I'm not trying to sound like a drama queen, but I've been having problems my relationship with Andrew. He and I had been going out for a year and three months before I decided to call it quits. He had lied to me about a few things and well, he really hurt me. We're still friends and he's constantly trying to get me back. I really do love him but I just don't trust him yet. While all of this has been going on I met this guy named Ronnie. He's really nice and although he has a few habits I'm not to fond of I've looked past all of that. I've really fallen for both. Andrew and I have a past but I can't trust him, and Ronnie is great but has those habits I don't exactly approve of. Ronnie has been waiting for this other girl but keeps saying that we could end up going out, who knows. It really is killing me. All this drama is ripping me apart. Nothing is as fun anymore because something about this is always brought up. I'm really not sure what I should do.
2006-12-30 18:25:53 · 15 answers · asked by sara 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I can’t trust Andrew and I’m in limbo with Ronnie. We’re great friends…Ronnie and I and Andrew and I. Should I wait for Ronnie or wait for Andrew to get his act together…help?
2006-12-30 18:30:54 · update #1
Maybe you guys are right I just feel like maybe I'm not good enough to find someone better, I get hit on all the time but only when guys KNOW I'm dating someone else...
2006-12-30 18:57:46 · update #2
raise the bar a little Sara stop thinking you are not worth more! these two guys who sound like game players, one is a story teller and one says he is waiting for someone else and if that does not pan out then OK its your turn!? why would you not demand to be #1 to say "uh if you want me then you will go after me not wait to see if you will settle for me if things don't work out" realize your worth more! your worth someone who says Sara is the one i want and is someone who expects me to step up to be with her because she will give me everything like honesty , friendship and care and so i will have to do the same in order to keep a girl like her. then the drama will end because once you expect More for your self then people will have to give more and losers who have problems telling the truth and or who cant decide if they want you or not will know you wont put up with crap like that ,so they will move on or step up and its not being a ***** to want these things its knowing you are worth more and deserve to get what you will give. An a famous lines for guys like this are "you know i love you and i really like you its just" because as long as they tell you what they think you want to hear you wont go any where but once you say well prove it they either will step up or run and if they run then you know they where full of it and talk is cheap! actions speck louder then words saying i love you is easy proving it takes work and effort and you are worth the work and the effort if you believe you are! so demand it!
2006-12-30 18:43:26 · answer #1 · answered by peterpansdate 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hmm.. well if Andrew has hurt you a few times in the past, please, be good to yourself and don't take him back! Chances are he won't change and probably the only reason you're doubting yourself is because he thinks he can be better. Too bad for him, you're better than that and so let him try it on someone else.
As of Ronnie, if those habits are something that you KNOW will annoy you in time, just don't. However, you can't judge a person on his or her habits.
You just need to make a decision, right or wrong (overthinking it won't help!), and just go with it. Confront Andrew and Ronnie with your decision and trust me, it'll be a load off your back! Go with your heart on the decisions. Peace!
2006-12-30 18:35:09 · answer #2 · answered by cc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the trust is broken in a relationship, it will be very difficult for your relationship to last or go far. I think you should have started dating to see who is the right person for you and not jump into a relationship so soon with someone that don't meet your standards. Try to partake in things that make you happy because it sounds like to me that you depend too much for another person to make you happy instead of making yourself happy. Take up a hobby that you always wanted to do, hang out with friends, travel, write down some goals that you want to accomplish and just go for it! You have to love yourself first above all things. Pray on a solution as well and you will receive it. Take care of yourself and I hope things work out for the best. Have a blessed New Year!
2006-12-30 18:36:48 · answer #3 · answered by sam 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One guy lied to you and hurt you, the other guy has habits you don't like- what? Drugs? I bet it's something really nasty like that, and he's stringing you along as his second choice in case the other girl doesn't pan out. Oh, how romantic. Come on, get a grip and forget about both of these guys. You have better things to do with your life!
2006-12-30 18:38:39 · answer #4 · answered by mj_indigo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost you must have some respect for yourself, when you do you will realize that you must never settle for second best. What you have now are two guys who are in your own words 'have bad habits and is waiting for another girl'; and the other 'you cannot trust'. You are therefore settling for second best in both, you need to dump both these LOSERS and find yourself a new guy, who you can respect and who deserves a girl who appears ..at least to me to have some moral character.
2006-12-30 18:35:51 · answer #5 · answered by Pete 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sorry to have to say this to you, but get a life.
you sound as if your happiness is dependant on a man. ITS NOT.
your happiness is dependant on YOU.
Join clubs that are doing things you like to do. Make friends. There is plenty of time to find your true love. Maybe neither of the guys in your story is right for you. Maybe one is. Start now thinking " i don't want to look back on my life and regret things i didn't do"
keep it legal and stay safe. good luck
2006-12-30 18:38:15 · answer #6 · answered by sodajerk50 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, get away from both of them . You don't have to settle for one of them.Right now may not be your time to find true love but it will come.If you are looking for something long term just remember that you can't change them.
You could go shopping or do your nails or hair.That cheers me up sometimes.
Also try looking in a mirror and naming at least five things you like about yourself, this may help your confidence and self esteem.
good luck and write to me for more advice if you would like
2006-12-30 18:35:31 · answer #7 · answered by mommyof2 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just move on and try to find another man to depend on these don't sound too promising. It will just be an endless circle for you it sounds like. Bring another man into the picture who is serious about you and maybe these other 2 will wake up.
2006-12-30 18:29:14 · answer #8 · answered by Pen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm...sounds like you are better off without both of them..
Leopards never change their spots and nor do liars and cheats.
Get out of it while the going is good...take a deep breath and reassess what you want out of life.
After all your life is based on the choices you make for yourself..noone else can do that for you
2006-12-30 19:10:31 · answer #9 · answered by harrrisfamily 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Move on. Wipe the slate clean. Is it really worth dabbling with these punks. Really think of the best case scenario that could happen with either of these tools. Now think of the worst. case scenario. Now think which is more likely to happen. See...move on. Lifes too short. In the meantime. Perhaps you could use more cowbell.
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2006-12-30 18:34:23 · answer #10 · answered by alwaysmoose 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋