ok heres my problem, i am a freshman in college and i am living at home but i cannot stand my family. they annoy the hell out of me. i feel when i am home i am being held back from who i really am because i have to put a show on for them. what do i do? i can't move out because of my financial situation or lack there of. how can i just live with this? plz help
2006-12-30 22:32:24 · 18 answers · asked by kyle k 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Get a job.
2006-12-30 22:35:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have two choices so, weigh them pros and cons. You take a seat and take a honest and critical look at your life. If you remain under the roof of your parents. You are under their rules and gudielines regardless of your chronological age; so take a review. And see if they are things you can reslove or assist in making it better, or easier.
Obtaining a college education is a great sacrifice either way. One thing you can look at is the fact that you have options, staying at home, not working and only really concerned with your college education. That with in it self, a huge blessing.
You man also obtain your own apartment and steady employment. And work pay your own bills, and try to get your education at the same time. Not unheard of many people must do it this way. However, the alternative for you is a tremendous blessing. Or you may choose to live on campus. This first year is an ajustment. Stay focused the price is worth the payoff! Good luck with your choices. God bless****
2006-12-31 07:03:05 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
O.K. I might be able to help. I think that you need to ask yourself if you really hate your family. I think that being annoyed is completely different. I don't think you should ever hold back on being yourself or doing the things that you want to do. I really think maybe you should have a talk with your parents and let them know how you feel. Remember you are an adult. If they think that your being childish than tell them no your being yourself. I don't know if you're family is one of those families that have to have the perfect image but if they are than you need to tell them no one is perfect and you are definately not going to be the first family that is. Oh and if you have financial problems because of college and so on. than you need thank them for all their support.
2006-12-31 06:42:42 · answer #3 · answered by micahwyatt01 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't really hate your family, it is their behavior that you dislike. I encourage you to communicate with your family so that you guys can reconcile things together. It will do you any good to leave your house like that with remorse, pain and bad memories. Even if you intend to move out, it is advisable that you fix up things before making any move. Tell them how you really feel and how they make you feel-perhaps you are contributing to your own problems. Who knows?
Ask for a family meeting and express your thoughts. After all, they are your siblings and parents. That is why family is for, to love, encourage, support, tolerate and correct each other.
Don't give and keep on working and trying to make things better.
Happy New Year
2006-12-31 07:48:48 · answer #4 · answered by lou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all...grow up and dont hate your family. Second appreciate that you are in college and living at home. You have the rest of your life " to be who you are " . If you cant wait, then get a job and move out. But dont hate your family because you cant afford to move out and express yourself freely.
2006-12-31 07:09:36 · answer #5 · answered by Candy F 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Things will get better eventually, especially once you'll be able to move out. You'll see that you'll be able to love them better.
In the mean time, find ways to have more privacy in the house.
Hang out with some friends some more.
Or try to talk with your family, see if it's possible to make certain deals about the things that you're annoyed about.
I hope it works out well.
Good luck...
2006-12-31 06:41:04 · answer #6 · answered by StormyWeather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey, can you room with someone? get financial aid? quit
college a while, work, save, and then go back. your situation
has alternatives. think. have you had a down home talk with them?
if you live with them as you do, compromises may have to be
made. maybe they are being overly critical? are you being
oversensitive? how about your end? at home are you pulling
your weight.....chores, etc? if they are critical, see if
they are right, and try to improve on your habits, attitudes,
etc.
maybe someone will let you room with them for almost
nothing if you do chores, errands, etc. good luck
2006-12-31 08:24:39 · answer #7 · answered by Mark J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Home is the best place for a person to live. Try to adjust and if you are not getting the homely atmosphere ..... forget every thing and find another shelter.. lead a good life. All the best.
2006-12-31 06:43:34 · answer #8 · answered by horizon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you say "You hate your family" that means Mom and Dad. Well, who gave you the chance to be a freshman in college? Get your priorities right.
2006-12-31 06:42:39 · answer #9 · answered by sluggo1947 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I work full time and go to school full time, on-line. I live on my own. Talk to your college financial aid office for assistance, or your college guidance counselor. Where there is a will, there is always a way.
Hope this helps and best of luck to you!!
2006-12-31 06:37:33 · answer #10 · answered by oracle1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hm... juz, act normally. and if they cannot stand you, just argue and say, THATS ME. And tell them that you don't really feel comfortable living with them anymore as you're grown up and you want your own private space. Ask them if they can help you find somewhere where you can live quietly and peacefully. They are yourfamily after all. They should consider about your feelings before doing anything.
2006-12-31 06:38:57 · answer #11 · answered by AF 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋