im in a long distance relationship...
-boyfriend is a little controlling
-sometimes i love him sometimes i hate him (right now i love him)
-been together for two years
-i broke up with him when i went to college then got back with him a few months later.... regretted that decision as soon as i told him i wanted back together
-i have a gut feeling that he is not the one
-i dont want to give him up but i want to see whats out there
-but he is like my best friend
-friends and family think he is perfect for me
-i cheated on him a few weeks after we got back together (i dont anymore)
-i just dont know what to do.
2006-12-30 20:04:10 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think he could do so much better than me. i dont mean to make him out as a bad guy because he really isnt. im just a selfish ***** that he doesnt need to be caught up with.
2006-12-30 20:32:07 · update #1
Go with your gut on this one, I'm not saying that cheating was good but it shows you that your gut is correct. If he was the one would you even consider cheating on him? probably not. Don't worry about what others say, you are the one who has to live with the boyfriend (and possibly husband) not them. As far as the friend thing, if he really is your friend he will still be your friend when you tell him, he is just not the one. Good Luck
2006-12-30 20:11:08 · answer #1 · answered by tpbthigb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay... considering what you're telling me, (how your feelings are on and off, how you cheated on him, how you even broke up in the past) I think it's totally clear that you're relationship is completely unstable. I don't see at all how this relationship is going to last. He's clearly not the one for you if you still saw the need to cheat on him and since you're feelings are "on and off". On and off feelings are supposed to stop once a couple actually BECOMES a couple. Those feelings are supposed to be gone by now. Since they're not, you're clearly uncomfortable with the relationship.
Even if your family and friends believe he's perfect for you, if you don't believe so, then he's not. Trust me, he's not.
You should try to end things before it actually get bad and you'd have to end it on bad terms. I think if he's your best friend, you'd WANT to continue talking to him after this.
If things are really going this way, I think he'll understand where you're coming from.
Good luck.
2006-12-31 04:12:50 · answer #2 · answered by Rachel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Growing up would help! What you are vacillitating between is an immature teen ager thing that just starts noticing the boys. If you are old enough to be in colledge, then you are old enough to know the answer to this one yourself. But to be fair to you both, don't continue to lead him on if he isn't the one you want. You need to be honest with him, and not let him think you want him for a boyfriend. Being a good friend is one thing; and if he really is that "good friend" he may be hurt, but he'll understand.
Also, maybe your family & friends knows what they are talking about. You don't have to have more than one boyfriend to know if he is the one that you want to spend the rest of your life with.
2006-12-31 04:13:06 · answer #3 · answered by Ikeg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at least ur honest and r taking responsibilities for ur own actions. to many would put all the blame on him. u r a good girl just made some wrong choices. its not the mistakes we make, it whether we learn from them or not.
2006-12-31 06:32:20 · answer #4 · answered by jesse james 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not fair for your current bf, since your just using him for the time being, and you should let him down easy. you already ruined the relationship by cheating on him, move on. you have no desire to be with him from what you write.
2006-12-31 04:10:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋