Hey I was hooking up with a guy who recently had to deal with getting a girl pregnant and dealing with that. He said he didn't want to enter a relationship. And this past semester he was trying to focus on school work and said that he didn't want me to have feelings for him. Even though he himself had to take a break because things were screwing with his head. Well he moved out of the dorm we live in and he will be in another city doing an internship, but he will be visiting alot. When he last talked he was more friendly and even used the word "babe" when we said bye. Which he had never done before. And he told me he would like to see me again. His friend and roommate is interested in me, and he asked me if I liked him or not. I said no, and me said that yeah I must like him. My thinking is if I am just a girl that he wants to hook up with why bother, he is just going to find someone else or he will find someone that he likes. Why even bother with me? What should I do?
2006-12-30 17:02:08 · 9 answers · asked by Kat 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The pregnancy was eventually terminated.
2006-12-30 17:04:41 · update #1
And it's not that I want him in a relationship, I know what he went through is something that he may never get over. I just don't know if I should stick with him or not.
2006-12-30 17:07:04 · update #2
yup, just a booty call.
2006-12-30 17:11:55 · answer #1 · answered by brown eyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you already know the answer to this question ... if he can't make time for you, has other stuff to deal with (read having unprotected sex with another girl - who was not you - resulting in pregancy) and doesn't want a relationship then it sounds clear - he is not that into you and wanting to hook up for sex. Why would you want to be anywhere around this guy? I'd be counting my lucky stars as it is that you were not the other girl that wound up pregnant. Run, do not walk, in the opposite direction and don't look back. You're right, he'll find someone else - as will you. And when you find the next person, make sure he has the decency to respect you and be able to offer you what you need in a relationship - like honesty, trust, emotional stability, etc.
Addendum - If you don't want him for a relationship and you know that he may never be able to get over stuff to be in a relationship then it seems very clear that the situation is heading no where, so why would you waste your time and stick around for that?
2006-12-30 17:18:01 · answer #2 · answered by K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men will go an hour for some easy s e x...of course.
There is no strings attached because he has told you he is not going to be in a serious relationship with you.
As far as him calling you 'babe', well so what?
He is getting s e x from you without having the responsibility of being your boyfriend, he is going to talk sweet to you to keep you on the line.
I'd let him be, and stop messing around with him, or else your already strong feelings are going to get even stronger and you will be really hurt in the long run.
2006-12-30 17:09:03 · answer #3 · answered by ♥♥ Nikki ♥♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Miss Booty, sounds like to me he is sending out signals that he's not looking for anything serious. Don't read in to it more than that. If you have questions why don't you just come out and ask him. All he is offering right now is nothing and he has a kid. Do you want some guy who has to pay child support to some other woman, I think you need to find someone more mature and closer to home.
2006-12-30 17:06:53 · answer #4 · answered by Serinity4u2find 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like to me if it's true that his roomate and friend likes you he might have a bet on you to see if he can get you before they do.And if he did ask you if you like him than that right there really sounds like a bet no guy would just come out in say that if there roomates and friends didn't like you.If a guy really likes you and if he wanted to know if you really like him than he would wait for awhile to see if things go right.That's all but you never know I could be wrong.Good Luck
2006-12-30 17:10:56 · answer #5 · answered by hclover21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT REALLY SOUND LIKE IT WILL BE A BOOTY CALL. AND THAT NOT WHAT YOU NEED. HE HAS SOME THINGS THAT
HE NEED TO WORK OUT, WITH THIS OTHER GIRL, JUST
BECAUSE SHE DID NOT HAVE THE CHILD DOES NOT MEAN
THAT THEY DONT STILL HAVE ISSUES WITH EACH OTHER
FOR NOW LEAVE IT ALONG, AND SEE DOWN THE ROAD
WHERE THIS MAY GO.
2006-12-30 17:08:25 · answer #6 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds pretty irresponsible. Why are you having sex with a guy like that? And why have sex so soon? Why would you want to get in a relationship with him? Good grief! I think you should leave him alone! Good night!
2006-12-30 17:08:03 · answer #7 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have that same problem and he dosent have time for a relationship. We just wanted to have friends that are girls. Also us guys like to flirt.
2006-12-30 17:07:57 · answer #8 · answered by Danny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
an hour away, that's not even long distance. you can work it out.
2006-12-30 17:05:36 · answer #9 · answered by little asian gal in cresent city 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋