well my boyfriend and i been dating for 3 months now.....
and she thinks we are only friends and all....... so everytime he comes to pick me up i lye to her and tell her im going out with my neighbor or friend. this has been going on for a 3 months and today ...... when we left the house as always i told her i was going with jennifer my neighbor. when i came back she told me she knew i had went out with nick (my boyfriend) and that i took advantage of all teh times that she let me go out with out her trying to talk to my neighbor or friends parents. anad that i had lost her trust
now i dont even think if i can keep seing my boyfriend
but i dont really care about my boyfriend in this case ....... boys come and go but mother theres only one!
and i want to know how to get trust back .....
help
2006-12-30 17:20:43 · 8 answers · asked by kandi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It will take a while to earn your mom's trust again! You'll have to work with her on this... n
2006-12-30 17:34:07 · answer #1 · answered by Nikki 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
I am sure that your mother was very hurt by your actions and behavior, but first things first she loves you. Now gaining your mothers trust back will take some time. I do suggest that you sit down with your mother and apologize to her for being dishonest and disrespectful to her.
Afterwards listen to what your mother has to say to you, when I say listen please don't pretend listen with an open mind and heart.
Your mother knows all the ropes to this sort of thing all us mom's know. So give her some time and she'll trust you again, its moreso that you were dishonest with her I believe than anything else. You see it more than likely hurt her that you didn't feel close enough to her to just ask.
So I suggest that you try what I've advised if you haven't done so already and if you have just give her some time and yourself too to think about what's happened and why you had to go about it the way you did.
Everything will be just fine trust me.. Oh by the way you might want to let your boyfriend know that he can't pick you up for a while. If he can't wait or just see you at school then he wasn't that into you anyway and you don't need him.
Good Luck and I hope that you have a wonderful New Year in 2007!!
2006-12-30 17:34:16 · answer #2 · answered by ssgtmommy01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you lost your mother's trust, you'll need to get back in her good graces. Spend more time with your mother and be honest with her. Why lie in the first place about dating someone? If it's because you're too young to date, then you need to assess your thoughts on this issue.
Losing a parent's trust is hard to get over, and it'll take time.Always keep her informed and ditch the guy. A relationship built over a lie is not a good one. Work with your mom first and get that back on track and go from there.
2006-12-30 17:24:22 · answer #3 · answered by CeeBee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you're not the first to do it---you just didn't discover trying to be sly and sneaky. Tell your mom that you regret your actions and you have learned that the actions caused you to feel terrible and guilty. Then give it some time. Of course, any guy that wants to be sneaky or slick is a dirtbag and certainly not worth your valuable time--set your sights high--go for the best. You can go out anytime you want when you reach the age and show you have maturity. Mom loves you no matter what--no guy is worth making mom distrust you.. of course she is disappointed more than mad---you just don't understand that yet. how would you feel if you were the mom? But like I said, we all did it and got caught--your mom probably did too...so straighten up and wait until you're old enough.
2006-12-30 17:28:44 · answer #4 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My question is, why did you have to lie to her in the first place? You could have just told her the truth. Trust is the most easiest to lose and so hard to get back. I don't know your mom well but try to tell her why you lied to her and tell her you'll never do anything to break her trust again. She may not trust you now but in due time she will trust you again. Be good to her and show her that you can be trusted again.
2006-12-30 17:30:41 · answer #5 · answered by phoenix 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You lost the trust your mom gave you and it will probably take awhile to earn it back. You snuck out and lied...very skanky...your mom is only going to assume the worst. You're young...obviously...the maturity level and outlook on life you have now will be completely different 5 years from now. The guys you date now you most likely will never see once you graduate high school. Don't blow your love on these HS dweebs and save it (meaning love, emotion, sex...everything) for someone that you know is your TRUE love. It will be 100x more meaningful and you will be grateful for it later.
Besides if you had to lie to your mom about dating, you're probably too young to date anyways. Or embarassed of your "boyfriend"
2006-12-30 17:25:02 · answer #6 · answered by RitzFitz29 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is very easy to lose but hard to regain :| If I were you I'd apologize and tell her I'd never do it again. Then I'd just go on with my life and trust will come back eventually.
2006-12-30 17:23:59 · answer #7 · answered by 1 Sailor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whats really sad is u don't care that much for this guy and u betrayed ur moms trust. if u would do it for something so meaningless then u would do it again.
stop being a trick a**
2006-12-30 17:29:17 · answer #8 · answered by jesse james 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋