He said he just wanted to be friends with benefits, which I am fine with, honestly, but I'm just trying to figure out if his actions are saying it's more. He acted jealous when my ex-bf called and tried to talk me out of getting back together with him when I said I might, he drove 100 miles to see me, spent the night and cuddled the whole time, he breaks plans with his friends to be with me, when I was at his house he wanted me to sleep over and when I wanted to go he was practically clinging on to me to keep me from going, we hang out together in public, and he kisses me at random times, even when he's not turned on or doing foreplay, and we talk a lot and watch movies together and stuff like that. Do people really act this way with their FWB??? Do you think he has feelings for me?
2006-12-30 19:00:26 · 20 answers · asked by bellyyo62 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is not wanting to commit or have you get serious over him.
I'd play aloof. Don't stop enjoying the other parts of your life. Keep in contact with other friends, do other things, stay busy.
If you play the part of fwb, act like that is all it is. If you want more, I would back away. If he is interested he will follow. Again, get a life outside of him. It will protect your emotions and motivate him to make some decisions about you. Of course if you enjoy fwb only, then why even ask.
2006-12-30 19:04:58 · answer #1 · answered by ME 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course he has feelings for you. He also doesn't want to make any commitments about a serious relationship. This way, he can have his cake and eat it too. If something better comes along in the meantime, then he won't be doing anything wrong if he goes with her and does the deed. After all, you're just FWB, right? Doesn't mean is isn't going to be possessive of HIS benefits he gets from you and maybe try to keep those benefits to himself. He doesn't want you to have a chance to get hung up on some other guy because then of course... no more benefits.
2006-12-30 19:08:29 · answer #2 · answered by katme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Typical male animal. Watch the animal kingdom. The male likes to keep a harem but does not want any other males around. Your friend sounds the same way. Some guys can have 3 or 4 gf, then gets jealous when one "cheats" on him. But seems to me he may have feelings or crossed the "Dark Side" from being just friends with benefits to being some one he may accidentally care about now.
2006-12-30 19:07:27 · answer #3 · answered by Big C 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you are over-analysing things. If you want a friend with benefits, have at it, and quit obsessing about what your relationship is or isn't. You've obviously asked him and he was honest with you.
If you are even asking this question, it doesn't seem like you are really okay with just being his FWB. If you want more out of the relationship, you need to be honest with him (he was honest with you, after all) and tell him that. He either wants more or he doesn't. But he's not going to suddenly fall in love with you just cause you guys are becoming physically intimate on whatever level.
If I have one piece of advice in regards to relationships - don't settle. Don't settle on being a FWB if what you want to be is a girlfriend.
2006-12-30 19:16:11 · answer #4 · answered by K 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He's eating his cake and having it too.
He is basically doing everything you do in a relationship EXCEPT for being in a relationship.
Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free.
Golly, I don't know why he would cancel plans with friends for you....he doesn't have sex with his other "friends" does he? That's probably why.
If you are OKAY with this..okay, but be careful, because more than likely either you or him are going to end up hurt from this FWB experience. I honestly don't see how you can have sex with someone yet have no attachment to them.
Best wishes and God bless! :)
2006-12-30 19:09:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is using you for sex. The more you sleep with him the more attached you will become and therefore the more hurt you will be.
Stop having sex with him and say you'd rather just be 'friends without the benefits.'
He probably does not want you contacting or getting back with your ex, because that will mean he can no longer get sex from you when he wishes.
Please do not read anything into this so-called jealousy.
You want to believe he is feeling this way in order to justify your giving him booty calls.
2006-12-30 19:05:33 · answer #6 · answered by *Lovely* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-11 19:41:33 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how he feels because I was like this in a relationship. I think it's because he doesn't want too much commitment in a relationship and doesn't want to feel like he has to call you all the time etc. Sometimes he'll want to and by the sounds of it most of the time he wants to be with you etc.
Maybe if you explain to him that you can be in a relationship and you won't expect too much etc. then this might assure him that it is the right thing to do.
2006-12-30 19:05:32 · answer #8 · answered by l04i16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I04 is right, and your instincts are right. The problem is he DOES have feelings for you - it's obvious. But, he may also fear making a commitment to you. I don't want to say "typical guy, doesn't want to be committed" but yeah, he's most likely scared of commitment. If you're okay with how things are going, then no problem. If on the other hand though, you want for him to start behaving more "friend" and less "boyfriend" then you need to nip that stuff in the bud now before you find yourself in a situation where you (funnily enough) are forced to breakup with your friend with benefits. My two cents.
2006-12-30 19:17:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
A lot of women think us guys just want to have sex all the time. But we just can`t do that. Even if you can go on for a week or so, you have no energy. So kissing + cuddling are great ways to spend your breaks. Go for it.
2006-12-30 19:08:35 · answer #10 · answered by grtoo9 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋