I used to go to this church where this woman used to make rediculous accusations against me. She said I was "stalking" her and stuff like that. And to make matters worse; a majority of the church believed her over me. Of course now they found out that she is a liar after all! But I hold alot of anger and resentment against alot of people that go there because they wouldn't even consider my side of the story as valid! So I don't go to church at all anymore! Going there was one of the worst experiences I have ever had in my life! But I still believe in God and don't blame him for man's false accusations and slander. Whats funny is not a single person who caused me a hard time goes to church at all anymore! They all left as soon as I did! With the exception of one person but he now attends a different church. But this experience has caused me to re-think how I should approach women. I have an even harder time establishing relationships. Sometimes I think I am better off being single.
2006-12-30 19:35:08 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I was going to the same church! How can you avoid someone who attends the same church you do?
2006-12-30 19:44:47 · update #1
I'm not needy of a relationship! I never even talked to her!!! Don't you think if I was needy of a relationship I would have said something? Evidently you didn't read the entire contents of the question.
2006-12-30 19:54:12 · update #2
She just made this up??
You never even called her or dated her???
Well she obviously has a mental illness and I know you feel resentment, but you should just move onto another church.
2006-12-30 19:39:37 · answer #1 · answered by ♥♥ Nikki ♥♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's no better way to say it, she was a pysho-***** lol and ur better off forgetting it, her, the whole experience
as far as establishing relationships i dont blame you. you just have to find the right person and as much as we nvr like to hear it, they are out there somewhere. also time heals all wounds and so more and more time will help as long as you dont obsess.
and even though you didnt ask this part, you nvr know all of what she said about you to the other ppl and how things got exaggerated from one person to another as they always do. you were smart to get out of that church and it seems the rest of the ppl got a good lesson from it all. maybe also, going to another church would help you get over things and maybe finding a better group of ppl would help you with your relationship issues.
2006-12-31 03:43:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
praise the lord & i had a similar experience, but different. A woman i was dating would be sweet at home but when at work would tell her co-workers how i would beat her & mistreat her.Several wanted to come after me & i never knew why till one confronted me as to how i could show my face after how i abused her. Well they moved her out & shipped her home from Mississippi to Pennsylvania, then started to come by & apologize after she started calling them from there & asking how she could hide her drinking & other similar bizarre stories. I have come across similar girls after leaving her, 1 i woke up next to after very consensual sex & she started screaming Rape. I was totally freaked. Drinking. The thing they had in common was drinking. Heavy drinking. I also do not attend church due to the hippocritical members i have met but continue my spirituality within myself daily. This does not mean i condemn all others who attend nor i have i stopped dating. But i have become more careful with who i associate with due to how others have been to me in my life. This may not totally answer your question but hopefully let you know that you are not alone in being treated this way & yes it took me a long time before i could approach another without all the skepticsm in my eyes, words & heart , but i have found a true love & we are spiritual in all we do & openly honest with our hearts with each other,do not despair my freind, you are not alone.
2006-12-31 03:53:56 · answer #3 · answered by RickeTy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is really the mind set you should have in the first place.
Women are not attract to guys who seem "needy" of a relationship.
That is one of the first step to become a man who naturally attracts women.
You always have to be careful about who you hang around, you why you were even mixed p with this lady in the first place.....don't mix up with people like her again.
Oh, and try a new church, F the BS they put you through.
2006-12-31 03:40:00 · answer #4 · answered by Akshun 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Don't let one psycho ruin it for you. It sucks that you were subjected to that, but you have to keep your chin up and move on to other women. They aren't all psycho! And you're better off single than with the wrong woman, that's for sure. Good night!
2006-12-31 04:18:41 · answer #5 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello I know the feeling.
I wish I had the answers for you.
Just look to God. not to people.
I have trouble trusting.....but I still believe
2006-12-31 03:43:17 · answer #6 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should forgive, forget and move on! People are humans, humans make mistakes and wrong decisions, (as you are human too)God forgives you of all your sins, what would you do if God held your sins against you? It really isn't worth holding a grudge. God will judge accordingly....
2006-12-31 03:41:03 · answer #7 · answered by lachocolatreine 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
just because they go to church. doesn't make them saints. try another church. blend in slow. it is hard to make friends now days, see if you can volunteer to fit in
2006-12-31 03:46:50 · answer #8 · answered by robert c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not all women are this way and you shouldn't give up because of one woman that was evil, there is better women out there :) :) :)
2006-12-31 03:39:42 · answer #9 · answered by sexton 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give up just yet there is someone for everyone you just haven't found her!
2006-12-31 03:40:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋