I have had sex with multiple partners but I am afraid to be in a relationship. I do not kiss the men I fool around with and I have no emotional attachmernt to them. I am 26 and been in one long term relationship in which I was faithful for the first 3 years and he ended up constantly cheating on me and hitting me. I woke up one day and was devastated. I ended up cheating on him with his brotther, cousin, and friend. That pretty much ended our drama-filled relationship but ever since then I have been unable to want to have another boyfriend. Also before I met my ex, I was messing around with multiple people. And I was in the relationship from 19-23 and am scared to have something meaningful. Any advice?
2006-12-30 20:42:19 · 11 answers · asked by stupid_blonde_from_hell 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I use condoms **** face
2006-12-30 20:46:15 · update #1
I enjoy sex...id that so bad? My main concern is that I will never find a meaningful relationmship. I do not feel guilty about any of my sexual activity. If i were going to, I would not have done it.
2006-12-30 20:48:28 · update #2
I know someone who had the same problem as you did and well she eventually found a guy who got her to stop. He didnt tell her to but he made her feel like she didnt need to do that to herself. You just have to wait until you meet someone who makes you want to stop your ways. Not only that but seems like your relationship was horrible so its ok for you to be even more scared of being in a relationship. Once your wounds heal your behavior will start to change. Just be safe and use protection and if you dont use it be wise and get tested. You can never be to safe nowadays
2006-12-30 20:48:08 · answer #1 · answered by cHiKiBaBe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hope you buy condoms by the case. I may be old fashioned but I made myself a rule a long time ago. Before I get naked with anyone I have to get to know them. You know at least be friends. You need some good councling and have some real self estime issues kiddo.
2006-12-31 04:46:43 · answer #2 · answered by Belinda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any advice? He**, good for you! Why should women limit themselves to 10 or 15 partners? Be yourself! Actually I know plenty of women who are promiscuous but keep it quiet. You're the mainstream now! Just take the pill and wear a condom. Your real problem is the intimacy issue. Take counseling.
2006-12-31 04:51:34 · answer #3 · answered by Marc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your last long term relationship was hell....get past it...not all men are that way...your're really missing out on the kissing part...slow down and take care of yourself....nothing wrong enjoying sex.....meaningful relationship only happens if you put more effort into it....good luck
2006-12-31 05:08:38 · answer #4 · answered by sayasyoulike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I 2 find myself in that particular situation, I was with my ex gf for about 4 years and she ended up cheating on me so I left her a$$ I to am 26 and have no desire to settle down now everyone tells me I'm afraid of commitment or getting hurt again,whatever I love being single going out meeting new people no strings attached. Oh yeah not to long ago my ex calls me up and now she's ready to be f****ing serious. wtf. stay single until you feel ready.
2006-12-31 04:50:43 · answer #5 · answered by sikchux 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hear you so well... you should know that this doesn't make you a bad person and when your tired of doing this and I mean really tired of it you will try to find something better for yourself- fear or no fear at all.. this will eventually end and have fun till it does :) :) :)
2006-12-31 04:52:29 · answer #6 · answered by sexton 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start building your self respect immediately and maybe consider to get professional advice from psychologist or relationship counselor.
2006-12-31 04:45:03 · answer #7 · answered by Vesna G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u have to start to love youself and understand what u want.. try to take sometimes before u end with sex with guys.. try to know them and give urself sometime to know them before get into relation..
make urself beautiful.. have a new you.. be yourself..
2006-12-31 04:50:01 · answer #8 · answered by Andy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you missed your calling.
2006-12-31 06:15:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your name says it all
2006-12-31 04:56:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋