ok so i was at a party with my bf,and every thing was really good, so my older brother Ofunlo was going to pick me up from my bf's house.my bf's parents wernt home and we were kissing and i told him to stop(he was taking off his cloths) i told him i didnt wanna have sex, he wouldnt stop then he held me down and took off my cloths and then did what he wanted then he stoped because my brother called and said he was driving up his street, and i was so scared and i'm afraid to tell my brother( i live with him, my parents are dead) im 15 and my brother is 23 and my bf is 17, should i tell him and if i do how do i tell him, i dont know if he used a condom or not, and i was a virgin and i'm really scared because i know if my brother finds out he's gonna kill boy that and i'm afraid that i'm pregnant, he told me that if i ell any body he would do it again then kill me, im just really scared....please help me and i dont need you to tell me how stupid i am, i'v considedered killing my self....
2006-12-30 20:55:37 · 8 answers · asked by nashoba 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
but my brother would probably kill him self also, and i dont want that,i mean i told him no,is this my fault, i know 2 years isnt a lot age wise but hes really like "buff" i guess you could say, compared to me he is a giant and i couldnt get him off of me. now i'm going to hell and if he isnt prooven guilty i'm gonna look so bad and then i'll be shunned by the chief,shawmans. and im really scared
2006-12-30 21:00:24 · update #1
oh my, that does sound pretty bad. I'd say you should break up with him and just wait until the next guy comes that you like. You should never have to go out with someone who would do that to you. You don't have to be scared. I bet that your brother wouldn't get mad at you if you told him the exact things you said in that question. Tell him that you told him to get off but he wouldn't. Your brother will know that it wasn't your fault, and he'll most likely get mad at your boyfriend for doing that. Plus that guy is too old for you and it happens that when one person goes out with someone that is over a year older then that person will most likely think about doing something like that. And I don't think your stupid. It's normal to be scared about something like this. But Don't kill yourself, just try to explain the whole thing to your brother, he'll help you, that's what brother's are for. Don't worry, if you tell your brother about that guy then that guy will probably never try that again, but ofcourse it is your choice if you wanna break up with him or not, but i strongly suggest you break up with him. But like i say it's up to you who you go out with. If you decide to break up with that guy then i am sure that somewhere down the road there will be another guy that might be closer to your age and you might like him more. he might be your true love, you just don't know it yet, but believe me, you'll find the one your looking for if you break up with him, if you decide not to break up with him, then fine, but the same thing might happen again, and if you stay with him, it might happen even more, and before you know it you will be pregnant, if you don't want to be pregnant at such a young age, then i suggest you break up with him.
2006-12-31 06:42:33 · answer #1 · answered by Richard C 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Tell the police. Don't wash. You need to prove you were raped. Also tell them about the death threat.
If you don't tell, this guy will do it to other girls, too. He probably already has, and none of them reported it, so that's why the guy isn't in jail already.
There are pills if you might be pregnant, but you need to take them within 72 hours.
Check out www.rainn.org. They have counselors who can help you.
2006-12-30 22:24:08 · answer #2 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
darling i think its better telling Ur brother because if u go to police Ur brother Will definitely kill him self CZ its a matter of trust ..ur brother had been both the father and the mother t you so he keeps u in hes utmost trust ,to him to getting to know thought the police wld hurt him so much and may b ur brother might NT wnt the whole world to knw it ...pls tl ur borther and hel deal with it any ways he is old with u ..and dont try ot defend ur bf hes not worth it ..
dont b scard ot ur brother hes nt gnr scorld u cz ur nt at falt .he loves u so dont wry
please take precautionary measures to prevent you from getting pregnant
2006-12-30 23:10:44 · answer #3 · answered by Oshi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Victim support n call the Police & ask for a charge to be made against this person who has stolen a valuable part of your life.
2006-12-30 23:47:26 · answer #4 · answered by edison 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What a bastard! He doesn't love you with his heart! He loves you only with his dick! Let your brother kill the bastard if he wants!
No wait, even better idea! Make a police report! The bastard raped you! He should burn!
You won't go to Hell, You're the victim here!
2006-12-30 22:03:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes you should tell someone. he raped you and he is just trying to threaten you by saying all of those things... he's not going to kill you. guys say things like that to threaten you and make you scared. do you love this boy? did u feel violated? are u really unhappy? if so- then that means you DIDNT want to have sex w/ him and that he went against your wishes. please please tell your brother or call the police. this loser doesnt deserve to be your boyfriend. definitely call it quits. and go get a pregnancy test to make sure you arent pregnant.
2016-05-22 23:14:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell the police right away, be sure to mention the death threat. Leave your brother out of it as much as possible.
2006-12-30 22:05:31 · answer #7 · answered by randomstupidhandle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your brother that guy tried to rape you.
2006-12-30 22:02:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋