HELP!!
2006-12-30 16:47:52 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
advice, give the newborn up for adoption. ????
2006-12-30 17:06:25 · update #1
I am not really sure what you are asking either....Is your b/f the father of the baby...is he a good man?...Have you thought of marrying him?...would he be a good dad to all kids?...What issues do the two children have??....
I have been through alot of cr*p when younger..and am blessed to now have the hubby that I do...I might could give you some advise, but am just not sure what you are asking?
Adoption is a wonderful option if you don't feel you can properly care for this baby. There are a lot of couples wanting children soo bad that are unable to. We have been trying for a year for #4, with no luck, but I have 3 others...I can't imagine what it must be like to have NONE and want soo much...Go with adoption if you can't keep it. Bless someone else with the blessing you have been given. :-)
2006-12-30 16:58:40 · answer #1 · answered by PennyPickles17 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should not listen to these people that say 'marry him'. That is very old school to think that you should depend on a man. If you allow yourself to get desperate and marry him because you are scared... then you will be dependent on him. If he becomes rude to you or your kids. You will feel stuck. You can do it. Many single mom's out there. I am a mom of a seven year old. I am pregnant with my second. I don't have a boyfriend anymore. Also, I will not be getting child support for this child, and I also don't receive for my first child anymore either. Once you accept it.. you will be fine. If you decide to give it up, then have confidence that you did what is best. Keep it or give it up, I know that you can find peace in either. You can 'make it' with flying colors either way. You are just panicing right now. You will be fine
2006-12-30 17:10:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you think you can take care of the baby? If not, give the baby up for adoption. I am pregnant right now with baby number 3 and I am not married either, but that is the choice I made and I live by that. You do what is right for you. It is a struggle and it is hard, but my children are healthy and smart and I love teaching them and hopefully when I am old, they will change my depends (smile).
2006-12-30 18:18:46 · answer #3 · answered by SINGLEMOM4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
please please give this kid up for adoption. And then go on birth control. Adoption will be the best gift you can give to this child. You already have TWO "with issues". Is another child in the mix going to help the other two? Doubt it. Your two kids already probably need more attention than they get. Now you will have to spread your time to cover three kids??? AND a boyfriend? No way sister. If you love your kids, and i know you do....... look into adoption.
2007-01-06 20:16:38 · answer #4 · answered by Penny P 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your boyfriend need to discuss what options you have. You already have two children. If you have this next child, will they suffer. Will the infant suffer? Daycare is expensive. Now times that by three.
Giving up your child for adoption is one good option to consider. There are so many people out in the world dying to have a child to love and to share their lives with... and they are unable to do so. With many open adoption agencies you pick the family and meet them before hand. If you choose you can have some visitation with your child as he/she grows up.
Please do not do an abortion. It is killing a human being.
I hope this helps
2006-12-30 17:38:30 · answer #5 · answered by Jeni W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is too late for birth control. Can you afford to raise this baby and give them the proper upbringing with depriving the other kids. Maybe you should consider open-adoption. There are alot of loving people who can not have children. Think about what is best for you and the kids you have.
2007-01-05 01:39:05 · answer #6 · answered by nj2pa2nc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel you manage to raise the baby, then try to parent. If not, then you should consider placing the child for adoption. The father of the baby must also be in favor of the adoption plan. We are looking to adopt...our website is http://ouradoptionplan.com. Good luck!
2006-12-31 02:34:21 · answer #7 · answered by Joanne D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take your vitamins. make sure you aren't doing anything that could harm your children, even the unborn one. no smoking around your children, no smoking while you're pregnant. don't waste money. try to save as much as you can, even if it's only 5 dollars a month. at least it would be a start. if your boyfriend is the father and refuses to help, put him on child support as soon as the baby's born. have a blood test if he doesn't think he's the father.
your question is so general i just put a few tips here. you probably already know these things though. if you put on something more specific, i'll try my best to answer your question if i see it on here.
2006-12-30 17:01:10 · answer #8 · answered by Annie Rod 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if you feel you can't raise another child put him/her up for adoption.My family adopted me 13 yrs ago and is trying to adopt again(open or private W/out agency).I know pretty much anything there is to know email me at wvcountrygirl_1993@yahoo.com if you want more info. Good luck
2006-12-31 18:59:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not need a boyfriend right now. Consider parenting classes. If you can handle getting your feeling hurt, listen to the Dr. Laura Schlessinger radio show. She will tell it like it is
2006-12-30 16:53:49 · answer #10 · answered by rainyday 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋