As if the Disney Princess Cult phenomenon hasn't done enough irrepressible damage, now this? My daughter is biracial, so I make sure she has both black and white dolls. But I'm afraid that American culture with it's Britney Spears heros are infultrating my home. How can I combat this? I don't want her to grow up to be self-loathing. God knows its common enough in this country.
2006-12-30 18:33:06 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Just make sure you keep up her confidence. Tell her she is beautiful the way she is. She will grow out of it.
2006-12-30 18:36:23 · answer #1 · answered by butterfly 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well my 6 year old didnt say she wanted blonde hair, but even at six she used to say she was fat, and she wasn't, I had to buy sizes that were smaller than she was supposed to be wearing. I think her issue was the older 10 yr olds she was hanging around, but anyway, getting off point. To take her mind off of that I asked if she wanted me to dye her hair pink. She *loved* the idea, the only kid in kindergarten that her mother let her dye her hair. We bleached strips and colored them pink. Personally, I thought it was a great thing to do for her because I was trying to teach her that some things on your body you *can* change, but some things you can't and you just gotta love what God gave you, but on the other hand, you can have fun with the things you can change. Also told her we were not going to do the hair color thing very often because it can frizz out the hair...
2006-12-31 04:47:26 · answer #2 · answered by allaboutme_333 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe show her images of all of the girls and women in today's media who are biracial as well. And point out that not all Disney princesses are blonde - Jasmine, Ariel, and Belle are just a few who do not share the blonde hair, blue eye phenomenon and they are beautoful too! :)
2007-01-02 16:46:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not to read too much into her desire to be blonde. It's a phase, like much of childhood fantasy and curiosity is. My daughter and my sons went through it at about that age. I bleached my sons' hair, which they liked for about five months, then shaved it off so it would go back to normal. My daughter was happy with a blonde wig she could put on when she felt like it. That lasted a few months, then she moved on to something else.
2006-12-31 02:46:24 · answer #4 · answered by SLWrites 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Point out real world female role models. Women like Sally Ride, Rosa Parks, Mae Jemison, and Jane Goodall. None of these women got on the cover of fashion magazines, but they changed the world. Can you tell me who was on the cover of Vogue in 1982? Probably not. Everyone knows who Rosa Parks is.
2006-12-31 02:41:30 · answer #5 · answered by tranquility_base3@yahoo.com 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough issue since there is no exact way to combat this.
One method that seems to be effective is making sure your daughter is fully aware of both of your cultures. Make sure she knows the true history of both you and her father. Schools will often distort history (that's another rant in itself) so she may find to hate herself if not, have low self esteem.
also, make sure she knows she is beautiful because she is biracial. Show her pictures of other women who look like her. Tell her she has the best of both worlds.
If that doesnt work, you can say how the blond girls will never ever look like her. She is far better.
now this may seem like you're feeding her egotizing statements which will make her self centered in the future, but it won't.
remember to always be supportive, and if possible, have her socialize with other kids who look like her.
2006-12-31 02:41:18 · answer #6 · answered by Koko K 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Just tell her she's beautiful the way she is. She's only six, and really shouldn't be worrying about stuff like that. Some people have blonde hair, some have dark hair, some have red hair. We are all different. I would tell her she is way more beautiful than Miz Spears.
2006-12-31 04:27:07 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Twin♣Sis♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's probably just a phase. When I was 6, I wanted to be a boy. I dressed up like one and played with them all the time. Then I out grew it. My Mom always made sure to show me the fun and cool things about being a girl. Just make sure to teach your daughter to love herself and buy her a blonde wig,so that she'll have something to play dress up with. She'll out grow this,just wake sure you tell her everyday just a pretty and special she is.
2006-12-31 02:52:48 · answer #8 · answered by lily_shaine 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont forget about Tyra, a beautiful model. Oprah!!! shes a great role model for your daughter to look up to. i actually would hate if i had blonde hair. th disney princess Jasmin is middle-eastern and dark hair. Belle is brunette as well. continue to encourage your daughter to embrace her mixture of coultures and educate her on the histories of her countries.
2006-12-31 02:45:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is something all children do at around that age I had a friend who was African American and I wanted to be one too, later I had a friend with green eyes I wanted green eyes too. Don't stress it is just a phase and after a while she will be happy being her.
2006-12-31 02:37:54 · answer #10 · answered by The Invisible Woman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Almost everybody wants to be something they aren't, I have straight hair, always wanted curly hair got a perm hate it, I wanted purple hair, colored it, was disappointed in the color it turned out, but I kept coloring it for like a year, then I got tired of it. I know 6 is young to color your hair, and blond is pretty much irreversible, but maybe she will want it until she gets older and trys it and doesn't like it on her or doesn't like the upkeep bleaching is on dark hair.
2006-12-31 02:43:08 · answer #11 · answered by Tito 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋