I am an attractive girl and I have a lot of respect for myself. I want to remain a virgin until I am married because I feel like it is something you should give to your husband and only your husband. I mean guys, do you really want to meet a guy that had sex with your wife before you got married? I beleive in fooling around and doing other things, but I feel that sex is different and should be something you do with your husband. Is it a turn off that I think this way?
2006-12-30 21:21:53 · 37 answers · asked by beautylover 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it is the right way. Too bad more women aren't like you
2006-12-30 21:22:52 · answer #1 · answered by lefty 4 · 4⤊ 2⤋
For me that's not a turn-off so much as an automatic disqualification.
No interest in having sex, 'fooling around' or marrying you.
But for the kind of guys you are looking to marry- that is what they want too, so go for it.
I do find it interesting how many abstinence fetishists feel the need to troll for reassurance here. I mean, that's what you're doing, right? Begging for pats on the back and "me too"s and "you go, girl"s?
If it's what you really honestly want, you shouldn't care what other people think.
BTW- keep sucking ***** for Jesus if you like, but you're only fooling yourself. It's all "sex." It's all done for the same reasons and has the same effects.
And it either means something more, or it doesn't.
2006-12-30 21:40:26 · answer #2 · answered by randomstupidhandle 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
For me that's not a turn-off so much as an automatic disqualification. No interest in having sex, 'fooling around' or marrying you. But for the kind of guys you are looking to marry- that is what they want too, so go for it. I do find it interesting how many abstinence fetishists feel the need to troll for reassurance here. I mean, that's what you're doing, right? Begging for pats on the back and "me too"s and "you go, girl"s? If it's what you really honestly want, you shouldn't care what other people think. BTW- keep sucking ***** for Jesus if you like, but you're only fooling yourself. It's all "sex." It's all done for the same reasons and has the same effects. And it either means something more, or it doesn't.
2016-05-22 23:17:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that in these times, it is a very admirable thing to hold out for the right one. But at the same time, fooling around with someone & then expecting them not to feel shut down after a heated make out session when you say "no", is kind of an ego killer. Virginity isn't just about being pure sexually - it is also about being pure in your heart & mind as well. Saving your virginity is great, but walk the walk & talk the talk. Holding hands is an innocent we to show someone you like & care about them. Kissing is okay, but you have to set limits. What happens if you make out with a guy & when you say "no", he forces himself on you. You're just setting yourself up for all kinds of things when you allow yourself to think it's okay to "just fool around" before marriage.
2006-12-30 21:48:50 · answer #4 · answered by kimberly g 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My all respect for your decision! Don't let anyone or anything make you change your mind. Virginity is too precious. So MAKE SURE you'll find the BEST man, man with a GREAT character and personality, as your husband. A man with the same values. You don't deserve a lower man!
2006-12-30 23:25:45 · answer #5 · answered by bogey 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it is not a turn off for most guys.as for myself l wanted the same to remain a virgin until l'm married. Or at least until l find true Love.Most girls want a guy with experience even though they tell me l'm good looking most of them are turned off by a guy who keeps his virginity.as for me it doesn't matter what she's done in her past as long as it's Love from that point on.
2006-12-30 21:31:20 · answer #6 · answered by catsclaw 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends how long u 2 done known each other thats y its good to know a guy for atleast over 4 years and since he has history with u he will wanna marry u sooner or later if u 2 get together
2006-12-30 21:24:22 · answer #7 · answered by Young boi 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Great questions. I don't place any value on virginity so it would be a pointless gift for me. It's not about "me" though; it's about you! If that's how you feel, then stick to your guns; nothing wrong with it. And if you change your mind as you mature, then no problem there either. It's all about what you believe is important.
2006-12-30 21:32:02 · answer #8 · answered by Hank Hill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls like you are rare. Like a diamond in the ruff. Keep hold on your belief because you will find the guy that appreciates that. I was going to save myself for marriage as well, but I gave into this girl when I went to college. hahahahaha
2006-12-30 21:27:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
not for me, my gf now is a virgin, and actually didn't believe in anything below the neck before she got married, and to be honest it makes me respect her.
Guys will differ find someone who respects you for it. If he has to be a virgin too, that's up to you. My gf knows i'm not.
2006-12-30 21:25:21 · answer #10 · answered by whoareyou 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ok i'm not sure how the guys feel but good for you. I think it's attractive and i have alot of guy friends that think it is too.And who doesn't love a little "face/head" stick with the foreplay and leave the sex for the one you marry.
2006-12-30 21:26:23 · answer #11 · answered by gia031582 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋