I HATE lying... I've been lied to plenty... so should I lie?
It's not like I'm official w/ a guy, but I am talking 2 (some call it dating) someone. However, I feel that since it's not official, I haven't to hold any reservations for anyone. I date & meet people randomly, is that wrong since I'm talking to somone while doing so? I mean, isn't that what "talking/dating" is supposed to be about, meeting people. However, I can't help but to feel bad, should I?
2006-12-30 23:17:09 · 12 answers · asked by Mishee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No you shouldn't feel bad unless you have led them on.
2006-12-30 23:25:10 · answer #1 · answered by Rio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only advice I can give is to be honest with the guys you are dating. If you're not having sex with them, then you should just say, "Hey, I'm not wanting a serious relationship right now & think it would be best if we both kept our options open." You should only get two responses:
1) He says that he wants to do the same & if things work out for him, okay - if not, thats okay, too.
2) He says that he wants a relationship with you & doesn't feel like he should keep you from living your life. A mature guy will always step back & be a man about it.
Either way your honesty will be appreciated - even if it isn't at that exact moment - & you won't feel so guilty about the whole thing. Dating is about meeting new people & having fun - not beating yourself up over how you think a guy may feel about you not wanting to get serious with him.
Try group dating to eliminate some of the obligation you may feel towards a guy. In a group of people that are "just dating", he can't ge the wrong idea. Or, just pay for things you want when you do go out. That will help out in letting him know that you don't expect things from him (i.e., a relationship or commitment) & that you're not using him. He should respect you for it & return the favor.
Good luck!!
2006-12-30 23:43:25 · answer #2 · answered by kimberly g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is anything wrong with dating more than one guy at the same time as long as you are not commited or as long as some other guy is just hanging around for the ride. Communication is appropriate in a matter like this. What do you really want? Maybe just feeling out a few?
2006-12-30 23:44:01 · answer #3 · answered by meganzopf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not wrong for your thoughts. Dating and talking is perfectly right things to do while you are looking for your best partner. But do not go into anything intimacy -- else you are as equal as a flirt. And do not give your partners too much wrong thoughts of "already accepted as real relationship" -- else you are cheating others. So move carefully and it should be alright until you find your best . Then stop this when your prince charming is found.
2006-12-30 23:52:43 · answer #4 · answered by dolphin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dating and going out are two separate things.
Until you have a special guy in mind, and need to stay on course. You need to "play the filed" ; is just a process of elimination.
Once you find the guy you like make absolutely sure your feelings are clear between each other and honor this commitment.
2006-12-30 23:34:17 · answer #5 · answered by Phillip 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called dating. One or 500 is totally cool as long as there has been no agreement to be just the two of you.
The more the better.
Do you buy the first pair of shoes you try on? No way... you try on a bunch. Shoes are just like guys. You keep try'n 'um on till you find a confortable fit.
Oh ya, knock off the lying. Remember how it felt? Don't do it to someone else.
2006-12-31 00:10:12 · answer #6 · answered by lola bunny phd 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think there's anything wrong with it as long as the people who you are talking to are aware that you only want to be friends with them and not looking for anything serious. If they ask you if you are seeing/dating other people than you should be honest and say yes that way if they are looking for a serious girlfriend they can look elsewhere and not waste time with some one who isn't going to be serious.
2006-12-30 23:25:31 · answer #7 · answered by Rocky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with casually dating several guys / girls at the same time, provided you haven't already committed yourself to one in particular. I doubt they've made any such commitments to you, based on what you've said, so no big deal.
2006-12-31 00:22:52 · answer #8 · answered by Ketel One Up 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If both people understand that they are just dating and there is no commitment there then it is fine. As long as both people are on the same page.
2006-12-30 23:38:31 · answer #9 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Play the field.....Do you have a ring on your finger? Are you intimate with anyone? When you start with the 'I love you' and words with feelings, then 2 or more is a no-no.
2006-12-30 23:25:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋