i feel like i cant turn to my parents for support, what do i do?

Question

my dog died last week
i feel so lonely
my parents probably dont really care about me
so many other things seem more important, including tv.
i dont feel like doing anything.
lack of appetite, energy, etc.
situational depression?
my parents dont know what im going through, probably dont even care.
they wont let me get another dog.
seems like nothing i say goes into consideration.

i dont know what to do, who to talk to, etc.
i feel so helpless.
normally, i would just spend time with my dog when i couldnt stand my parents, but now thats not possible.

i tried talking to my mom, but she only yelled, and my dad wont even talk to me.
now i dont know if i want to tell them the truth.

Answer 1

Your words are so sad. I am very sorry your dog died. It is hard to believe your parents do not realize how much you miss him. There must be reasons why they do not want another dog. Have they explained this to you? Not that it will make you feel any better. Of course, you want a companion.

Do you live near a dog pound, or a pet grooming place or even a Veterinarian office? You could go and donate your time some where that there are animals. This would be better than nothing. Some pet kennels like to have their dogs walked too. Look in the yellow pages of the phone book and see what is in your area.

I hope you start feeling better.

Answer 2

Start keeping a journal and get your feelings out on paper like you did for your question on this board. Do you have any brothers or sisters? I often felt this way when I was young. Now that I am older I realize that my father (I didn't have a mother) was always so stressed out over finances, raising three kids, the future, the past, that he often watched tv just to escape his own thoughts. Unfortunately, this locked me out. I did have my brother to talk to. I also kept a journal and that helped. I imagined I was writing to my mother. But, your parents care far more than you may ever be able to guess. Just tell your mother, when she is alone, how you feel on the inside. Not just about your dog, but about how you really feel. If she doesn't respond, don't think that doesn't mean she doesn't love you. I tried with my Dad at times and he wouldn't really listen. He had so much on his mind, he just couldn't handle the idea that I was unhappy especially as he may have felt there was little he could do to help me out of it. Later, as I got older and the stresses on him were fewer, he was able to make it clearer that he loved me and that my happiness was important to him. Join a church, volunteer, school club, get a part time job, or develop a love of books. I discovered that libraries are great places to escape I discovered and you can disappear in a book. You'll get really smart in the process as it will develop your thinking abilities. Whenever you have great pain, it is there to push you towards something. So move beyond yourself and where you are right now and grow.

Answer 3

I'm happy to see all the positive and encouraging feedback everyone is giving you. I am really sorry about your dog, but I liked Skooters advice by trying to spend some time somewhere with animals. I volunteer sometimes at an animal shelter and help walk the dogs and it always puts me in a good mood. I know how hard it is sometimes to leave the house and go do something productive when you are in such a rut, but I hope you can somehow gather the strength to do it. Good luck to you

Answer 4

Grieving is a natural process of recovery from the loss of a loved one, especially someone who has been your constant companion.

So allow it to happen, and do vent your pain through writing or by doing something that would commemorate his life.

How about choosing to work at a local dog shelter for a while. It would help you in dealing with your loss and pain.

Your parents might not be so close to your dog to realize your loss, and you might have ignored them all this while for the comfort of your dog. They might have felt neglected by you, so obviously it would be hard for them to reconnect with you now. Try to take it easy with them; though don’t expect them to show their love for you, just because now you have space and time for them.

Give them some time to accept you once again, as you would need time to go beyond their personalities and learn to love them for who they are beyond that what eyes can see. They are human beings after all and are liable to switch off from you, when you chose to tune out from them.

The onus now is on you whether you want to use this opportunity to heal your relationship with your parents.

Getting a dog too soon isn't a good idea either. I’d suggest, at least wait for a year, before you start looking for another dog.

This would also allow you to not develop such a dependent relationship with your animal.

After all you need to develop your people skills as well and that begins firstly by learning to deal with our parents, no matter how difficult it might be to begin with. It is a lasting lesson nevertheless and they too love you no matter what you might choose to do from now.

They love you more than you can understand right now.

Your dog must be loving soul, for you to miss him so dearly. May he rest in peace.

Answer 5

Hi there, you said a lot about how you feel and so on but you never stated with concrete example why do you think that your parents don't care about what you do. On the contrary, I believe parents really cares about us, about our well being, because we are their pride and joy. it's only sometimes they have a difficult time talking to us. If we open up and treat them like a friend. I am sure they will be overly joyed. Think how nice it would be to have old pa and ma on our side!

Answer 6

If there is another adult you trust, a grandparent, teacher, minister or family friend you can talk to do so. If not tell your parents you need to see the doctor. Talk to someone in your town who can help you through all this. Best of luck to you.

Answer 7

I'm sorry you're going through this. I hope things get better for you, but for now, see if you can visit a counselor. I'm sure it will help.

Answer 8

I'm sorry for your loss..maybe you can speak to a school counsellor...good luck..

Answer 9

tern to your best friend if u have one if not ..go emo