Should i ask for help or not?

Question

I am 14 yrs old and was raped by my step brother for 3 years when i was younger. I recently came out and told me dad n step mom about it. Which has led me to have serious depression. i already have cut myself 14 times and my dad thinks i cut myself 2 times. he said if he found out i did it again then he would take me to a psyciatrict hospital where i would spend a few days. I am quite scared of hospitals and stuff! and really dont wanna leave home! What should i do?

I am 14 years old and was raped by my step brother for 3yrs when i was younger and my mom died when i was 2 and my dad is an *** n my step sisters are SO mean and my step mom well i HATE her! My older brother is the only one i trust in my life! After all of these things, it lead me to severe depression! i have cut myself 14 times and my dad thinks i only cut myself twice! He said if he sees another cut then i was going to go to a psciatric hospital! i really DONT want to go because i don't want to leave the house! I know i have a problem obviously, but i'm scared that i will commit suicide, because i have tried SO many times but not succeded! Should i get help? or could you give me some advice?

Answer 1

It sounds like the question isn't whether you want to talk to someone, as much as who you feel you can talk to, & who might best be able to help ...

The following** 2 on-line article-series have been Very helpful to many! I'm going to suggest that you choose the ones that you feel or think apply to you, print these out, and ask whoever you choose to talk to about it, to go over the information with you. (They can be used as conversation-openers ... I realize that subjects like these are Very Difficult to broach.)

Protect Your Children!
- Your Child Is in Danger!
- How Can We Protect Our Children?
- Prevention in the Home
- Common Misconceptions
> If Your Child Is Abused <
http://watchtower.org/library/g/1993/10/8a/article_01.htm
http://www.jw-media.org/region/global/english/releases/educational/030514.htm

The Problems of Children ... :
- An Ongoing Search for Solutions
- Children Deserve to be Wanted and Loved
- The Solution at Last!
- Help for Young People
- The UN Declaration of the Rights of the Child
http://www.watchtower.org/library/g/2000/12/8/article_01.htm

Most of the following are meant more for you yourself ...

Why Does God Let Us Suffer?
- Facing Unpleasant Realities
- Is God to Blame?
- Why God Permits Evil
- Not Alone !
http://watchtower.org/library/g/2004/3/22/article_01.htm

[Feeling Lonely?]
http://www.watchtower.org/library/g/2004/6/8/article_01.htm

What Hope for Today's Youths? :
- The Tragedy of Youthful Deaths
- Suicide--A Scourge of Young People
- When Hope and Love Vanish, then Return
- Motivations for Suicide
- Some Indicators of Suicide
http://www.watchtower.org/library/g/1998/9/8/article_01.htm

Life IS Worth Living! :
- A Worldwide Problem
- Why People Give Up on Life
- You CAN Find Help!
** How Can You Help Someone Who Seems Suicidal?
- "Will God Forgive Me for Feeling This Way?"
http://www.watchtower.org/library/g/2001/10/22/article_01.htm

Comfort for Those With a "Stricken Spirit" ...
- "Repressed Memories"
- Did It Really Happen?
- Providing a Refuge
- Stay Spiritually Strong
- What of the Alleged Abuser?
http://www.watchtower.org/library/w/1995/11/1a/article_01.htm

How to Find Real Happiness
- Think of Your Spiritual Needs
- Keep your Life Simple
> Happiness and Self-Worth <
- Hope--Vital to Happiness
http://www.watchtower.org/library/w/2001/3/1/article_02.htm

Hope--Where Can You Find It? :
- Does Hope Really Make a Difference?
- Why Do We Need Hope?
- You CAN Fight Pessimism
> Where You CAN Find REAL Hope! <
http://watchtower.org/e/20040422/article_01.htm

Added:

When Someone You Love Dies :
- "It Can't Be True!"
- Is It Normal to Feel This Way?
- How Can I Live With My Grief?
- How Can Others Help?
> A Sure Hope for the Dead <
- Some Practical Suggestions
- Helping Children Deal With Death
- Texts That Comfort
http://watchtower.org/e/we/index.htm

Even though you were only 2yo when your mother died, I'm sure you miss knowing her personally!

I ask the following Q because I've personally known of cases that it was true of ...

Is it possible that you Resent either your Dad for remarrying, or your Stepmother for 'taking your Mom's place'?

IF so, it is Adding to your problems.
You mght want to try sharing with them your feelings, without accusing them. Telling them you need their help, but that this resentment is getting in the way, Big time.

(Some of the Webpage^addresses may be modified soon, at which time the Advanced Search at http://watchtower.org/search/search_e.htm will find the new URLs.)

Answer 2

I wish I could give you a good answer. Once you get a social worker or Psychiatrist involved, you yourself could find yourself trapped in the "system" for quite some time, when in fact, it is your step brother who should get into trouble.

A Christian counselor maybe able to help you process the thoughts of betrayal you had, and this was not your fault.

Generally, a trip to thehospital is a three day lock down, but it starts a profile on you, and everytime something goes wrong in the future, they will put you in a hospital again.

So, talk to a Christian counselor first. Maybe the older step brother needs to be dealt with, and he deserves it.

Answer 3

My first psychiatric hospitalization was when I was 13 and it wasn't so bad. You'd be placed with other young people and you would be safe. I think a psychiatrist and a hospitalization could really help you out. Don't rule it out as a way to help.

Answer 4

i used to suffer from very severe depression, i was 13 my parents divorced and my dad became an alcoholic, they got me counseling and everything, nothing helped, i turned to drugs, did LSD thought it saved me, in some ways it did but brought more drugs on to me, got pretty crazy into that ****, did LSD again around the age of 17 and 3 months, sat in my room by myself and thought for hours, read articles on how to be happy, how to be social, how to love, and how to forgive, the next day snapped me right the hell out of depression, i was a new man

Answer 5

Why would you be 'scared of hospitals and stuff' ? What could they possibly do to you thats worse than what you do to yourself? Yes, you know you need help. You have already started seeking help here. Good Luck.

Answer 6

Yes you need to ask for help. Your mother and stepdad should have immediately got you into counseling when you told them. If they won't get help for you then talk to the school counselor and they will help you to get the help you need. You do not need to be in a psych hospital to get help. You can see a counselor in a clinic however often the counselor feels you need to be seen. Speak up and ask for help.

Answer 7

you can go to a doctor or a phycatrist but the important thing is to have control on you and need not take a wrong dicision and then you should test that you are safe sexually and not have a positive test and then you should check yourself for AIDs

Answer 8

get help as soon as you can... i know exactl what you're going through... seriously i was molested when younger... and i was a self mutulater! so i now it's really hard to quit cutting! your parents just don't understand what you went through and what your going threw! if you can't trust them tell someone you trust. get help now... if you need any support feel free to email me

Answer 9

Sounds to me like you need to talk to a pschologist about what has happened to you and for God's sake, QUIT CUTTING.

Answer 10

PLEASE allow yourself to receive help and know that you deserve to have and live a life free of abuse but filled with hope and a sense of safety.