Ok, so me and this boy have been talking for a good month or two and Im starting to like him ALOT. We've talked practically every night. He wants a relationship but he's just not ready yet due to his last relationship. I'm ready, but not ready for drama. Do you think that we are playing each others hearts to see if things could be better or are we just afraid of what hurt we could incounter?
2006-12-30 17:10:22 · 11 answers · asked by IcEbOx'D HeArT 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sounds like he's the scared one, was his last gf a psycho???
Just let it form into whatever it may be, if you push he may just run faster, but if he takes too long, I'd question his motivation, try askin him, tell him how you really feel and take it from there...
It's better to know now if it's even worth your time, otherwise just let him go and find your own happiness, don't be held back by his fear...
2006-12-30 17:21:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
I suggest that you and this guy give it some more time a month or two really isnt enough in my opinion. If he has had a relationship that has made him afraid of getting involved again, then don't rush. This could turn out to be some drama that you don't want at all. The last thing you want right now is to start a relationship with him and due to his past he breaks your heart.
I suggest that you both have a chat about it discuss what your looking for and ask him what he's looking for in a relationship.
You may have already done that, but this will help you to understand what's his fear. And for him he will understand that in a relationship drama isn't something you want to deal with.
I am sure that in time this might just work out, but it's going to take some patience from the both.
Good Luck & take care
Happy New Year 2007
2006-12-31 01:21:49 · answer #2 · answered by ssgtmommy01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I believe that both of you have the fear of having a failed relationship even though both of you talk pratically every night. In every relationship there is no such thing as guarantee success at the start. But it depends on how individual can pick up after a failed relationship. So i think both of you should give each other some time before developing further
2006-12-31 01:39:20 · answer #3 · answered by Clown & Joker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, there is no time for drama but plenty of time for life. How could you spend your time worring about one persons opinion? There are opportunities that are calling your name. Today I am takink a marketing class that absolutely reminds me life is full of possibilities, money, windows of sucess and the chance of failure. Do not commit if it means you must back down. I did that and I have had to work like heck to find my way back.
2006-12-31 01:34:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that this is a very sensitive time, and I don't think that it is the right time to get serious, but I think that if you want to go out to have a good time, than that is fine! :)
Have fun, but make sure it doesn't start moving too fast, that will DEFINITELY lead to a lot of drama!
Hope that this helps! :D
2006-12-31 01:38:18 · answer #5 · answered by kitties_n_llamas(Becca) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your afraid of the unknown afraid of getting hurt again. you need not worry bout the last relationship and move on cause if you dont you will never know if you 2 were meant to be
2006-12-31 01:14:04 · answer #6 · answered by stephanie miller 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does sound like both of you are trying to be careful...but...if you don't take a chance you will never know. Start out as friends and see what happens. Good luck!
2006-12-31 01:14:26 · answer #7 · answered by smiley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay friends for a while give him room also you don't want a on the boundary relationship
2006-12-31 01:14:05 · answer #8 · answered by DJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I don't think ya'll are playen with each other, just scared.Just give it more time it will eventually happen.Just what you said though is not the time yet.Good Luck.
2006-12-31 01:14:53 · answer #9 · answered by hclover21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did u and him experience any sexual actitvities?Since he wants a relationship, then go and try.Its fun exciting and can learn from him and he can learn from u too.
2006-12-31 02:02:32 · answer #10 · answered by chasen54 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋