2007-01-05 04:30:51 · 20 answers · asked by Twizzler712 2 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Diabetes
Actually she did lie because when I found a pill bottle in her bookbag she said it was for headaches or something like that. And I asked why she was always going to the doctor and she just said she had bad headaches.
2007-01-05 11:46:14 · update #1
Only if she specifically stated that she DID NOT have diabetes.
Many misinformed people have negative connotations about diabetics - it's quite obvious from many of the ridiculous posts I see in this forum. Hence, on the street, we don't blatently advertise our condition, often mislabeled as a disease. Notice that the Yahoo Answers category of 'Diabetes' is listed under 'Diseases & Conditions'. Diabetes is a condition. Thank you Yahoo for having this consideration.
Diabetics are not required to reveal that they are diabetic. I've had girlfriends come and go who never knew.
A blood test for marriage compatibility would reveal this if it ever went that far.
2007-01-05 04:35:23 · answer #1 · answered by x 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-20 02:29:38 · answer #2 · answered by Delmar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-18 11:42:35 · answer #3 · answered by Susanne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I'm not hearing that she lied, but that she just didn't tell you before now.
You have no idea the stigma attached to living with diabetes. It's life-altering and some folks have a hellish time convincing their friends and family (and employers!) that they're not fragile and disabled to the point of needing to be stalked every minute about what they put into their mouth. Have a mood swing? Your sugar must be off. Having a bad day? When was your last glucose test?
You shouldn't be upset unless it's to be upset that she's had such a difficult time living with this chronic (and life threatening) health condition that she feels compelled to hide it. Some insulin dependent diabetics would rather have people think they're a drug addict than admit they're going to the restroom to *shoot up* with insulin.
Love your friend. Be supportive. Educate yourself about her situation. Tell her that you're going to learn more about it and then you'd like to talk to her to find out the specifics of how it affects HER life because each person is different. Some folks are very well managed and some are not and could use the extra eyes of a close friend to help them to realize when they're a bit "off" because blood sugar is a tricky thing... and just changing brands of insulin can have an unexpected effect.
Read a book, written by James Hirsch, called Cheating Destiny: Living With Diabetes, America's Biggest Epidemic and visit the web site for American Diabetes Association at http://www.diabetes.org/home.jsp There's a huge difference between Type 1 and Type 2 Diabetes. Find out which one your friend is... Type 1 is generally diagnosed in childhood and requires use of insulin along with many daily glucose testings and Type 2 is generally diagnosed in adults and is often a result of obesity although there are other groups who are high risk, like African-Americans.
If this knowledge you now have changes your relationship, then it will only prove to her, in her own mind, that having diabetes is a horrible thing and when your friends find out about it, they will bail.
Tell her how you feel about being caught off guard... that it's not the fact that she has diabetes, but that she didn't tell you sooner that has you a bit upset... but that now that you know, you want to know anything about it she wants to tell you.
Best to you...
Edit - Someone up there said you're 16 years old? Get a book called Sweetblood by Pete Hautman: http://www.amazon.com/Sweetblood-Pete-Hautman/dp/0689850484 It's probably available through your book club orders at school. My daughter ordered it through her school bookclub.
2007-01-05 04:56:10 · answer #4 · answered by thegirlwholovedbrains 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! She should have told you and it's ok to be upset - but try to remember she probably was scared to tell you - I've been in heaps of situations where I've been scared to tell people, mainly cos I was bullied heaps at school for having it. Diabetes can make you feel different from other people and ashamed, though it shouldn't. Explain to her that you are upset because she lied, not because she has diabetes, and try to give her as much support as possible - diabetes is a difficult condition to live with - ask her about it so you can help her with it if she needs it. When I started going out with my boyfriend he already knew I had diabetes but I was still scared to tell him if I was sick or anything like that, but in time I did tell him all about it cos he asked. 9 months later I had a bad head injury and lost my memory - he was able to totally take care of my diabetes for me that night in the hospital - I don't know what would've happened if he hadn't known about my diabetes! I'm not saying you need to be comfortable enough to do that, but just be aware of what to do if she gets sick (ask her what a hypo is for a start!) and be there for her - there's no reason why it should affect your relationship at all. Good luck xx
2007-01-05 06:35:45 · answer #5 · answered by Cathy :) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you be upset? Did she lie, or did she just not tell you? There is a difference! Yes, it would have been nice for her to inform you so that if anything every happened while you were with her you would hve information for the doctors or something. But really, it isn't required that she share that information. Maybe she thought you would judge her, or tell her what she can and can't eat. That is the thing that pisses of diabetics more that anything else. We have this disease, we know what we can and can't have.
Just try to be understanding that it can be very embarrassing.
2007-01-05 04:48:33 · answer #6 · answered by buggerhead 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say what? Lied to you about it? Why are you trying to make drama, trauma and chaos out of this? How about HELPING her now that she has the diagnosis? It's going to mean a lifestyle change and she will need all the support she can get. Especially from the person who supposedly loves her....? Maybe she lied because she had an idea you would behave this way?
****Oh, good grief.....I just saw your other posts.....you are only 16. Grow up for God's sake.
2007-01-05 04:34:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heal Diabetes In Three Weeks - http://DiabetesGoFar.com
2015-09-03 21:34:27 · answer #8 · answered by Eulah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may have been embarassed or too afraid you wouldn't like her if you knew. It is a bad disease to begin with, so don't be ticked. Be supportive. If you care about her, it shouldn't matter whether or not she has diabetes or not. So, it's not like she 'lied'.
There are and will be bigger, more important things in life than this. Like I said, she was probably embarassed or afraid. Now is the time to choose to stay with her or not.
2007-01-05 04:34:56 · answer #9 · answered by wanninonni 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think she lied but just waited to tell you. There should be no reason to be upset. She now trust you enought to let you in on it. I am a type 1 and i don't go around telling everyone. I do however tell people that are around me like at work so they know if I have a problem.
2007-01-05 06:46:28 · answer #10 · answered by BAR 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋