i am planning on breaking up with my boyfriend. however, i dont want this to be just a sudden break-up because i doubt that he has any idea that this is coming... hes very oblivious. is there a way i can warn him somehow without making the break up harsh and sudden?
and im not planning on doing it this week since it is new years... i dont want him to remember the holiday in a bad way..
2006-12-30 22:15:30 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
and another thing... we are in a long distance relationship. hes in town for the holidays, but leaving next week. i want to do it in person, but i dont want that weighing on his mind while he's driving 6 hours back to school. when should i do it?
2006-12-30 22:18:53 · update #1
i dont want to play childish games either.
2006-12-30 22:20:20 · update #2
there is no easy way, but i do admire and respect how much u have thought about it. how much his feelings matter. sorry i have no advice, just don't listen to the ones telling u to play games. u r better than that. i can see why he feels so highly about u.
good luck
2006-12-30 22:28:00 · answer #1 · answered by jesse james 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that you don't think the two of you should see each other any more... and do it soon, so he'll have a couple of days to think about it before he drives back to wherever he's going.
If you don't want to play games, just come out with it and tell him. And do it sooner rather than later. If you wait too long and then don't tell him because you don't want him to have that long drive with this on his mind, you'll end up having to either write to him about it, or wait until he's in town again to tell him face to face...
Just tell him. Breaking up with someone that you still care about is never easy, but if it has to be done, it should be done as soon as possible, so that both of you can move on. If it's not his or your first break up, he already knows what it's like.
2006-12-31 06:41:54 · answer #2 · answered by Kelly B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hm... you should have a talk with him AFTER the new year. Im not sure, but breaking up with a boyfriend at the start of a new year doesn't sound good to me... have a nice little chat with him. Tell him how you feel at the moment, and that you really want to break up and hopes that he will understand.
2006-12-31 06:20:56 · answer #3 · answered by AF 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can try playing games like not making dates, not calling him, not being responsive when he calls. But, you know, that's not honest and it's just cruel.
You sit him down and say, "This isn't working for me. I'm sorry. I don't think we're meant for each other." Then, you talk to him. See if you can give him some reasons. If there's something he can change, give him the opportunity to do so.
Otherwise, you're just faking it.
2006-12-31 06:18:34 · answer #4 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Is there an easy way to make it less harsh? Maybe, but I'd just say, "I don't think that this relationship is going anywhere. I think we should part as friends."
2006-12-31 06:19:48 · answer #5 · answered by Estevan R 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Childish games are what guys understand. Start by not calling him anymore and when he calls you act annoyed and be short with him. Or don't answer his calls and he'll figure it out sooner or later.
2006-12-31 06:28:51 · answer #6 · answered by cweetepye 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be doing what he will not like and that alone is a big warnning that you are tired of his relationship before you finally call him off
2006-12-31 06:40:38 · answer #7 · answered by theybourkay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him. Let him know you are having problems in your relationship with him. He might agree with you. and it will be a mutual split.
Try working out any problems with him.
If you talk to him, he won't take it so hard.
He will survive.
2006-12-31 06:21:28 · answer #8 · answered by Spikey and Scruffy's Mummy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try the whole i need personal time thing you girls do to break our hearts...and start not seeing him as much....he'll get the point after a while....
2006-12-31 06:18:10 · answer #9 · answered by Mr. Right 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just start being a bit cold with him.. not giving him much attention.. try to not to see him and talk to him as much as possible.. that will do.
2006-12-31 06:23:25 · answer #10 · answered by Me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋