I used to see this guy about 4years ago, we split up and it broke my heart. about 2 years later we got back together and we split AGAIN as he went back to his girlfriend.
Anyways i have been seeing him alot ( not in the couples way ) and he said he wants me back and always liked me.is it worth risking getting hurt again? also we get on really well as friends and i don't really want to spoil that! has anybody else been in that situation and did it work out?
2006-12-30 20:58:00 · 28 answers · asked by red devil 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'd say no, leave the past where it is and let yourself try somethng new. It will be hard work from the start with trust issues, insecurity and self doubting.
Happy new year, hope you meet mr right!!!!!
2006-12-30 21:01:50 · answer #1 · answered by sammyantha 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It broke your heart becausze he left the relationship hence the word 'ex' now. I would strongly suggest not going back to where you once were as it will happen again. You will always be wondereing if he will leave and thats not a healthy balance to make it work.
Also from a trust point of view he compromised it a second time and decided to go back to his former g/f. Surely that rings alarm bells and now that you are still friends i would steer clear of anything more because you will get hurt again and you are worth more than that.
Let him know how you feel and dont make it easy to just worm his way back into your affections again. Keep your distance and go get yourself someone else. Im sure after this he will realise what he lost and that its too late to go back.
Good luck babe, happy new year
2006-12-30 21:23:16 · answer #2 · answered by Scatty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys have already split up 2 times already. That is a big sign right there. If it didn't work out, then it will never work out. That guy doesn't know what he wants and you're like a pawn in a chess game. I say just be friends and nothing more. If you get back with him, you risk breaking up with him a third time and that is a lot for a heart to take. If you stay friends with him, then you'll always have a friendship and friendships are harder to break.
2006-12-30 21:03:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was in this position for years, we got on as mates but there was such chemistry between us we kept getting it together. Unfortunately as a couple we argued none stop and made each other unhappy so split up and got back together numerous times.
Eventually I have had to stop all contact with him because it screws my head up not understanding why we get on as mates and get on sexually but can't be a couple!
Only you know what's right for you, is it worth one last chance? You never know!
Good luck.
2006-12-30 21:08:16 · answer #4 · answered by Poppy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
definitely it wouldn't work out...
i think it would be better if you would just remain as friends..
you have been hurt by him and definitely you would not forget that right???
you would always have those memories with you and this would somehow hinder you to give your trust and love to him because you already have an idea in mind that he can hurt you easily and leave you anytime...and if that guy really loves you he shouldn't have left you in the first place...
but if you really want to have a relationship with him again...just see to it that everything is really fine and he is not having an affair with another girl...and don't give evrything..leave something for your self,in case he would hurt you AGAIN...
2006-12-30 21:15:14 · answer #5 · answered by Mae_christine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I wouldn't go back to him as his girlfriend..It hasn't worked out twice before. You will be better off as friends this time..just keep it the way it is and perhaps see him less? Out of sight-out of mind so they say..
Get busy and push on with your own life and socialise more particularly this time of year. Join groups that may be of interest to you where you could make some life time friends.
There is obviously something that stops him from being totally committed to you. Has he fallen out of love with his girlfriend and is looking for reassurance elsewhere?
Re-invent yourself. Don't always be on that back burner!!
2006-12-30 21:09:05 · answer #6 · answered by Sani 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont do it! this guy is after what he can get!
I went through a similar thing i got to the second time of him blanking me before i realised that he wasnt worth it in the first place.
Move on and find somebody else!
2006-12-30 22:23:46 · answer #7 · answered by Unhinged.... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont do it just keep to being friends hes hurt you twice wats stopping him for a third time ive been there an
d yes its very painfull do you really want to start the new year off on a rocky relationship that could turn horrible any second
good luck and i hope you have a happy new year
2006-12-30 21:09:10 · answer #8 · answered by Karen And Ollie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey...once bitten twice shy....don't go there, he's holding you back darlin, he's an ex for a reason, move on and find a reliable boyfriend, he may want you back because he's got no one else, don't let him into your heart again for the 3rd time, there's a chance that he may just hurt you all over again....he's the past honey, look forward to the future without him
2006-12-30 21:04:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As painful as it is, don't go back to him. The facts are brutal in that he has broken up with you twice and caused you a lot of heartache. There are better people out there who will treat you a hell of a lot better, go and have some fun and find them!
2006-12-30 21:50:57 · answer #10 · answered by 31Alpha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋