My Sig Other seems to have a real attitude since I have lost a lot weight (eg.being controlling of little things , generally nhappy w. me , not happy with my appearance , igoreing when i dress nice , not wanting to go out) (was over 200 now 155-160) ...WTF ? ANybody have any idea what i should do , why he is acting this way ? It dosnt make sense to me.
2006-12-30 16:43:07 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
From what I know, he's a bit jealous, insecure, and he's probably afraid you might leave him. He may be angry when you look good because other men may be taking notice of your looks. It's strange but not all men don't want their wife to look her best.
Some husbands have been know to encourage their wives to gain some weight. Why? These husbands believe their larger wives stand less of a chance of cheating on them. Also, they believe a slimmer woman has more self-esteem, and with that the slimmer wives are more likley to split.
I don't know what the remedy is but I'll tag this board to see if someone comes up with an answer that worth a thought.
You'll get a ton of people who'll say confront him, and if that's what you end up doing then you will have to approach him in a friendly and nice manner. Many arguements occur in a marriage because of the way one spouse confronts another with an issue.
2006-12-30 17:10:02 · answer #1 · answered by m8xpayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change is hard for people and it sounds like you went through a big one. He's still likely getting used to the new you and the fact that you're likely also drawing a lot of attention from everyone around you due to your weight loss. Your new appearance might also make him feel a little insecure or inadequate because you've worked so hard to better yourself and he hasn't done anything ( has he?). You should lightly bring it up and see where the conversation goes. Or maybe buy something sexy and have an intimate night just to let him know that you're still in love with him and nothing has changed except now his girl is hot hot hotter!
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2016-05-20 02:47:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is insecure with your weight loss. If he was nice to you before you lost weight-like he complemented you and told you that you were pretty--then baby him and let him know that you love him even more because he has been there with you the whole time.
Give him a little while to adjust and don't bait him--don't dress up nice just to see if he will notice.
2006-12-30 16:49:51 · answer #4 · answered by MamaCat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, Maybe he is a bit wary that now you've lost the weight you'll leave him and meet someone else. so he's trying to grind u down sooo that u gain the weight back and then go back to the size u were, i think sometimes guys are with bigger girls because they think because of their size they won't lose them. so now you've lost the weight he'll be thinkin uh oh i better do something .. as he's no longer in charge of u and he knows it, well done on your weightloss though.. he should be supporting u telling u how nice u look etc etc
happy new year
Hannah x
2006-12-30 16:56:58 · answer #5 · answered by Hannah R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys like a little meat on their bone(I'm some guys btw)
although a buck and a half is plenty. Maybe he's afraid you'll run into "some guys"
2006-12-30 16:57:04 · answer #6 · answered by your_name_here 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That happens in some relationships when one makes a radical change. This might be forcing him to look at himself in a different light or he might be feeling insecure. It is hard to believe because he should be rejoicing that you made this change but he is in fact adjusting to it and well maybe even rebelling against it.
2006-12-30 16:49:36 · answer #7 · answered by S0LYMAR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may feel that he will lose you since you are becomming more attractive (not that a 200lbs person is not attractive). Reassure him ur not going anywhere and just talk to him about how he is feeling. Good Luck
2006-12-30 16:49:22 · answer #8 · answered by LadyofLuxury 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Walk at least 15 mins after your meals
2016-04-10 04:58:33 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stand up and walk atleast 5 mins after evry 2 hours while working
2016-03-03 01:45:02 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋