how do i ask my man to wear a condom the 1st time we have sex because he always says how good it is w/out 1?

Answer 1

don't ask him to. tell him to. don't give him an option. tell him you won't have sex unless he protects both of you. if he doesn't want to wear a condom while having sex with you, he isn't the man you should having sex with.

Answer 2

This first decade of the 21st century the various risks connected with having sex have (alas) increased. The figures for HIV, Chlamydia and gonorrhoea are all going up. This is almost entirely because so many people – whether they're heterosexuals or homosexuals or 'bi' -- don't practise safe sex. Statistics show that men and women are taking more and more sexual partners. Crazy practices like going to orgies, joining sex clubs and indulging in ‘dogging’ (multiple sex in car parks) are quite widespread. In the male gay world, ‘cottages’ and multi-partner saunas continue to be fairly popular.
In many of these situations, people don’t use a condom! As for teenagers, unfortunately they are now losing their virginity very young – and frequently at an age where they don’t have any idea about how to protect themselves against the unwanted consequences of sex. So inevitably, there are times when teenage love-making, instead of being beautiful and fulfilling, leads to disaster. Understandably, in all age groups a lot of men and women think that ‘it won’t happen to me'. But in the year 2005, there is so much sex infection around that you really do need to be very careful. Unless you are totally faithful to one partner – and he or she is totally faithful to you – you are at some risk.
The risks of unsafe sex -unwanted pregnancy, venereal diseases (such as gonorrhoea and, much less commonly, syphilis), other sexually transmitted infections (such as herpes, and viral warts and especially the 21st century‘s major risk - chlamydia), HIV - the virus which can cause AIDS. Cancer of the cervix, female infertility – due to pelvic infection caused by sex with an infected guy. It’s almost inevitable that other sexual infections will arise during this century – especially if the human race keeps going in for unsafe sex! Germs have a nasty way of exploiting people’s behaviour, which is why – soon after the swinging 60s and 70s -- herpes and HIV suddenly emerged. Back in the 20th century, many people, both straight and gay, enjoyed sex with a variety of partners assuming that there was very little danger. Unfortunately, this is no longer the case – since disease rates have increased so much. Today, it’s only common sense to practise safe sex. However, your life is in your hands, if you want unsafe sex – go ahead. You are aware now, of some of the consequences that could occur.
Hope this is of some interest
Matador 89

Answer 3

I got pregnant with the "pull out method".
Don't be fooled!

My husband & I do NOT want kids!
So I know he was VERY careful. Don't do it sweatie.
Even if you use a condom, they sometimes break (more often then you'd think. Wait until your ready to be somebody's mommy.
At least wait until you're married so Baby isn't born a "bastard" or worse yet, with out any help from Daddy at all. It's a totally messes up life you will have made for yourself. Choose the right path now. Before you end up testafying to other girls how you screwed up your life. It really sucks.

Answer 4

Don't give him the choice. If he is telling you how good sex is without a condom that means he has had sex with people other than you and he's not been using protection. Steer clear of him.

Answer 5

tell him he has to wear one or there's no sex, no matter how much you like him love yourself more, protect yourself don't think of it as - he doesnt look sick , just this once , all it takes is that once and he might not even know he has something and if he likes it so much more without a condom chances he's had lots of unprotected sex and therefore is high risk to having a disease, let's face men are reluctant to get checked out. no matter what your health should come first .

Answer 6

Yeap,i dont understand why are you even thinking about this ...Tell him he has to or else no sex...If he is immature enough that he doesnt realise what risk there is for both of you to have sex without one,well think good if its worth having sex with him on first place?
At least till he realises some very important facts ...

Answer 7

Don't ask him, _tell_ him that if he's not going to wear a condom he doesn't get to have sex with you. It's your body.

Answer 8

I would not ask. He either wears it or he does not. You could make it fun by helping him put it on. Sex may be better without one but an STD is definitely not fun.

Answer 9

You don't ask, you tell him that if he wants to have sex with you he has to use a condom.....
If that doesn't work, tell him you have an STD.

Answer 10

girl are you crazy!juts be like yo where's ur condom,and if he be like he aint got it,then you tell his *** no sex than.but you got to put ur serious face on