A spanking on the bottom of your child. Agree or disagree?

Answer 1

Totally disagree

Answer 2

No need to spank, although I don't feel a slight spank on the bottom will turn the kid into someone who is a bully later in life or make him/her feel big people can "hit" little people. Up until the age of 7, the age of reason, you need to make that small person understand right from wrong, and if a spank is what is needed, then spank. Some kids just won't listen, or understand punishment such as time out is to help adjust their behavior. A spank just might do the trick. Not a beating, but a quick wake up spank. I would suggest spanking as a last resort. Otherwise, I always used the idea of counting to three and if they don't stop what they're doing, then a quick spank is called for, but trust me, one spank is all they need and then the count to three rule works.

Answer 3

Depends on the situation. I think if your child is being directly defiant then you should spank. Never do it in anger. It is meant to be used as discipline not as punishment. It is best to start at an early age and make sure they know the rules ahead of time and if they break the rule or what is expected of them, then they should expect to be spanked right away. You shouldn't have to tell them more than once. If you tell them something, and they don't listen right away, spank right away. This does not mean beat. Don't let yourself get to the point where you are frustrated and doing it out of anger. It should only be done when you are calm, and expain to them the situation and let them know that it is your job as a parent to make sure you bring your child up to be respectable and decent. Explain that you love them, and what they said/did was not right and that it is your job to make sure they correct their behavior. In other situations where your child needs to be punished, you can take away something that they value, (toys, games, going places, etc.).

Answer 4

totally agree, i once heard a story about a child that pushed his sister down, she skined her knee, ran inside to mother, mother in turn went to the door and told her son to get in the house, in turn he replied f-you mom (by the way this kid is 6) they went back and forth a few time like this before the father came out tried the same thing and got the same answer, so as any good parent would do, he went out grabed him up and spanked him all the way to the house. then the guy next door ,whos teenager this kid. heard the f- word from, called the cops and the father went to jail. i was spanked when i was a child, i dont go around hitting other people for making me mad. and what do you do when time out dosent work? "oh, well he must have ADHD" thats BS too. they make up disorders so they can medicate instead of disipline.

spank if you have to i say, and everyone else mind your business

Answer 5

I totally agree. I am for spanking. I have a 2year old and a 4 year old.when they do something wrong after time out they get a little spanking.
I was spanked as a child and it didn't hurt me one bit. I think that if you don't spank or discipline your children that is they are out of control and it seems like a lot of children are out of control now a days.

Answer 6

Yes I agree. Although with some children like my 3 year old, spanking does not work 90% of the time so we take her fav toys away for a day or two.

Answer 7

agree...he was 8 years old when i did that, and now he is 14 and it took only one time for me to do that to him...he got the message. I sat with him and talk to him abt what wrong he did and that he was going to get a spankin, i bent him over my lap, swap him three times, i gave him a hug and told him that I don't expect him to do what he did wrong again, and he didn't. It just depends how you do it. Dont spank with hate. Explain all what he did. I know there's going to be alot of ppl that disagree, but i don't care. It's my child and I'm raising him the way i want. He's in Jr High now, doing great in school, loves being on the basketball team. Communication is now the key and punishment = well in teenagers, I had to rethink and the best way was to take the things that he enjoys entertaining himself with....Playstation, Computer, phone.

good luck and happy new year.

Answer 8

42 year old father of 3 here. When I was growing up, school shootings, stabbings and such were hardly ever heard of. In school, you screwed up, you got to go to the principle's office and get the paddle, Then when you get home, you might get it again. Now , time out, no tv.go to your room.kids think, hmm,,that's not too bad, and what I did was fun,,no deterrent, they do it again or worse. A pop on the bottom of a 2 year old child gets their attention and lets them know you are serious when you say NO! My children are 14 - 12 and 6.I love them to death and they love me,They are respectful to all adults and not sassy or trouble makers. My older sister on the other hand is a time out," we dont hit" parent. Her 16 year old is a total brat, mouthy, trashy, 2 times in trouble with the law already. Go to your room? yea right,,TV, ipod, playstations, computors,cell phones.sounds like a punishment to me.NOT!

Anyway, A spanking is more to get the attention and let them know when you are serious. My 2 oldest havent had spanking in quiet a few years now, the youngest will probably have a few more. Bur I would rather smack his tail when he is young then visit him in jail later.

Answer 9

Take it from me , someone who was forced to grow up quickly and tend to youngsters up to this day and the foreseeable future though none my own:
Kids need a little tush slap, not a massive hit just a slight slap.
The important thing is to tell them WHY they are being disciplined, seems like they won't listen but they do.

As they get older no punishment is better than regulating a favorite activity, ie TV, Internet, Phone, Out with friends, etc...

And please for the love of GOD, Don't beat your child at home or in a store, or else you'll have someone like big old me after you.
I don't care if it's not my business, Just don't beat the kid.
Even if he's Indigo or just spoiled.

Answer 10

I totally agree, but with certain guidelines and rules. For instance, I refuse to give my boys more than three licks. I save the punishment for serious misdoings. Like when my 7 year old tried to light his brother's pillow on fire. You can bet your money that I spanked him for that. He's the type that doesn't care though. I unplugged the cable on day, earlier September, and told him and his brother, 3, that it would not come back on until their room was clean. Two months later, I went and had our cable shut off, because we were watching it anymore. I've grounded him to his room. He doesn't care, he'll lay on his bed all day. Spanking him gets his attention, sometimes, but not for long. I feel I have a long road ahead of me with that boy! The only thing that works with him, is a reward system. If he cleans his room, he wants to know, what is he going to get out of the deal? We've started a chore chart. Right now it seems to be working, they haven't gotten spankings quite awhile now.

Answer 11

As a mother of 4(19-5) I would have to say spanking is not needed as a disciplinarian measure.All it does is teach your child that you hit when you are angry.Then when they get older...guess what they hit too!An appropriate response is to make the punishment fit the crime according to age of course younger children respond well to time out in a chair (1min/yr of age)an older children can benefit from having a loved thing such as tv time or computer time taken away..this still works on my 15 yr old...so it can't be too bad.