Same problem, same boy, same tears?

Question

We broke up. One min he wants to be with me and around me adn the next he cant make time for me at all.

Last night i went over there to get a cd before play pratice.. when its time for me to leave he tells me not to.. to stay with him. so i do. imagine that.Then tells me to stay the night. i knew i couldnt do that tho. he tells me he loves me. he kisses me like he means it.

and not tonight. he cant talk to me for 5 lousey mins.

What have i done wrong? why am i the feeling liek i did somthing wrong?



Im crying. im hurt.

I love him.


It was suppose to be us forever. he said soo...




And now im alone.



I cant imagine any other guy in his spot..

Hes "the one"

We dont have sex.

So hes not keeping me around for that.

Answer 1

Love is patient, Love is kind, it doesn't envy it doesn't boast. It isn't proud, it isn't rude. It is not easily angered and keeps no records of wrongs. Love don't delight in evil but rejoices in the truth.
If it is Love, be patient. He will come through.

Answer 2

it sounds like you have an old male and a young female, old enough to be her great grandpa. You might be running into the fishy equivalent of the same problems such a pairing might have in a species more familiar to us, even our own. Sweetie, you have made a big mistake something i did a few years ago, NEVER put a female and a male betta in together unless you know how to breed them and are ready to breed them and based on the info. you gave us i would say your not and your male is probably depressed because now that the female is there and there are eggs the male feels his territory taken and he won't attack the female because she will most probably kill him on the spot, it's either the male dies or you move him to another tank and feed him some good food, and for your betta your could even...if you have a big tank around 30gal...put a diffrent breed of fish that looks diffrent from your betta and is not aggressive, and for the other fish's sake not to shiny, by the way don't put your male or female in a community tank, they both will probably get too aggresive, especially the male because his previous place was taken Source(s): nothing, I have 10 betta's all in different tanks...i research them You can't keep male and females together. Even if trying to breed them, you condition each until they are exactly ready to spawn and then put them together for a very short period of time until they spawn, then remove the female again. Even so, both end up quite beat up in the process. Separate the female at once if you want them to live. Then you might need to treat for fin rot if your male has fin rot. It might be that the female beat him up overnight too. Sometimes the females are a bit larger with smaller fins and are able to really beat the crap out of the male. Sometimes it's the female who gets hurt. Your betta has fin rot. Add aquarium salt and do frequent water changes. Get that female out of there!! You should never put a male and female betta together unless they were properly conditioned to spawn.

Answer 3

Then you better get used to being used and set aside whenever he's done with you.Does he ever change his plans for you?Do you want to live a life doing everything he wants and nothing you want?Better get a good book to read while you're alone. You will be spending the rest of your life like this.Been there, stupidly done that until I woke up!Get some friends,go out and enjoy life! Do things to make yourself happy and quit thinking you need someone else. Good Luck!

Answer 4

I'm in a similar situation. I think that guys just get really weird around this time of year for some reason and I don't know why. Make yourself not so available to him and tell him that he needs to decide what he wants because you're not just going to be there when he decides he wants you around. You're better than that and you deserve a guy who loves you ALL the time, not just when it's convenient for him. I need to take my own advice.....it's hard though. Good luck.

Answer 5

He needs tough love. Be patient with him. Keep paying attention to him, but don't be in too much of a hurry with him. Boys like cool girls. Cool girls know how and when to say no. The end of a night is never the end of the world. True lovers get mad at each other plenty of times. Just keep that in mind the next time he gets mad at you.

Answer 6

If he's the one, he seems to be playing with you little tease her and there. I would start ignoring him, tell him your busy, find other things to do. If he wants you let him come to you. he thinks he has you in the palm of his hands, make him want you, make him think of you every minute of the day. Send him messages. Like... use your imagination. Stop crying! Quit feeling sorry for yourself. Be more confident. Accept yourself, know your beautiful, know that your deserve respect, know what you want first. Then go from there.

Answer 7

i know you dont want to hear this but if he keeps doing this over and over drop him his not worth ur time.. your to good for him.. you will find someone even better and that wants to be with you. But if you wont leave him do this stop all talk for a week or so depening on how much you talk to him from day to day then answer the phone if he asked where you been sya something to this... out with the girls or just out , been busy make him want you..

Answer 8

He is playing hard to get that way you will put up with his crap and he doesn't have to act like he really cares about you. If you let him do this it wont get better. Next time don't melt when he tries to kiss you act like its no big deal then he will realizer that he is going to let the best thing he ever had get away.

Answer 9

sorry sweetie, he is a jerk and a user. think for a minute if you were living together and he treated you like this. This is how abuse starts. He has you on a string like a fish and all he has to do is tug and you come running. Sorry to say males do not think with their hearts, we ain't built that way especially when we are young. Forget him there are many of more fish in the sea

Answer 10

No offense but he may not be the one. I'd give it until tomorrow then I would call and say I wanted to know what was going on between us. If all he can say is something stupid or let you go, move on. If he really cares for you he will call back.