Why guys don't know the meaning of the word "NO"?

Question

There is this guy that shops at my job, he tried to hit on me, I think he is at least 15-20 years older than me and I'm not even slightly interested in guys that old.I normally give a resounding "HELL NO!!" in cases like this,but since he shops at my job often, I don't want any trouble,So being the nice person that I am,I try to give obvious but non verbal hints that I don't like him,but he didn't get the message.So When he gives me his contact info, I take it,thinking that if I don't contact him,he'll really get the message.I realized this didn't work when weeks later I see him again.As my stomach acids churn from my anger,He asks with concern that he didn't see me in a long time and what happened(I WORK PART TIME YOU F%$! DUMMY!!!)is what I wanted to say but instead,I said,I was having some issues.We talked some and he offered to drive me to the train station which I declined.He even wanted to meet me at the station I said yes but I left him hangin':) Guysdon't know the word "No"why?

Answer 1

Hi there,without judging you i beleive the biggest problem here is that because as you say , you try to be a nice person you have not been bluntely honest or direct enough with this person, allowing him to keep the window of opportunity open. Also keep in mind although you have offered nonverbal mesages to him expressing lack of interest he mat not be reading them clearly. My advice to you as hard as it may seem is to nip the matter in the bud a.s.a.p as you are growing angry and being direct is the only way. Don't make anymore statements such as you have a few issues ect as he may see you as needing a shoulder to cry on or it could give him the impression your not up for anything at the moment but once you have worked through those issues he may be a chance. Trust me the kind of person your talking about will hold on to the tiniest thing !!!. Next time you see him be if you feel uncomfortable telling him the truth mention to him that you have a new boyfriend and that you are meeting him after work. Just to finish i am a little like yourself when it comes to not wanting to hurt peoples feelings or come accross rude , however often enough you end up losing as these situations start out small but like your situation it ends up snowballing making you angry and possibly turning on a person because they are simply unclear. Making you feel doubly bad because as you said at the end of the day you are a nice person. goodluck

Answer 2

As one said just plain stupid. Or they only hear what they want to hear. Please be careful with this guy. With him not getting the hint, and constantly on you, he just doesn't sound right. When I was younger, about 10, sounds old huh? I was 19 or 20, I saw a guy at a gas station. Not wanting to be absolutely rude, I spoke to him about 5 minutes. I must of forgotten I told him where I worked, and the next day, 2 dozen roses were delivered to my work. I honestly did not know who it was from, never gave that guy a second thought, or his name. Thankfully, I worked at a Gym. So after getting the flowers, they said I had a phone call. It was him. So my boss, the 300lb. body builder got on the phone and told him to never contact me again. The first 24 girls I saw, got a very beautiful rose. I wanted nothing more to do with it. So that is my story. He gave me a bad feeling, and I felt only talking with me for 5 min. then sending me flowers, just justified how I felt. He was an odd one. Don't allow this to go on. Talk with your boss. I'm sure he is more concerned with your safety, then ONE customer. Good Luck.

Answer 3

In this case, he doesn't understand the word 'no' because you never actually used it.

Us guys aren't too good at reading signals. By taking his info, you made it seem as if you're playing hard-to-get.

Specifically tell him 'Look, you're a nice enough guy, but I'm not interested.' and leave it at that.

Now, if he still doesn't get the picture, play little miss' lesbian and find a female friend of yours that can pretend to be your girlfriend when he's around.

Answer 4

you are able to tell while a guy loves you by utilising the way he treats you/flirts with you, desires to be around you all the time. telephones you familiar. desires to work out you as much as conceivable. seem at how he's with YOU after which you will understand, have faith your gut instinct. xx

Answer 5

Why not tell him a Little white lie like , My boyfriend is very
jealous He is 6ft 4 -240lbs A Cop, Body Builder , Karate
teacher, etc something like that .Or sorry but I a very
Careful about strangers..Or F**** OFF

Answer 6

First if you continue to talk to him he may think you are playing hard to get. YOU MUST 1 tell your manager or supervisor NOW, this guy may be a problem, and sexual harassment by a customer is not going to be tolerated by any company. Second make a record of your past conversations with him and third STOP talking to him, tell him I am not interested in any type of relationship, please leave me alone.

Answer 7

Sometimes people interpret niceness as interest. That's why I make it a rule to never oggle, flirt with, or proposition waitresses, clerks, and so on. They are paid to be nice, they don't deserve to be made uncomfortable at their job.

Answer 8

yeah....that guy is without a doubt stupid, next time you see him tell him that you are not interested at all and if that doesn't work threaten to call the police if he doesn't stop hitting on you (it is a form of harassment if you clearly stated that you are not interested and it persists)

Answer 9

I know!! I would be open with him and tell him you are not interested!! You go girl!! You seem nice!! Try to tell him really soon or he will get the wrong message!! Good Luck!! : )

Answer 10

we males are idiots and we love to hunt, not matter what the prey does we still go after it. u should tell someone that u work with and they can help u with this situation. good luck and have a happy new year.