The house is great 4br 2ba fireplace near downtown everything we wanted for a lesser price. But, my parents live across the street. My husband has a good relationship w/ them.I just don't want that to end. We want the house. What?
2006-12-30 16:49:56 · 16 answers · asked by kymkim1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If you have to ask, then the problem is probably no.
Your parents would know a whole lot more about you if you lived so close, and if you and your husband value your privacy, that could be a bad thing. Do your parents ever comment negatively on things you do now? If so, they'll do a whole lot more of that if you are nearer to them. Do you plan to raise your kids the way your parents raised you? If not, don't move across from them - this will cause problems.
On the other hand, if your parents are not intrusive, and you might in the future need them as handy babysitters, and if you and your husband could more readily do things for them, this could be a good deal.
You just have to evaluate things very carefully before making this decision.
Also if my husband were looking over my shoulder he'd say the housing market has not hit bottom yet so if you wait a while longer to buy a house you'll save a whole lotta money. See there - a bit of financial advice along with the nugget of family wisdom...
2006-12-30 16:55:15 · answer #1 · answered by Cris O 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want (and can afford the home) .. then go for it .. but be very aware that you/your husband and the parents need to set certain boundaries on when either couple will visit the other in their home ...
IF you do that up front and with clear and simple boundaries (like no 'just popping over' for a minute -- most neighbors do not do that) .. then this could be a good situation all around for both couples.
2006-12-30 18:01:55 · answer #2 · answered by sglmom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have an excellent relationship then go for it!!
Personally I would NOT want to live across the street from my parents or my parents-in-law. A few streets down, ok. Across town, good!
Reference the Everybody Loves Raymond comment an above answerer made.
2006-12-31 01:23:42 · answer #3 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! NO! NO! That's just toooooo close. Both couples need their own space. Live close enough so it isn't a big deal (like long drive or plane ride) to visit or to help each other when needed. But to see them and every thing they do when you look our your front windows, and vice versa. If they don't approve of what your kids wear, or who they play with, you are asking for trouble. And what if your parents throw a lot of parties, or he mows the yard without a shirt on and you think he should wear a shirt.... Also, when we became empty nesters, we had to work at our marriage instead of filling up our time with the kids. We had to come up with our own activities. Our love and love life sparked. After 20 yrs of having the kids around, we were paying attention to each other instead of them. Our lives revolve around each other instead of soccer practices and games and teen friends, etc.
2006-12-30 17:00:57 · answer #4 · answered by old beatnik 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the house is everything you want and a ggod price too then go for it. You'll just have to work out how your familly relations are going to work with you being so close all the time. But then, you've lived with them for-ever anyways, so what is the problem???
2006-12-31 09:01:34 · answer #5 · answered by al b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your husband has a good relationship with your parents,then I say go for it.But just make sure that you explain to your parents that you are going to respect their privacy as long as they continue to respect yours,because you live across the street does'nt mean that they drop in anytime they want to and you do the same,it never hurts to call first or knock before entering,just be sure to give each other the shared respect.Good Luck!
2006-12-30 18:16:00 · answer #6 · answered by Jeannie P82199 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
as long as you set boundaries like we would love you to come over just not live at our place - we have gotten my mum to come and live with us - but she has her own living space and meals so we can be totally separated or together but we have space and that's wot you must make sure you have - your parents wont want you there all the time =either - but when kids come along the sitter is only across the road.
2006-12-30 16:53:42 · answer #7 · answered by JACKIE L 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why not? The house sounds great and is near your family in case you or they need anything. I don't see a problem with that. Go for it!
2006-12-30 16:58:42 · answer #8 · answered by ♪♫♫♪ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok well are you close with your parents if you are then go for it! it sounds like a great place and i mean you dont have to like see them everyday and your husband doesnt have to talk to them go for what is best for u it sounds like a good house for u though!
best of wishes!!
2006-12-30 16:57:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the relationship with your parents
2006-12-30 16:52:30 · answer #10 · answered by *sexy mocha* 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋