diabetes type 2 help my wife has this and don't do what doctors tell her?

Question

she dont tell me alot about it but what is the out come if she carries on this way she is allso over weight what can i do can some one advise me please

Answer 1

my boyfriend has type 2 diabetes...when i met him 6 years ago, he'd had it for about 2 years...he had not been to the doctor since he found out he was diabetic. I kept pushing and pushing and maybe a year into our relationship, he finally decided to go to the doctor. The insulin he had been using that whole time was only meant to be used temporarily and the doctor told him that he was lucky to be alive.
So now...he's still not a model diabetic patient, but he does make most of his doctors appointments and he listens to about 75% of what they tell him to do, and he's still pretty healthy.

You can't make your wife do what she is supposed to do she has to decide to do it for herself. But maybe if you keep pushing her like i pushed my boyfriend, she will eventually feel it (either feel the love from you or the pain from not doing what the doctors tell her) and choose a healthier lifestyle.

Warning: sometimes my pushing caused arguments between my boyfriend and me, it may do the same with you and your wife. Don't be mean or angry when you push...and always let her know that you love her. And remember the arguing will all be worth it when she starts living healthy.

Answer 2

First off let me say I am sorry to hear your wife has this problem, it is very difficult to change your whole life when you are diagoned with this as an adult. You learn and get comfortable with how you live your life and then one day someone says hey you have this disease now you must change everything. Trust me I know, I was dianosed 6 years ago at the age of 27, I am a type 1 and now on an insulin pump. I can honestly say I was in complete denial, for atleast a year, until one day I realized it wasnt going away and by not doing what I needed to do I was literally killing myself. Not to mention all the mood swings and just generally feeling like crap, which comes when your blood sugar goes up and down uncontrolled, I wasnt only doing myself an injustice but my family too.
The best advice I can give is to be patient, learn as much as you can about this disease, and try to be as much help as you can with out making her mad. Other than that there is not much else you can do its up to her and hopefully she will realize that as hard as it is, is is possible. Once she sees how much better she will feel she might change her mind for good. One other thing you might be able to do is trying doing the grocery shopping. Buy lots of veggies, try to stay away from anythinhg with alot of carbs, if you can adapt to a version of a diabetic diet she may be more willing to try. (by the way a diabetic diet is a excellent meal plan for anyone not just a diabetic) Thats just a thought. Good luck I hope this helps a little.

Answer 3

I have diabetes and it is scary. The first thing you learn is you have shortened your life a MINIMUM of five years. You have problems with your veins clogging and that why so many diabetics die of heart problems. But there is small vein problems and large vein problems. Your kidneys will shut down and without a new one, you die. You go blind. Your toes, then foot, then legs will be amputated. As your kidneys fail, your blood pressure rises and then you get all the prolblems associated with that. You get acid reflux where acid in your stomach rises up your throat and burns away. You have gum problems and although your teeth are fine your gums are terrible. They bleed, your breath stinks, and then your teeth fall out. You must have good dental care and learn to keep your mouth extra clean and floss correctly. This goes on and on.
Being overweight is a sign of diabetes. Her body doesn't handle insulin correctly and you tend to put on weight very easily. Also your body tends to tell you that you need to eat. Another sign of diabetes is that your body shape is an apple. When you have that big waist, you are putting the fat on in front and that is very, very bad for your heart.
The sooner you get it under control, the longer you will live. Without control they will take you away piece by piece and it doesn't take long. and is a terrible death. This is the simple truth. You go on line and type in diabetes and get information so that you are informed and don't be afraid to ***** at her. You are the one that will have to see her through all of this so she has a responsiblity to you and any other family she may have. Anytime you have a sickness, it is in your best behalf to learn as much as possible. It looks like you need to help her out. There is the Diabetes Association and many other groups that will help with info. Get her to a dietician so she can learn what and how much to eat. Get her to a dentist. And tell her please, because you want her around. Hope this helps.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

I have type 2 and some people say it is not as bad as type 1 It is as bad and if you don't look after yourself you can end up with many other things wrong and you can also die you can help by talking to her GP and finding as much out about the condition as you canif you try and bully her she will just rebell so be a little understanding and most of all give her support lol

Answer 6

Man it's hard - people with diabetes are notorious for not doing what their drs tell them to do - once I met a dr who decided to specialise in diabetes only because people with diabetes are so well known for ignoring drs advice so he thought it'd be a good challenge!!! It is her body and you don't want to push her away or make her ignore her dr even more by trying to make her do something she doesn't want to do. I guess there are a few things you could do.

Firstly, educate yourself and hopefully her about diabetes as much as possible - make sure if she wants to make a decision about her health then it is an informed decision. Diabetes UK is the UK's biggest diabetes charity and have heaps of info - check out www.diabetes.org.uk. The concequences of diabetes can be extreemly serious - it's up to you how much you want to know (remembering that the worst hopefully won't happen and you don't wanna get really down or start to think it's hopeless (which it's not!)), but maybe the shock tactics might work best for her - you know best about this because you know her better than anyone. You could also find out if there are any support groups in your area that you could go to (try phoneing the diabetes clinic at your local hospital and asking them).

Secondly, tell her how you feel. I know that either you already have or you don't like saying stuff like that, but either way tell her and tell her again! I know that I look after my health far more for my man's benefit than for mine - I love him so much that I don't want him to worry and I don't want him to be alone. There's really 3 aspects to this (I'm guessing) - you need her to listen because 1) you're incredibly worried about her to the point that it's really afftecting you / stressing you out / scareing you - maybe even affecting your health or your relationship. 2) you want her to be feeling well - even though she might say she does, most people with type 2 diabetes don't realise how bad they're feeling untill they're feeling better and then they feel great! She could have more energy and be enjoying life more if her diabetes was well controlled. 3) Probably the bigest one - you don't want to loose her - it sounds extreme but I expect it's true.

Thirdly, give her heaps of love and support. It's hard to change your lifestyle but even small changes could have a big long term benefit and it might be that she just thinks it would be too hard so she doesn't want to bother - it won't be too hard because you will be there making the same changes to your own life style, helping her to find alternatives (eg. low carb snacks), and loving and supporting her every step of the way.

Finally maybe you could try to involve yourself by going to see the dr with her if she'll let you? That way you will know everything the dr's actually said so you won't worry more than you need to and so that she doesn't not tell you his advise just to get out of following it!

I hope you can find a couple of ideas in there that might help - you might have a fight on your hands but I'm sure she's worth it. Good luck xx

PS don't panic at some of the comments above - diabetes won't definitely kill her and won't definitely lead to a horrible death, although in some cases it could!!!

Answer 7

Sadly, there are a whole multitude of complications that your wife can get through not taking care of her diabetes ... blindness, heart attack, stroke, amputation, nerve-ending trouble (where she has compromised sensations, or not being able to feel such things as her hands and feet ... usually the feet first). The list goes on.

My advice would be to get your wife along to see her diabetes nurse or doctor and listen to what they have to say to her.

Answer 8

im very experienced with diabetes hospice taught me alot i took care of my mom, she died from it,i also have 2 cousins and a friend with it bad,u tell her if she doesnt listen,how will she like getting her limbs takin off,my mom could never get hers regualted,also if u notice ur wife talking out her head,take her to the ER, my cousin 22 drank with hers she got legs ,arms takin off and died, my mom had a leg takin off from a small piece of glass she stepped on, this is no disease to mess with,please if u need to ask me some thing feel free

Answer 9

Get in touch with her diabetic nurse or her doctor. She is playing about with her life and it is no joke. No good being sorry when it is too late.

Answer 10

Hi
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http://www.diabetesforums.com/