What do I do?

Question

I've been going out with this guy for the past year and I don't think he's the one for me. There's no spark anymore and I don't think I want to be with him anymore.
He keeps telling me not to leave him but I don't like a few things he does.
I feel like leaving him but I don't know what to do and if it comes to breaking up, i don't know how to do it?

Answer 1

there is no much to know about breaking up
if ur heart tells u so u must follow ur heart
things will come from itself

Answer 2

Perhaps trying to find a mutual ground, somewhere u can both go to have a chat. If he refuses to listen try writing him a letter and explain your true feelings. Its not harsh but the best way to get through to someone who just wonr listen.

Maybe then if you right down how you feel from the ehart without any nastyness you can part on good terms. Doing this is the right thing because you have told us that u no longer want to be wirh him so it should give you confidence to tell him the same.

Good luck it wont be easy but you will feel.a sense of relief when its all over


happy new year

Answer 3

I understand where you're coming from.
Tell him you need a little bit of space for you to get your thoughts together; think about where you want to take things; and see really how you feel.
Tell him that it's only a temporary break which will do both of you good, as you just want to make sure how you feel and that you will contact him when you have reached a decision.
For this to be meaningful, he musn't put any pressure on you while you are taking this time to yourself.
Like that you are not lying to him, and it will definitely help both of you both.
Don't rush into any decision.
Good luck.kc

Answer 4

You do what is best for you. He sounds very insecure. Just tell him the truth. You can't continue to be with him anymore because it's a lie. You want to move on. Don't offer to be "friends", just cut it off. Change your phone number, don't answer his calls. He'll get over it, honey. You're actually doing this guy a favor and he doesn't even know it. Godloveya.

Answer 5

In what way do you not know what to do? It sounds like you feel morally obliged to stay with him for as long as he wants you to and never mind whether you're BOTH happy or not. That's a common feeling when you're thinking of finishing with someone for no justifiable reason. You know that when you tell him he'll say "But why?" and you won't be able to come up with a "good enough" reason. Where you're going wrong here is that you're making an assumption that you are only allowed to finish with someone if they agree that they "deserve" it. So, if he didn't do anything "wrong", then you've got no right to hurt him by leaving. And your feelings and wants just don't come in to it.

Get all those thoughts out of your head. You have as much right to put your feelings first as he has to put his feelings first. Life sucks. Think of it this way. When you go out with someone, you are trying them out to see whether they'd be any good for you as a life partner. If there wasn't the possibility that the answer might be "no", then you'd have married on the day you met, right? So... this is one of the guys who you've tried out and have realised you don't want to spend the rest of your life with. You don't have to have Ten Good Reasons. You don't have to get him to agree to release you. It would be lovely if it was always a mutual agreement, because nobody would get hurt and you could still be friends and blah blah, but more often than not that isn't the way it works. Your responsibility now, to him as well as to yourself, is to extract yourself from this position of "we're going out together and, who knows, one day we might marry" so that you can both find someone else.

No, telling him is not going to be nice. There's no way to make it nice. You're going to have to look him in the eyes and say "I don't love you any more and I don't want to spend the rest of my life with you" and when he says "But why - what have I done?" you're going to HAVE to say "Nothing, it's just the way I feel." And keep saying it until he gets the message. For God's sake don't try to soften the blow by making it sound like there could be a chance to carry on, or that you're not sure about what you're saying. That's going to complicate matters no end, drag everything out, and hurt the pair of you more in the long run.

There isn't a nice way, but that doesn't mean it's the wrong thing for you to do.

Answer 6

u have 2 break an egg in order 2 make an omlete.. so no matter what break up is gona hurt him. u just be frank to him.. tell him that the passionate feeling u hv for his has gone.. n love needs passion.. so u just cant love him anymore. n tell him ur a great guy but we r just not meant to be together.. u'll find a better girl than me in the future.. good luck!

Answer 7

No matter whom you date, it is just a matter of time until the luster falls off. The older you get the more your perspective changes. How you think and feel as a young person will change a lot when you are older. Presumably you gain wisdom with experience. Do him a favor and dump him.

Answer 8

if u wanna leave just sit him down and tell him that ur feelings have changed for him and u think its better if u both go ur separate ways if he dont care about how u feel and gets mad then thats something he'll have to deal with u cant put ur happiness on hold just cause he dont wanna break up......dont sit around being unhappy

Answer 9

Breaking up is tough to do and receive. If there's no spark, there's no fire, hence no relationship. Just tell him that you don't have that feeling for him anymore... you know the butterfly in your belly feeling.

Answer 10

let your congents be your guide be true to your self and honest with him! tell him the things he does bothers you.just because the new car smell is gone doesn't mean the car is a lemon.always be fatheful.but also do what makes you happy don't be with someone if you truly don;t love them one can't love enough for two!