I rarely get asked out and I noticed that men might think that im taken when im not. I dont go looking around for men, I just do my own thing. I hang out with my friends, focus on school, play sports and prepare for a good career after school.
A male friend of mine thought that i was constanly going on dates and was constantly beings asked out by men that where "up scale" i.e lots of money, fancy car,well educated, high level job, good looking etc.. He mentioned again that these men must look super good looking...meaning the works. Reality is I have never been asked out. He also thought that men constantly compliment me. The odd thing is alot of girls i go to school with think the same. In fact, many claim that i get all "the calls" i.e all men are asking me out. Which is the opposite, no one asks me out.
Many at school school claim that im a good girl. That i respect myself and have a good head my shoulders.
What is going on? why no one asks me out?
2006-12-30 18:07:02 · 14 answers · asked by Gina L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have had some guys ask for my phone number but they never call me.
Other sort ask my opinion if i would date them but they never ask me out.
I dont understand what is going on. Men please explain!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-30 18:07:56 · update #1
no girl!! u are way too hot for those guys i guess, who feel intimidated by your independence and total control that you have over your life.. mayb they don't deserve you.. but at the same time make sure you are not being too emotionally guarded and too difficult to approach..be more outgoing and talk to the guys whom you are interested in , in a way which makes them feel you are interested in them..throw some signs girl that makes guys around you aware that you are single&looking - showing that you are interested in a guy is nothin bad and it is not "go looking around for men".. nothing wrong or desperate about showing that you are attracted to a guy.. Iam sure the guys will respond and ask you out:)
2006-12-30 18:18:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My theory is that they were mothered and fathered this way. I've observed in my own son (the child of a single mother attorney, for pete's sakes) this willingness to let me do every last thing for him. Some of it is my fault, because he was born premature and has some "special needs" and it's been difficult to actually know whether this is him being lazy or him truly incapable. But I digress. I've stopped picking up after him. The place is a pig-sty, too. I'm a neat-freak and it's killing me. I'm about to take medication for it I think. But in this house, we pick up what we put down. Darnit. He does make a mean ramen noodle, though. He's almost 12. Truthfully, it is MY house. I really don't want some guy moving the furniture around or choosing the color of my walls unless I pay him to do it. I prefer to cook rather than clean up after someone else does. It's MY kitchen. Except on Thanksgiving, and then I'll share. He's been in Scouts since he was 5. He's played baseball since he was in Pull-ups. They pay people to do those things with our kids now. Many of our children would be happy to have a dad sitting on the couch and paying the bills so mom could just be mom. FYI My son doesn't give a rat's @ss that I'm an attorney and I think he hates it, because people treat him differently because of it.
2016-05-22 23:04:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well im a girl but it was very easy for me to see this:
there are probably guys that want to ask you out and from what others have said, it seems that you are intimidating to them. because they think that you are always taken and get hit on i guess and have expensive taste they probably think they dont measure up or youd probably say no.
i kinda think this is what happens with me. except for the part about people thinking im taken all the time because ive never heard that one from someone before.
i think im the same way as you. i do respect myself and im good and i guess when it comes to guys im picky because i wouldnt go out with someone who i didnt like becuase i find that to be bad. id rather tell them im not interested in that way rather than lying to them, which is most likely the reason why im 16 and i havent had a bf yet. im waiting for the right one to come along!
have a great new year!
2006-12-30 18:17:44 · answer #3 · answered by ... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you give out bad non-verbal signals.
Do you smile when you talk to people?
Do you answer questions with good 'stories' or do you just say 'yes' or 'no'? If you want to talk to someone, you have to carry part of the load. You have to elaborate.
When someone asks you what kind of music you like do you say "I like everything"? ...so many girls say that, and it's useless. There is no way to react to that. It is what's called an "ender." Here's the reason. That question isn't about music. It's about your personality. You have to commit to something. A guy will get a sense for who you are if you say you like "The Cure" or "50-Cent" or "Dixie Chicks." It's not that music defines you as a person, but it's a big indicator of taste. Someone who says "I like everything" has told you nothing.
...it sounds like maybe you don't act "approachable" and/or inviting when people talk to you. Maybe learn about body language and how to talk to people in such a way that gives subtle positive hints. ...and learn how to drive conversations, it's the number one skill in being popular.
2006-12-30 18:20:51 · answer #4 · answered by Elvis W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you must be an awesome gal and everyone assumes that you're dating all the time, and most of the guys are just deciding not to face rejection...after all, they are thinking, what chance do I have?
Maybe you need to ask your gal friends why THEY think this? I would think if they are as clueless about your situation, maybe you're coming off as aloof or something? I'm not saying you are, you may be projecting that image without knowing it. But as much as the ladies talk about relationships, for all your gal friends to assume you're always dating and you're not, something's not being communicated right.
2006-12-30 18:13:27 · answer #5 · answered by You'll Never Outfox the Fox 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might be that you are very good looking and since guys have very fragile egos they are afraid you'll say 'no'. Most of them think you are already going out with someone way better than them so they dont bother to ask you out. Thats one reason you see so many great looking girls out with average looking guys. Those guys feel like they have nothing to lose by asking you out and the women don't actually care who they go out with. They just want to go out and have fun.
2006-12-30 18:16:45 · answer #6 · answered by Haven17 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Patience is a virtue and everything happens in due time. Sounds like you will become a very successful women. You should be proud of yourself and the way you present yourself. Things will happen for you but stop thinking too much. Focus on yourself! You are doing fine!
2006-12-30 18:12:03 · answer #7 · answered by Maggie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Enjoy your freedom right now. I assume you are in high school. You have all the time in the world to have a man, but your youth will soon be gone. Just continue to be a good girl and be patient. When you are least expecting it is when you will find the right one.
2006-12-30 18:14:04 · answer #8 · answered by justcurious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There isn't anything wrong with you as far as I can tell. I suggest you ask some of these guys out! If you look too good, or seem too rich, you will be very intimidating to guys unless you ask them out. Good luck!
2006-12-30 18:14:49 · answer #9 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart...I really don't know what to tell you. (If you were in my neck of the woods...I would ask you out!!)
I suspect (according to what you wrote) that most of the males where you are at do not think you are available or interested.
I would try to get the message out that you ARE single and looking!!
Good Luck!!
Happy New Year!!
2006-12-30 18:16:52 · answer #10 · answered by Chief Paduke 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋