I have been divorced for a year and have been on quite a few dates since but haven't been able to find someone that I connect with on all levels. It's like all the good guys are taken, gay, or just all around jerks. I really have a problem with comparing all my dates to my ex-husband. I really need HELP!!!
2006-12-30 22:49:20 · 17 answers · asked by msmidnite 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we r here, but now we have beer bellies. lol
2006-12-30 22:53:52 · answer #1 · answered by jesse james 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about your ex husband, and how can you compare new dates to your ex, when you two divorced for a reason??? and look past the bad spots in the new guys, and take time to get to know them a little...
2006-12-30 22:53:03 · answer #2 · answered by chante3712 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeap, Ma'am. It's a discovery of yours not unheard of. Two spouses went by in my life getting to say the same you do.
The worst thing that could happen to you would be to dwell on your memories and stick to looking your future in the rear-view mirror of your ex-life. Men you'll find don't necessarily deserve being compared to anybody else. Some of them are pretty decent guys as they come. Besides, you'll do yourself a lot of harm thinking of the past.
Besides, let bygone be bygone. Wisest thing to do.
2006-12-30 22:56:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen honey if I make so bold as to speak for the good guys; they get shat on by the bad guys. To be totally candid with you, are you still in love with the memories of your married life? Clean house baby, then you might find out that the nrxt one is a good one.
2006-12-30 23:09:31 · answer #4 · answered by jimmyfish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NEVER compare your dates with your ex-husband, worse thing to do.
I am one of the few left, though, I'm never in clubs or bars, I work a lot, and on days off I stay home and relax.
2006-12-30 22:56:49 · answer #5 · answered by kayef57 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may want to work out all the baggage from your old relationship before you try another one. As for all the good guys, there are good guys everywhere, the right question I think, is which one would be good for you? That's the hard part......Good luck to ya!
2006-12-30 22:51:49 · answer #6 · answered by Mike G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit comparing guys to your ex, its not fair to them. Its not a perfect world, there's no such thing as the perfect guy, or the perfect girl. You just have to accept people for who they with all their good point as well as their flaws.
2006-12-30 23:01:10 · answer #7 · answered by Rocky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well good guy in every women is different ,u might be searching for someone who doesnt exist,also u never know if he is or isnt from one or two dates,there is good guys and good girls ,bad guys and girls,just when u date try to know someone a lot ahead before it,just dont date for dating.
2006-12-30 22:56:02 · answer #8 · answered by reifguy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
look at it from both sides. guys could be asking the same thing. every person has their flaws and virtues.all guys have good in them, it's just that not all types (of morals) suit your taste/personality. go on with your life. you'll find love. just wait for it.
wish you all the best for the new year!
2006-12-30 22:53:44 · answer #9 · answered by impasse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Miss. midnite its not that they went some where. we are a dying bread! also your just looking in the wrong spot. as far as comparing I do the same thing its natural hold your head up he will come!!
2006-12-30 23:23:29 · answer #10 · answered by csfretripper 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everybody has something good about them it just depends what u judge them on and what type of person u are too
2006-12-30 22:58:40 · answer #11 · answered by Olly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋