how do i tell my mom i'm trying to have a kid?

Question

ok well i need to know how i should tell my mom that my boyfriend and i r trying to have a kid.

ok well he is tied to me becaus he asked me to merry him and i said yes but we r not going to get married untill i'm like 25 so i think we could do this i just don't know how to tell my mom.

Answer 1

Why the rush ?
You should complete your education, have a career and a husband before taking on the huge task of raising a child.
Why would you want a baby if you haven't yet experienced life ?

Answer 2

Not trying to be harsh or rude, but you don't know how to take on telling your mom you and your boyfriend want a baby....

But you are willing to take on parenting, the responsibility of shaping a persons life!!

You sound very wise and mature! Good luck with decision!!

OMG - Did I just read one of your questions you entered 3 weeks ago...Im stuck between 2 guys!! You sound like you want someone to love you unconditionally such as a baby!! It doesnt work that way... I wish you would talk to your school counselor or someone that can help you with your issues. A baby will only make life more difficult, or your mother will end up raising him/her while you figure out you made a mistake!! This isnt about what you want...its about creating a human that will have a hard life because of a decision you made!! Please dont have a baby so young!! Talk to a 25 yr old without a baby and one with (single parent) and see who is happier with their choice!!

Answer 3

And you're how old now? Also, just because you're engaged doesn't mean things won't change by the time you turn 25.

The best way to tell her, is just to come out and tell her, "We're trying for a baby." If you're afraid of her reaction, maybe it's for a good reason and you should wait a while, like until you're married, to have this man's child.

Answer 4

If you can wait to get married you should also wait to have a child, especially if you are under 21. Kids should not be having kids. There is so much life out there to live. Live for yourselves for awhile first. Travel, buy a house, settle down, finish your education, get stable careers where you will be able to provide a good life for your kids and you can all thrive, not just survive from paycheck to paycheck. Please...wait on it a couple of years.

OMG! I just went back and read some of your previous questions! You had one under Homework Help saying you were writing a paper for a SIXTH GRADE assignment! Please...tell me you are not trying to get get pregnant in the 6th or 7th grade. Please! OMG! Please wait atleast 10 more years. You have SO much time to have a baby. Don't do this to yourself now, I am begging you not ruin your life right now. You will be so much happier that you waited. There is so much out there to see and do that you will never get the chance to if you have a baby now. Don't deny yourself AND your potential child the good life that you could have by waiting. Please have protected sex, get on birth control if you are having sex and make your boyfriend wear a condom. If he won't, he doesn't really care about you. Bottom line.

Answer 5

I hope you are ready to be single parent! Most marriages (60%) do not last and the woman winds up being the only parent in the kids life a lot of the time. So unless you are financially set for life and don't mind raising the kid alone don't do it. How old are you any way? It takes a lot of patience and love to raise a kid right. They are not dolls and you give up your life the minute you become a parent.

Answer 6

How old are you? I think no matter your age you DO need to go and talk to your mother. She will give you her advice and if she is a good mother then you should take her advice. I got pregnate at 17. I have struggled alot. I am now 24 with two children, and I have learned alot. I love my children but I wish I would have waited so that my first son would have had a better life, without all the struggles I went through. I made it through it and now attend college and have a happy home........Just think about everything and listen to your mom.......there is PLENTY of time to have children.

Answer 7

first of all make sure you are ready to have a Baby, think about how your life is going to change once you have a Baby, and remember no matter what your boyfriend feels at the moment that can change and at the end of the day if he decides to leave dont expect him to take the baby with him, baby becomes your own responsiblity, how old are you? are you financially prepared for this big move? are you willing to give up the fun you have w. your friends for a Baby? if you are mature enough to have a Baby I think the best way to tell your Mom, is let her give you her own opinions about your decision. Remember she is a Mother and she can give you good advice. Whether she agrees or not is your decision to make.

Answer 8

You can't possibly expect her to be happy about this, no matter how you tell her. Honestly, if your daughter were to tell you that she and her boyfriend were trying to get pregnant, would you be happy about it?

A boyfriend is just that. A boyfriend. Not a husband. He can - and WILL - leave whenever he feels like it, because he is not tied to you. And you're intentionally trying to bring a child into an unstable situation?

Yeah, I know, a marriage license is "just a piece of paper"... Well, so is money.

Answer 9

Sorry I don't have an answer for you, but if your moms like mine good luck. Ive been married for a year and a half and am trying, but my mom is upset about it. I just told her I want a kid

Answer 10

Wait until you are pregnant! Why not wait until marriage? Also how old are you....you are trying for a kid? That doesnt sounds very well said, trying for a baby or child maybe!