I feel like I'm pretty hopeless at starting conversations and I'm hoping to get some help. I hope you guys can give me a list of acceptable questions to ask a person you have first met, to break the ice and get conversation flowing.
2006-12-30 23:54:32 · 11 answers · asked by jaena 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
ASK them
What they do for a living
What they do for fun
Do they travel, if so where
Where are they from/what was is it like there
Do you worship the devil (its good to know these thigns before you beceom to involved)
Ask if they know any funny jokes (everyone knows one, usually)
Ask them questions situationally dependant basedon where you are or whats going on,.. e.g. where di you get that outfit, etc
what kind of food they like
what kind of music they listen to
sports intrests,
book intrests
movie intrests
people who inspire them
etc
2006-12-31 00:05:33 · answer #1 · answered by Z 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've seen a few of the answers here and I'm shocked by them. Is this what people do? Sit around and try to turn a social engagement into an uncomfortable job interview? And then wonder why the guy is boring you? No wonder so many first dates are so awful.
A date, or anything that includes a conversation, is not composed of a series of potentially uncomfortable questions. Try SAYING something first. The old comedians used to start their act by saying goofy things like "I just flew in from Vegas, and boy are my arms tired." Get a laugh if you can. Try current events in the world or your life and say it in an interesting way. Then you can follow with a question about it. Do it the easy way and learn to say what is on your mind instead of planning.
When you do ask questions, the purpose is to see how the person is, not so much what the answer is. There should be a few things about a person that are important to you, that you need to know. Feed them in here and there, not all at once.
When thinking about what is acceptable, you can never tell what will set someone off recalling a bad experience and spoiling your date. However, there is a short list of things you should not ask. Fatally stupid questions include the ever-popular, "So...how did your bff die?" which will make them sad and angry, and "So, how is dating going?" which will make them think of other women instead of you.
Both sides are responsible for keeping the conversation going. It's a measure of chemistry if you can do it. Take your cues from what you are doing and your surroundings. If it's a meal, there is a whole world of food to talk about. Bad waiters, music, etc.
You may ask questions to expand on something the other person has said. But make sure it is something you are really interested in. If not, don't take it too far because you'll find yourself in a conversational hole you can't get out of. Be as honest as courtesy allows you to be on whether you like something or don't.
2006-12-31 10:14:51 · answer #2 · answered by Benji 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First impressiosn last the longest. The purpose of a conversation is is to know more about the other person. So to get this info, you have to give yours first so just add a little humor and let her know what kind of a person you are or what you like to do then take it from there and ask him/her the question that you would like to know as you have already created a situation and have played fairly so the other perosn will be obliged to answer and perhaps continue the conversation. E.g if u are sitting by the sea side tell her of one of your funny/good experiences you had there (mind u it should not be abt ur ex) and the nask her if she is a beach person or not..... all the best
2006-12-31 10:34:16 · answer #3 · answered by Sam 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well im not a guy but i think you should respect any suggestions you can get if they're insightful. Not expecting that mine are but maybe i can offer some tips.... Hope they help. and even if not good luck cuz i feel your pain on this 1 girl! First impressions can be so difficult it;s like being interviewed & can either be a "hit" or "miss" sometimes. Anyway, some ice breakers or good conversation starters.... *where do you work (if its a fun or interesting job talk about it more & ask questions, like "whats the craziest thing that's ever happened there?" *been 2any good concerts lately? *where is your family from *talk about things you have in common...........*tell a funny story about something that happened 2 you recently (even if you have 2 make it up)....But The most sincere & important thing i can tell u, & it may sound really lame but its the truth.... you HAVE 2be confident in yourself & dont second guess everything you say. Confidence is a huge display. If people sense you are uneasy, it can make them uneasy. And men are attracted 2 women who are vocal & confident. It shows strength. So focus on your strong points, whether it be making some1 laugh, having good listening skills, or simply being at ease with some1 & making them comfortable. Anyway good luck & have a good new year!
2006-12-31 08:10:10 · answer #4 · answered by Trinity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After introductions you may ask him of his profession and you can let him tell you more about a topic according to it. Example if your talking to a chef, you know he is familiar of cooking and you ask him to tell you about the latest dishes he made or does he alter some recipes, etc... something about food and cooking. Meaning like this you catch his attention and his favourite subject and you become familiar with him and then you can change topic from one thing to the other.
2006-12-31 08:36:56 · answer #5 · answered by angel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it might be better if you tell them a little about yourself, your favorite music, movies, books, and take one subject at a time, then ask them what their favorite music is. that way you are sharing information and the other person can do so also
2007-01-02 02:42:17 · answer #6 · answered by walterknowsall 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you do for a living? Where do you like to spend your free time? Who do you admire in the world today? Where do you see yourself in five years from now?
2006-12-31 07:57:43 · answer #7 · answered by Isis 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How do you like this weather?
What do you do for a living? Where do you go to school?
Do you see what our home team did?
2006-12-31 08:37:11 · answer #8 · answered by Jeancommunicates 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"What do you do"? (Meaning what does the person do for a living)
2006-12-31 08:50:44 · answer #9 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's ur horoscope?
2006-12-31 08:02:27 · answer #10 · answered by Jamie J 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋