I’m in my mid 20s and have been happily dating my boyfriend for 5yrs now. Neither of us had many relationships prior to being together, he had 1,2-yr relationship that was sort of serious. My sister gets practically proposed to by each person she has ever dated, I was getting a bit jealous. I asked my boyfriend tonight why he never says anything like I could see us getting married one day. He replied that he could never marry me unless he dated other people. Our relationship is wonderful, so I do not get it. I feel so insulted, I mean I do not necessarily want to married this instant but I thought in maybe 2-3yrs I would. I think if you truly love someone enough to ever marry them, you shouldn’t need others to confirm how you feel about the relationship, just maybe time before marriage till you are ready. I have no idea what to do. I don’t know if he is scared, or what, please give me advice. I don't think I could stand by as he dates to see if I'm the 1. I don't want to throw us away.
2006-12-30 21:47:17 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You know what? You say to him, "Thank you for answering my question. I release you to date other people. Perhaps you can call me someday and let me know if you find someone. In the meantime, I'm going to find someone who can appreciate me right now."
Frankly, the guy is an idiot. If he doesn't understand that he has it good, he should go out there in the world and see what else is out there. He already had a relationship to compare this with. If he's not sure now, he never will be. Five years is more than enough.
Leave him and don't look back. Doing this will hurt for a litle while, but staying with him will hurt a lot more in the long term.
2006-12-30 21:52:24 · answer #1 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok there are many problems with the question you asked. The first is that you said you don't want to get married for another 2 or 3 years. The rest shouldnt matter if that were true. 2nd if you been with him for five years and he thinks he wants to date other people then he is not worth your time.(if he isnt already see other people behind your back, he will)3rd his answer means he doesnt want to marry you! You should have a long talk with him about what you want in life and what he really wants, and if your still this far apart move on with your life.
2006-12-31 06:18:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel all my friends are married and i think my 19 year old baby sister is next.My ex said the same thing and we started dating other people but he always came back running to me.He mentioned he wanted to get everything out of his system, things to be perfect ,and get himself together financially before we go to that next step.I'm dating other people because i choose not to wait on him,if he proposes when he gets back when he leaves that would be good.You can't make him do something that he is nt ready for and if he does it will be because he did it for you and that will not be good.Take time out to think and ask yourself is it worth you leaving or be patient and stay.Men art wired different and their timing is different.
2006-12-31 06:08:39 · answer #3 · answered by imacutie2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's not going to buy the cow when he's getting the milk for free. tell him to go date other people. i married my first boyfriend 5 years almost to the day that we started dating. i would have never gone on with the relationship if i didn't think it was leading to anything. we will be married 2 years in April.
2006-12-31 05:54:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are usually scared towards marriage;women are open and free and want to start a family. Now, I don't want to disappoint you but maybe you're boyfriend isn't as ready as you are for a marriage.I think you should talk open to him and say what are you're expectations, you're desires. If he loves you he will understand that you don't force him,you just want to see that you can rely on him.I hope a helped you.Good luck!
2006-12-31 06:00:07 · answer #5 · answered by Amanda Golick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he said that to you !!!! that is just emotional blackmail so that he can screw around, come back to you and give you whatever disease he picks up along the way. Suppose you could join a swingers club then you could see who he was with and maybe get someone for yourself too
2006-12-31 05:54:20 · answer #6 · answered by Jovi Freak 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey, how long are you willing to wait?....he's reply was very arrogant and hurtful and a wake up call..
2006-12-31 05:50:17 · answer #7 · answered by sayasyoulike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋