So I have this cousin who's staying with us because MY MOM is paying HER college education fee. For the past 3 years of being with her, I found out that she's a comp;ete liar. I mean, she tends to exaggerate things to make her look good (it's obvious enough that she's a liar) and she's somewhat close with my dad. One day, she gets into a fight with my other uncle (mom's bro) and she talks about bad things behind our uncle's back to my dad and me, and she also mentions that my mom is a ***** too. Obviously, even if my mom does have some flaws, I was really offended with what she said. It's as if she's not grateful that without my mom, she'd end up as a factory worker/maid. She lies to my dad that my mom got mad at him when my dad had this reunion, even if she really didn't. Sometimes I think that she tells her friends that my mom's making her into a slave, when she's being treated as a guest. It makes my family look bad.
I just want to strangle her right now. What would you do??
2006-12-30 23:59:26 · 14 answers · asked by Galadriel 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Give her a tune up
2006-12-31 00:03:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
strangle her i would say but there is other ways love just when she does that point it out,if she lying to your mum confront her right there an then and if she said bad things about your mums brother walk up to your mum and ask her if it is true and if she tell stories to your friends ask her in front of your Friends why and where she get that idea from, baby the only way to beat this problem is to kill it at the sours don't let her get away with it like I said if you hear her doing anything wrong tackle the problem immediately don't wait a second and ask her in front of her friends why she tell lies about your mum and then tell her friends there and then the real stories. You Will have to be cruel to be kind to your own family and she is a part of that I know but looks like she overstayed her welcome.
2006-12-31 00:11:26 · answer #2 · answered by tazdevil007au 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd just stay out of the situation. It will only make things worse for all involved if you start harping on her. Liar's are nasty people, and can't be trusted to tell the truth and be honest about what they say and do.
If she is in college she will soon want to be out on her own, give it some time see what happens and don't start a big family fight it just isn't worth it.
2006-12-31 00:03:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi you said that you have this cousin who's staying with us because MY MOM is paying HER college education fee. First of why is your family offering this financial help to a cousin .....? That in itself is yes very lucky for this cousin to have and get many dont have that in life let alone somewhere to live rent free too I assume etc? For the past 3 years ...wow.
Now this honestly to me just sounds like the REal World meaning Your family is real and were not watching the brady bunch. I think this too will work it self out and needs to be approached to her though in a proper way though were she really hears you. Maybe you feel she is selfish and takin much for granted and maybe that is all she knows for now so educate her with maybe a lil reverse psych. no need to strangle, kill with kindness as they say better to keep ur friends close yet your enemies even closer....but she no enemy just more like a sis whom peeeesssed u off a bit for said neg remarks about people u love.
yes immediatly let her know ur feelings an ask why she feels the need to spread garbage like a juvinile throwing a temp tantrumo others w/no business of theirs or it would of been told to them tell her so makes her look like the idiot for others say how hideous and exaggerated she can sound that they feel that she may not be getting enough attention or possibly could be on some kind of drugs for she sounds so compulsive to gossip as if it sounds so fast as if not to forget one god forbidden neg remark said about another....just give her back some bullpoo so she eventually wont want to ask others in fear of them being concerned about her paranoia and obsession to gossip.....seen it work before......otherwise too u can try doing the mature talking thing but only if she gives real mature answers otherwise ur just gonna get lies anyway and get no where.
everyone should just diss it all around which is the easiest way to go and just know she talks alot chit and needs to feel needed or important an laugh it off but if u wanna play a bit its up to You....
remember.......we cannot change no one Just Ourselves , just think how many people you would have to strangle otherwise that would judge or say lies about us or others we care for.....whew.....F'em all
If a vindetta is more your way,
whateva just dont let karma get ya , dont intentionally hurt anyone karma i feel is real and yes what comes around goes around 3 fold.
good luck
2006-12-31 00:38:25 · answer #4 · answered by NatureOrNurture 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have a family sit-down, and lay everything out on the table. During that time, tell your parents how she is making you feel, and also of all her other lies. Your feelings should come first before anything else to them. Good luck!
2006-12-31 00:02:32 · answer #5 · answered by Melanie K 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She sounds troubled and insecure; give her a hug and tell her you understand and that you think of her as a sister and love her and that all of you are proud of her accomplishments. Once said, how could she ever talk bad about any of you again? It's worth a try...what have you to lose?
2006-12-31 00:10:17 · answer #6 · answered by territizzyb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i would also like to strangle her too but u shouldn't...... this is what you should do...... u need to sit her down and tell her something like this"why are u always lying to people.... first of all, what you are telling your friends is not true.. you should kissing our *** because they are paying for your education... we are letting you stay her... eat our food... have heat.... we could of let you stay on the streets.... i don't no what the f*uck your problem is but you need to stop before i do something about it.... i could kick your ***, put up camera's around the house, follow you around or what ever it takes to prove that u are a lying ***** that free lodes our ****** house".....(sorry about the swearing but just reading it gets me mad) :-)
2006-12-31 02:28:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go to her and have a long hear to heart. I would express to her my feelings in a calm voice and manner. And really let her know how blessed she is and how disrespected you feel she is being. And let her know how this makes you feel. Remember it is not what you say but how you say it. So keep in mind calmly and with respect. Good luck and God bless****
2006-12-31 00:12:23 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got to separate yourself from all the crap, somehow. (you don't have the only dysfunctional family.) But,as a family living under one roof, everybody needs to sit down together and get it all out and get the truth.
2006-12-31 00:06:12 · answer #9 · answered by Scorpius59 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have her parents talk to her(the *****)after 3 years cant every body read her nothings
2006-12-31 00:10:26 · answer #10 · answered by robert c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋