okay so im 19 and im going on my very first date...i dont know this person but online only...i really dont know what should be talked about in a first day or anything with a date...i believe we are going to be going to a starbucks...help!
2006-12-30 18:15:14 · 7 answers · asked by namehere 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do go to public places, Do tell friends were your going if possible take one along. Don't have sex on the first date for god's sake and if you do protect yourself.
2006-12-30 18:18:55 · answer #1 · answered by 2sweet4u 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok you r going 2 starbucks at night look cute and warm.( don't play the cold dumb girl routine unless u r lookin 2 get laid). Now if u really think there is something there. Review some of the things u have already talked about first then lead in 2 your future aspirations this next year not long term just thing u hope soon 2 happen. If he response with his own things next year then u know he is lookin 4 something real. so listen don't judge. If that doesn't last long then ask him what has he been doin while he has been home. If it is not interesting then he is only worth a shag ( if that's what u r into) but he can also be nervous so take the lead. Go for a walk with you starbucks and see what happens. He might just grab your hand and walk with you. If u kiss u will definitely want more and end up as a fling.It's up 2 u
2006-12-31 02:33:24 · answer #2 · answered by fabulosity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take care you are not going to get into a bad situation.
Internet dating is not the safest of ways to meet new people.
It is so easy to lie and cheat on the Internet.
2006-12-31 02:26:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell anything really personal. If they ask about your dating/relationship/sexual history, tell them it isn't something you discuss that early. Ask general questions about family, friends, hobbies, favorite things (movies, shows, etc.), and usually something will spark a good conversation. Don't say anything that makes you look rude, mean, passive-aggressive, crazy, etc. Think twice before saying anything. Be yourself! Don't lie.
2006-12-31 02:19:46 · answer #4 · answered by c-reb 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
FIRST:
DO call back and make arrangements ahead of time so that you will know where you are going and at what times- since you have never met this person before, you need to know where you guys are going. This helps keep you from looking like an idiot who didn't make plans, from sitting around going, "what do we do now?" or from not bringing enough money.
DO agree to meet at a central and public location.
DO make sure a trusted friend or family member knows where you are going and the name of the person you are meeting with just in case something happens.
DO bring enough money to pay for you and your date if you are a guy. If you are a girl, at least bring enough money to pay for your own food.
DO pin an emergency stash of cash inside your clothes in case you need it.
HYGENE:
DO brush your teeth, bathe, and fix your hair before leaving.
DONT douse yourself with cologne or parfum. just dab a little on your wrists and neck. Don't re-apply: your nose will be used to the scent fast. Others will be able to smell it when you can't and adding more will make the scent way too strong.
DRESS (MEN):
If you are just going for coffee, wear some nice casual clothes. pants/jeans not shorts.
If you are going to a restaurant (like Chilis or Olive Garden), wear some khakis and a polo
If you are going to a NICE restaurant wear slacks, button-up shirt, sports coat, tie, and matching belt and shoes (don't go to a NICE restaurant on a first date)
DRESS (women)
Coffee/ casual- not shorts, sweatpants or pjs and nothing too skin-bearing. You can wear jeans and a college sweatshirt (etc)
Dinner: nice pants or skirt and a nice top- even good (no holes) bluejeans would work if paired with a bluse or modern top- just don't wear sweats or a t-shirt :)
Nice dinner: dress, dress slacks or skirt and blouse.
Etiquitte:
If you are a guy and want to give her a flower, give her anything but a red rose.
If you are a guy, DO open doors for her, try to buy her food /coffee. When the waiter asks if you are together or if it is one ticket or two, this can easily be done by saying, "Yes" or "One Ticket" (If she wants to go dutch she will tell you- and don't be offended if she does). DONT cuss, DON'T pick your nose/ butt, fart or burp in front of her- unless she does it first and thinks it is funny.
If you are a girl, LET the guy get the door for you if he offers, Dont order one of the most expensive things on the menu unless you are planning to pay for it yourself.
If you have a cell phone, DO bring it with you and turn it on vibrate. You can check it periodically or answer it if you need an "out" (a way for an emergency to "pop up" in case the date ends up creepy or uncomfortable). but DONT keep answering it or talking on it in front of your date- that would be rude
If you go to a bar, DO buy and watch your own drinks and keep track of your alcohol intake. No one likes a lush, and- wait you are 19- NO DRINKING! :)
DONT do anything illegal.
TALKING:
BE YOURSELF, first of all. Don't try to pretend to be something you are not!
Sometimes it is better to double on a first date because you will have extra people to help make conversation. Finding something to do or a game to play also helps because it helps avoid that awkward silence (I think they have some at starbucks- or you can bring one).
DO talk about yourself, things you like, what you do, where you go to school, what fields of study you like and why, sports, travel, hobbies, movies, celebrities, books, family, websites, food, coffee, funny stories from your childhood.
DO ask questions and encourage your date to talk too. It shows you are interested in them. DONT do all of the talking.
DON'T talk about how expensive things are. DON'T tell your date that they can order certain things from the menu because others are too expensive.
DON'T LIE
DON'T give this person any personal information like your home address, bank account info, or credit card info- etc.
DONT talk about politics, religion, or former relationships.
DONT mention the words LOVE, MARRIAGE, or SEX
DONT be pressured into having sex. There is absolutely no reason to have sex on the first date.
DONT try to pressure your date into having sex. There is absoultely no reason to have sex on the first date.
DONT go to their or your house until you know them better (several dates).
If at any time you feel uncomfortable, in danger, or like you are being pressured to do something you don't want to do, pick up that cell phone and pretend you are talking to someone who has an emergency and then tell them you have to leave.
DON'T be afraid to say NO
FINALLY-
relax and have fun! They are probably going to be just as nervous as you are!
2006-12-31 03:08:54 · answer #5 · answered by slaughter114 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be your self. just ask a lot of questions. about her, if she is seeing someone else. what kind of things does she like to do. i hope this helps. good luck.
2006-12-31 02:20:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be YOURSELF!! Don't sleep with him on your first date either! hehe..
2006-12-31 02:17:16 · answer #7 · answered by islandgirl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋