used protection. Long story short, she told him she didnt have it. So now thats two HUGE lies she has told him and he thinks hes safe from disease, but he isnt and probably has it. Like I said, I told her this was too big of a deceit for me to stand by and be her friend while she is ruining someones life!! Right or wrong?
2007-01-11 03:17:05 · 18 answers · asked by Right or Wrong? 1 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ STDs
The one that is doing this is a 31 year old. The reason we are not friends is because she is doing this to an innocent person and has no regaurds to what she is doing to him or all the other people in the future that will now have this and pass it since she was not mature enough to step up and tell him of her disease! There are many serious health issues that can arise from this disease and he should know!
2007-01-13 05:57:08 · update #1
Mind your own business. You CANNOT tell him. And you know WAY too much about their sex life.
Besides----if he is so dumb NOT to use a condom, then he should know he can get STDs. Nope. You can't tell him.
2007-01-11 03:21:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Tell someone or endanger another innocent person's safety. That is worlds more important than if your old best friend stays with her boyfriend or not. This is a situation where it is morally wrong to keep quiet. Tell your parents, or tell her's. Tell both! It doesn't matter, as long as he finds out before its too late for anything to be done.
2007-01-11 03:21:02 · answer #2 · answered by K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a little late to tell him since they have had sex without protection because he probably has it now. Yes she is the worst person in the world for not telling him. If he gets it and finds out she gave it to him, terrible things are going to happen. If it was me and I found out, I would choke the ever living life out of her. You can tell him, but he probably want believe you since your not friends anymore. He may think your trying to get back at her for something or something of that nature. But if you tell him, you can have a clean conscious anyway whether he believes you or not. And since your not friends anyway, what do you have to lose?
2007-01-11 03:30:04 · answer #3 · answered by Xena 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, personally i think you need to remeber that YOUR ONLY A FRIEND which mean your advice is greatly appreciated but does not have to be utillized. Obviously you dont have it which mean that your advice couldnt be that great. Granted your friend may be 1000000 percent wrong i dont think you should end your friendship (do you no what friends are for--you should definately look it up). I am a firm beliver in whatevers in the dark must come to light , so your friend will have her day and reap what she's sowed but untill then, she doesnt need to be condemed by you or anyone else.
2007-01-11 06:48:52 · answer #4 · answered by somebodysmamasoon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the guy has a right to know the truth.
wether or not its appropriate for you to be the one to tell him I cannot answer that.
but he has the right to know the truth.
what this girl is doing is beyond wrong, she knows she is sick with a contagious std and she is lying about having it and keeping it a secret from someone she is having unprotected sex with, thats WRONG.
she has put him at great risk of catching what she has.
because of her he might already have it, wether he has shown signs of it or not. some stds can lay-dormant for many months or years befor signs show.
I think someone should talk to someone, about what is going on, a school nurse, or guidance councilor, or her parents.
then let them deal with the situation.
her behavior isnt just wrong, it is careless , reckless, and beyond irresponsible.
but thats just my oppinion.
hope i have been helpful.
2007-01-11 07:09:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry as a responsible human being you should tell him, this is for life. It's not a cold or even the clap that can be cleared with medication. Your friend sounds like she is not even close to be mature enough for a relationship. But I would tell him.
2007-01-11 04:44:14 · answer #6 · answered by Bassetlover 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He'll probably leave her when learns she had a communicable disease and neglected to tell him. If "they" never use protection, he's responsible for what happens to his own unit. She's a liar, she's careless, she's selfish, irresponsible and extremely weak. But he decided not to use protection based on her "word" rather than STD tests- he's foolish.
2007-01-11 03:26:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
try to inform him anonymously. thats a shame shes so selfish. i HAD a friend who had herpes and she thought it was cute to sleep with married men and she was a very miserable person in the first place but because she was cheated on by her husband and got infected by him she thought she had some obligation to get revenge on the married men she slept with. hello, the wives are the real victims here.
2007-01-17 08:53:32 · answer #8 · answered by xtal6872 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to your best friend and tell her what you feel the need to tell her boyfriend. It is wrong she keeps it a secret from him, and instead of hiding it, she could have told him and saved him from getting herpes too.
2007-01-11 03:22:14 · answer #9 · answered by Lupita 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i would tell him but hen again u cant worry ur self with having to tell every person she is with that she has this she needs,to step up to the plate and be a woman if the man loves her this wont stand in the was if he leaves then it wasnt ment to b
2007-01-17 09:54:52 · answer #10 · answered by corrie l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Morally right: tell the poor guy.
Morally wrong: keeping quit because of a has been friendship
2007-01-11 03:49:46 · answer #11 · answered by Big Ben 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋