Should the school help you decide what you want to pursue in life and give you more options in classes in order to be better informed before you graduate OR is it the parents responsibility to direct their child?
2006-12-30 18:22:25 · 8 answers · asked by Cadi 1 in Education & Reference ➔ Other - Education
Parents and children themselves should have the biggest say in the child's future. But schools need to do their part, too.
Schools and teachers can help identify, through testing and observation, participation and example, children who are better suited to different types of jobs/careers/studies in future.
Having kids take aptitude tests while in school is fine, to help them figure out where their strengths and interests lie.
But I don't think they should lump kids of one type or test group together and force a future in, say, automotive maintenance on all of the C students in that group, if some would rather be artists, bankers, teachers or engineers.
Parents shouldn't force their own dreams on their kids or tell them "you are going to be a doctor or I won't pay for school".
They should help their kids identify what they are best at and what they want to do and help make that possible for them, if they can. They need to find out if programs or classes are available at school that would help their child achieve that goal.
Kids should try to do well in school, so they have plenty of options open to them when they graduate. And they need to stay informed about programs at school that can help them get where they want to be, then inform their parents and teachers of those they want to participate in.
But what about kids with no parents? Or poorly educated or disinterested parents, who can't or won;t help them to do that? Or kids in poor school districts who don't have access to career and guidance counselors or to computer labs with career and aptitude tests? Should those kids get no help with this at all?
Kids who get mostly Cs in school aren't always the worst students in college or the worst employees in the business world. Many valedictorians and A students do well, but aren't necessarily spectacular successes in college and in the real world.
So how do you decide what each person's future should be? Based on grades the student is currently making? Wealth of the family? Desire of the student? Expectations of family members? Boys do one thing, girls another? A students get help doing this, C students get less?
That's why it's really hard for me to answer this question for you. It isn't an all or nothing situation.
Parents, kids and schools all have to help figure this one out.
2006-12-30 18:55:22 · answer #1 · answered by bookratt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Neither. Schools and parents can influence the decision, but it can only really made by the individual. For a person to find their own successful happiness, they have to go for what they want and NOT for what other people want them to go for.
Now that I've answered your title question I will say that schools may be able to better direct you with your options in classes for graduation than your parents could do (it is there job and they do deal with this kind of stuff all the time). The people who know and have been there are there.. just ask them and I'm sure they will help you. Hope this helps.
2006-12-30 18:36:33 · answer #2 · answered by nicklemeout 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I homeschooled our 7 kids for 19 years, and all of them got high school diplomas. However, we used Christian Liberty Academy curriculum from Arlington Heights, Illinois (Just outside of Chicago). Almost all colleges will accept homeschoolers if they pass the ACT that's given for college entrance. However, you will also need a transcript. A transcript is made out by high schools and includes all the courses you took through all 4 years of high school, and the grades you got for each of them. It's not something you can make yourself. That's why your parents insist that you use curriculum from an accredited school since they are the only ones colleges will accept. Being an accredited school verifies to any college you apply to that you actually did the work and that the courses and grades that the high school submits to them is accurate. What I liked about Christian Liberty Academy is that you could enroll at any time of the year, you could take the core classes they recommend for you based on how you did on the pre-test they send you, but you can also juggle them a bit or tailor them to whatever field you're interested in, AND best of all, you can work as fast as you like and graduate early, or take a full year if you get sick or struggle with a particular subject. It's great! All of our kids graduated early, which allowed them to begin their summer jobs earlier than other kids and help earn money to begin college. Also, I should mention that homeschoolers have more opportunities to earn scholarships than public school kids because they can apply for the same scholarships others do, but they can also apply for those reserved just for homeschoolers. I know because two of our kids earned 4 years scholarships in other states, and three others earned one year scholarships. For the moment, it may seem that your parents aren't being fair, but trust their judgment and don't insist you be an independent homeschooler. You may feel that you know what's best for you now, but in the end, you'll have many more opportunities to go to vet school if you do as they ask now.
2016-05-22 23:05:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The child ultimately decides their future, here in the U.S.
Schools aid in this process through instruction, testing(evaluative and diagnostic), and mentoring (staff members who are approached by students will usually spend lots of quality time trying to help students find their way through this process).
Parents will mentor their children based upon the parents' personal experiences (positive/negative). They may tend to be more intense in their advocacy of their children (nag ...), because the parents really DO want what's best for their children(it's just that they oftentimes don't know how to connect with their kids during the teenage years).
2006-12-31 01:28:15 · answer #4 · answered by chuck U 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's the student's responsibility to decide for himself.
Many schools offer advice and opportunities, and parents may do so as well, but it's the student's job to seek the advice.
2006-12-30 18:30:44 · answer #5 · answered by Iris 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents should try to help their children, encouraging them toward their strengths. The schools should help through counselling and testing of abilities.
2006-12-30 18:31:38 · answer #6 · answered by Susan M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its neither one of them you are the one who decides your future.
2006-12-30 18:31:01 · answer #7 · answered by china 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
both
however parents play more important role
2006-12-30 18:24:43 · answer #8 · answered by alanna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋