Does this make me a bad person?

Question

I suffer from depression but I feel like I cant tell anyone about it. I have friends who say I can tell them but when I do they get pissed off and tell me to drop the pity party. I've been a self mutilator for years (cutting and burning)...and when my friends (the same ones who dont wanna hear my "whining") find out about it they get pissed off and wont talk to me. I feel like I have no one to turn to and hurting myself is my only outlet. The problem is it seems like I have nothing in my life that I should be "upset" about. Im not privelaged, by any means..but I know theres people who have horrible lives, so feeling like this makes me feel like a bad person.Does being depressed and a cutter make me a bad person?..How do I deal when nobody wants to hear it?

Also- I dont expect people to want to hear about my problems..I just wish they wouldnt pretend they want to help, and then get mad when I actually try to talk to them about it.

Answer 1

It doesnt make you a bad person but you definatley need help. I dont mean that in a mean way either. There are lots of people like you, you should seek support groups. Dont be hurt by your friends either. People who arent depressed dont understand it so they dont know how to support it. Seek support groups or professional help.

Answer 2

OK, here is my two cents. Being depressive and a self-mutilator does not make you a bad person. You cant help who you are and if these "friends" dont want to listen, or make you feel even worse when they do, then find a new group of friends to be around, ones that will at least make an attempt to understand.
As far as coping, find a really creative outlet for your feelings and use that instead of hurting yourself. Some of the most talented and respected Authors, Musicians, Painters, etc... were either Bi-polar or Depressed.
Hang in there it will get better.

Answer 3

I think it's probably more than your friends can handle. They get upset with you for hurting yourself and don't know what to say or do. I really suggest you get counseling. You are not a bad person so get that out of your mind right now. You are looking for an outlet for your fear, inner pain and internal conflicts and cutting or burning yourself is only a quick fix. It may help for a moment but the feelings always come back right? Please find someone....not a friend, but a counselor, to talk to. You can call the United Way and they will see you and you only pay based on what you can afford. Talking to an outside third party is surprisingly helpful and cathartic. I really believe this will help you to get out your feelings without the guilt you are feeling now. You don't have to go on feeling this way. It is a new year, time for new beginnings, so don't let it go....get some help so you can live a better, fuller life. You deserve it. Take care.

Answer 4

First off, your not a bad person. You wouldn't beleive how many people are cutters and depressed. You need to seek medical attention and maybe a counselor. Start by talking with your guidance counselor at school. They will have the resources you need to get some help. Depression is a real thing; I know because I've suffered with it for a long time. As far as your friends are concerned, they apparently aren't your real friends or they would be doing whatever they could to help you. I will be praying for you and your situation. Good Luck in your recovery.

Answer 5

How many times do people ask " How are you today." They really do not want to hear anything but a positive...or a very limited response..."I have a cold," not a long story or details about any problems one might have. Youe not a bad person, but you need to understand that humans like to be around positive people.....its who they become drawn too at any size grouping. The person who tells jokes well, kids other well, tell great stories, play games well; people want to hang withthat person. Friends do want to hear problems.....but it's what you say...and how you say it. If your just reapeating the same stories and problems to the same people....others come to the conculsion you like your misery...other wise you would of made changes to get out of the situation.

We all have character flaws. Those who try to acheive a good life seek overcome them, change behaviors that cause problems, and seek new outlets as we mature.

What your question really states is that you want people to hear your problems, and these are long on going problems you have never resolved. It is the same issues you bring up over and over again.....that is what doctors are for. Professionals paid to listen!

Answer 6

You are not a bed berrson at all. I also had a depression, and I had almost all I wanted. You see, people doesn't understand how people who "have everything they need" can get depressed. I have family, friends, home, what to eat... and I was in depression. No one understood me. And that lack of understanding made my position even worse.
My advice is: I know that you feel better when you are talking about your problems to someone. But when you see that this person doesn't understand you, you feel worse than you felt before. But think like this: if your friends are not ready to listen to your problems and help you now, when you are going throw this very hard period, how can yuou expect them to help you later?
Go to visit therapist. That is the best solution. He or she can help you deal with your problems and omprove yourself, because as I can see, you don't have a good oppinion about your personality.
Good luck, and take care...

Answer 7

I agree with S H...and many kids today just aren't being taught to be kind and sympathetic any more...People cut because they are seeking desparate attention...from their parents, usually...you must have parents who are mean to you and blame you for everything, even when you have done nothing wrong...so you cut yourself in hopes that they give you attention, and that your act of self disiplining yourself will make them love you more...You just can't go on like this, and your friends just don't understand,..if they did, and they really cared, they would try to help you, not put you down more, and make you feel like the feelings you have of low self esteem and no self worth are validated.....You know honey, do you know how much Jehovah God Loves you? Do you know that His Son, Jesus Christ loves you so much? You only need to seek people who are loving and want to help you, and I know and can assure you that if you find the Lord, and forgive your parents, the cutting days will be behind...always remember how much they Love you darling, and I do too... God bless, angel....and no, to answer your question, it would NEVER make you a bad person...just one of God's little lambs that is suffering..

Answer 8

That's because you are telling the wrong people. You should be telling your parents, school counselor, clergyman or another adult you can trust. Then they can see about getting you the help you require.

REAL friends are hard to come by. They are the ones who are willing to help and stick by you. If you have not found that, then you know you don't have real friends. This is a very selfish world we live in. Finding people to care about things other than themselves is becoming a tougher battle.

Answer 9

from adventure ive had both a superb adolescence a million-12 then after I grew to develop right into a teen my father and mom divorced and we struggled alot i'd might want to say it completely relies upon on how the guy see issues in his existence dealing with both i strayed off into undesirable issues drugs and what not yet now im a superior man or woman i realized at the same time as suffering between correct and incorrect soooo i determined i wasnt going to be undesirable i replaced my habit and complications..there is a few truth in what your declaring yet in many circumstances something might want to happen undesirable human beings come from solid and undesirable childhoods solid human beings come from solid and undesirable childhoods also it basically relies upon which way the baby comes to a decision to bypass. basically because i finished up there (undesirable tennage existence) i knew i wasnt going to stay there.

Answer 10

You have to help yourself. See a doctor. Depression is a real disease. Whether or not you have had a good life or a bad one does not matter. Get some help and be good to yourself.