ive never been in love , not even close but what i have mistaken for love has riped me apart. So what would love do to me? Leave a shell of the person i was? Or leave nothing at all. Im barley gettin threw life as it is i dont need to get threw "love" too. Why's it got to be so hard? whys it got to hurt you so much and tare you apart? Please some one just answer me that WHY? F UCKING WHY?????????????
2006-12-30 16:21:09 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I wish i knew the answer to that question as well. I fell in love for the first time and i thought it was great, felt like i was on top of the world but then the further the relationship got the harder it got and the more issues surfaced. Love is such a complicated thing, its so scary for anyone because you are putting your heart in the hands of somebody else hoping that they dont break it. I was with her for 5 and a half yrs and she broke my heart, it took so long to get over the pain of that breakup but i managed to and even though i promised id never love any girl again, i fell in love with an amazing woman whom i will spend the rest of my life with.
Yes love hurts badly because you put so much emotion into one person that they become your life and without them you dont know what ud do..its a horrible experience and i dont know why it hurts but it hurts and i hate for anyone to have to experience it. Eventually things do get better though, love hurts but in time there will be somebody that you love so much and they will love you in return and the pain will be worth it.
2006-12-30 16:26:42 · answer #1 · answered by JMan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have never been in love how would you know what it feels like...LOVE DOES HURT but it also makes a person who they are what they hope too become and what they leave behind when they are gone...without love the world would be a different place than it is now..
You may of had alot of bad relationships and unfortunately in life that happens IT SUCKS but it happens.. It tears you apart because that makes you feel and too feel in life does cause pain it hurts because its supposed too hurt when you love someone but the hurt and the pain and the tears is just one part of love there also the happyiness when someone holds you in there arms the first kiss the first time you make love all of which is good things and if you find the right one for you it lasts a lifetime.BUt too have love you get good times and bad times as a package you cant have one or the over you get both together and somedays you feel great and over days it feels like hell....
I've been in love and out of love now im alone and you know something if I look back on all the chances I had too make those relationships workout for the better I wouldnt of changed a thing.cause love isnt just a word its a meaning so do yourself a favour dont ask yourself WHY ******* WHY ask yourself this is there still time for me too find the ideal partner for yourself and find out for yourself what the true meaning of love is...Cause until u've felt it or you've tasted it only then can you throw it too one side and say its not for me...
Love is hard but it kind be kind aswell the next time your out in town take a good look around you look for a couple holding hands or kissing each other in the open that is love its incomplete but complete at the same time its saddness and happyiness and joy all wrapped up into one that is love and oneday i hope you find it...happy new year...
2006-12-30 16:39:52 · answer #2 · answered by mitch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
...Love is the greatest of these. 1st Corinthians chapter 13. Love is often the hardest emotion because its not just you that has to feel that way. If you show to much, or too little you often scare the other person away and then you are hurt. When love fails it hurts more then anything eles, because you cant fix it on your own. The real problem is Trust, you have to trust them and they you are it doesnt work. Most people 1 don't trust others so the lie about who they are, and 2 arent willing to go after someone they should trust in the first place, with women its the bad boy,then they don't know why it didnt work.
2006-12-30 16:52:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life will always challenge you..
You have to just suck it up & keep going.
Heart ache is the worst feeling, They come & they go.
Someday you will find that special someone, but for the time being. This awful feeling your going threw will soon pass. You just have to be strong & not let it get the best of you.
Getting your heart broken is like a cut...it takes time to heal.
As for your question, No & Yes
I'm 16, & I am in mad love. I as well have the fear of him leaving me , I am afraid of love. Arn't we all? We all have the fear of heart ache. Why? Because it is a possiblity. You have to be whilling to take such a risk. That is if you truly care for this person.
Good luck dear I wish you all the luck
2006-12-30 16:35:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because life is hard girlie. However, you have to understand that love is the one thing that is capable of making you feel horrible and wonderful by the same token. It hurts but name something worth a lot that doesn't. For example, shots are a little painful but they protect you from illnesses that can do far more damage than a small sting. Nothing easy is worth much to you. So remember that and know that if it doesn't take some effort its not worth much.
2006-12-30 16:26:50 · answer #5 · answered by Mille_D-Gurl08 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be afraid not of love but to love..I was afraid because when you love someone, you make yourself vulnerable. You put your heart on the table and open yourself up for another being to read like an open book. Your secrets are out and you are not immune to being hurt. Now, this other person has the power not you.
To not be afraid,you have to learn,love, and accept yourself. Only then does everything else fall in place.
2006-12-30 16:29:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone is afraid of love, nobody wants there heart broken so its not only u. this is exactly how i feel. i went to one of my good friends for advice and she told me that on day you'll find a guy that loves u and a guy that understands u. wait and be patient i no its hard im going through it right now. im caught in a love triangle of four. yes i no a triangle only has 3 sides lol. thats why its so complicated. the best advice anyone could give u is BE PATIENT u will find the right guy to love forever
2006-12-30 16:29:07 · answer #7 · answered by britnit99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because human beings are f ucked in the head
as Hemmingway says: life breaks everyone, but some get hard in the broken parts
2006-12-30 16:36:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Were all afraid to love and not be loved or to love and be dumped but this is the way it is and it never stops even when your grown and married the hurt is still sometimes there i cant explain why i dont think anyone really can but you will heal
2006-12-30 16:27:09 · answer #9 · answered by ibebarbie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im afraid of it one time this guy dumped me after a day but dont worry about it guys can be so stupid but once you get that felling that you know hes the one then you will know your in love just wait for the right person wait for a kiss that you have never felt or a some kind of nervos ness that you have never felt before then you will know hes the one and you might be with him telll you grow old or you might just be with that one for a verylong time just wait he will come to you
2006-12-30 16:27:06 · answer #10 · answered by cassy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋